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Tarquin: *“You are being rude. I don’t think it matters whether I have “BEEN” to any LGBT support group or not, as far as the discussion is concerned. But so you and others who are so emotionally wrapped up in the issue that they can’t think straight, can pay attention to what my actual words are, instead of what they imagine my feelings and unstated opinions are, yes, I have. So let’s see if gnosisofthomas takes your experience or mine as the basis for accusing one of us as saying “all gays” are like that.
I obviously use the word “epidemic” differently from you. Violence and harrasment against gays isn’t all that widespread where I live. I’ve searched for reports of epidemic violence and harassment against gays in the Washington, D.C. area, but the search has so far not been very productive. Perhaps you would provide some links to reports that I could examine. Thanks “*
EmperorNapoleon posted, “I don’t see gay gangs publicly torturing heterosexuals in public and broad daylight.”
Gnosisofthomas, separating the emotional issues related to societal rejection from the issues of sexual intercourse, posted, “You do realise that homosexuality and transsexuality are two different things, right? Honestly (and unfortunately) the gay/lesbian/bi community is often quite hostile to transgender people. . . . Just because you can’t understand how someone could feel unhappy with their sex, doesn’t mean you should diminish their own feelings on the matter.”
(By the way, I have learned that people rarely do things “just because” of any single reason, but for a complex of reasons. In other words, I believe rejection of homosexual intercourse is not based on the single issue of “understanding” how gays and lesbians “feel.” Appeals to emotions are no longer as persuasive to me as when I was more hormonal than reasonable.)
Tarquin posted,* “Not where I’m at. They have their meetings and parties together, on campus and off. See, I won’t make what is true in specific instances, into a false “universal.” I mentioned two cases, and it got blown into a false universal. You can identify not a single, real, documented case of gay-transgender hostility at all.”*
I was responding basically to EmperorNapoleon’s post about not seeing gays torturing heterosexuals, and less immediately to GnosisofThomas’ post about gay-transgender hostility.
“or part of the community” - Now of course it does matter whether a person has “been to a support group or part of the community.” I did not deny that. What I denied was your original statement:
I obviously use the word “epidemic” differently from you. Violence and harrasment against gays isn’t all that widespread where I live. I’ve searched for reports of epidemic violence and harassment against gays in the Washington, D.C. area, but the search has so far not been very productive. Perhaps you would provide some links to reports that I could examine. Thanks “*
The rudeness in your post was not in any “emphasis on a word.” I should probably have pointed out any particular word or emphasis that was improper. As it is, I see I should have been specific anyway. Look at the history that led to my statement.Putting emphasis on a word is not being rude; would you prefer I used italics next time?![]()
EmperorNapoleon posted, “I don’t see gay gangs publicly torturing heterosexuals in public and broad daylight.”
Gnosisofthomas, separating the emotional issues related to societal rejection from the issues of sexual intercourse, posted, “You do realise that homosexuality and transsexuality are two different things, right? Honestly (and unfortunately) the gay/lesbian/bi community is often quite hostile to transgender people. . . . Just because you can’t understand how someone could feel unhappy with their sex, doesn’t mean you should diminish their own feelings on the matter.”
(By the way, I have learned that people rarely do things “just because” of any single reason, but for a complex of reasons. In other words, I believe rejection of homosexual intercourse is not based on the single issue of “understanding” how gays and lesbians “feel.” Appeals to emotions are no longer as persuasive to me as when I was more hormonal than reasonable.)
Tarquin posted,* “Not where I’m at. They have their meetings and parties together, on campus and off. See, I won’t make what is true in specific instances, into a false “universal.” I mentioned two cases, and it got blown into a false universal. You can identify not a single, real, documented case of gay-transgender hostility at all.”*
I was responding basically to EmperorNapoleon’s post about not seeing gays torturing heterosexuals, and less immediately to GnosisofThomas’ post about gay-transgender hostility.
Sigh. By reading reports, books, journals, and speaking with those who have been there. I do not need to “go into gay neighborhoods.” Gays are not living in Warsavian ghettos. They live in apartments and homes the same as every other person, whether sexually normal or sexually deviant. A “gay gang” lived in my friend’s house and I got to know them fairly well. And I have had other connections that are my own business which do not relate to the issues at hand any more than my friend’s neighbors relates to them.It does matter if you’ve been to a support group or part of the community; how do you know what gays say about transgender people if you never actually go into gay neighborhoods, meetings, or communities and talk to them?
“or part of the community” - Now of course it does matter whether a person has “been to a support group or part of the community.” I did not deny that. What I denied was your original statement:
It is the implication of that statement that I was saying was not necessary. You have changed your text now to include “or part of the community.” I never contradicted that statement because you hadn’t said it, so please stop making it sound like I was contradicting it. I was contradicting your original statement. When you modify or change a statement, you should make it clear that you are doing so. Otherwise, it looks like a “bait and switch” sort of tactic. If you no longer believe a person must have BEEN to an LGBT support group to understand the hostility (or lack thereof), then I thank you for agreeing with me. I don’t think a person has to go to one either, in order to know what is going on there. As for your new statement that a person might understand the overall community better by actually relating to that community (I would add - “either directly or indirectly!”), I will say, thanks for the new information, the new idea, the new suggestion. Don’t pretend it’s what you originally said, because you didn’t, and don’t pretend it’s what you meant, since it is not offered as a clarification but as a reiteration - a misreiteration.Have you BEEN to an LGBT support group?