But the real point is that God does what is best regardless of what we actually request, and that the point and purpose of prayer is not to get stuff or even help others, but to learn to focus on God rather than us.
If God and prayer were more consistently presented that way I don’t think this discussion would even be happening, I honestly think your view is the much more likely to be true version, and it’s
much more consistent with God’s other attributes. Ironically, if God always does what’s best, then we’d predict
no correlation between prayer and outcomes, and given that’s what we see it arguably
supports the point, or at least doesn’t contradict it and is entirely compatible. Essentially in my line of questions above, the answer to ‘are God’s responses to prayer distinguishable from chance?’ may in fact be ‘no’, since there’s simply no way to determine what is or isn’t, or as lelinator suggested, it’s just
all God. I think the issue especially to an outsider is that prayer absolutely looks like asking for things; bless this person, help that person, lift up the surgeon operating on Nana tomorrow so he does a good job. The serenity prayer feels like an outlier, as it’s about imparting the speaker with courage, peace and wisdom, it’s internal if nothing else.
I’ve actually always appreciated the line in, of all places, A Knight’s Tale.
"God save you, if it is right that He should do so. "