I am personally not a fan of all or nothing approaches. Raising my son, I followed my mother’s example of providing three balanced meals a day, an after school snack, and a small serving of dessert after dinner. Immediately after dinner, we all worked together to clean the kitchen and other than for a glass of water, the kitchen was closed for the night. We ate at the table always. We had a casual table in our family room so even if we wanted to watch something special on TV (not a regular thing) we sat at a table to eat and watch. Chips, pop and all that junk were bought for parties but were not usually in the house. Desserts might be a small bowl of pudding, three or four cookies, or one scoop of ice cream with some chocolate sauce. We weren’t bakers so did not usually have left over sweets around. We made enough for that dinner and it was gone. It was plenty, and since we had conversation, it slowed down the eating and we were satisfied.
Nothing was a taboo food…it was just moderated. We had daily chores, and were sent outside and had to be in religious education, and some kind of extra curricular activity year round. I took music lessons, was a scout and was oin swim team. We were not over scheduled but did not have hours for TV and burned off what we ate. Saturdays we cleaned and did chores, usually from after breakfast until lunch, sometime a little longer. Dad made Saturday lunch and if he was working on a project, went out for fast food burgers, fries and shakes. It frankly made us kids look forward to big chore days like raking or cleaning the basement because we didn’t get fast food often. Other times it was fried egg sandwiches, or hot dogs off the grill…it was fine.
I was thin until I started dieting and restricting foods for myself. I did not want that for my son. My son was raised this way abd at 25 is 6’ of lean muscle, loves the outdoors and being active, and has little interest in TV or video games. He eats healthy, and even if he is eating alone, sits at the table with a book or magazine, not in front of the TV.
I am losing weight by going back to eating how I did before I started dieting. It is working.
It is all what you buy. It is difficult with a vegetarian household, as just that restriction puts kids at risk of malnutrition…never knew a vegetarian kid who didn’t have to go off that restriction for health reasons. Girls in particular can become anemic. I’d let the kids have all food groups in moderation, and except for if you are having a party or something, don’t buy chips, candy, sugary drinks and other junk.