Guys: How to talk to a guy

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Girls far underestimate the power they have on guys. There’s nothing worse than a girl who is pretty and knows it! 🙂

As a side note, it is often generalized thusly: women are more relational, men are more physical. Surely. But don’t think that men are purely physical creatures either (not that you were). As a man, I’ve always found it flattering to know that a girl was interested in me. This, of course, is universal-- we all have egos and think highly of anyone who thinks highly of ourselves. 🙂

Btw, experience is definitely the best teacher. Unfortunately, just like riding a bike, one has to fall and skin one’s knees before success. 🙂
So that is the key to men…Flattery? I always thought it was food? I will have to re-work my thought process…😃
 
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So that is the key to men…Flattery? I always thought it was food? I will have to re-work my thought process…
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomache.
Well, i can cook, now i just need a man! 😛

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I called him and left a message on his voicemail box. Now it’s the waiting game for both of them…sigh I hate this part.
 
I called him and left a message on his voicemail box. Now it’s the waiting game for both of them…sigh I hate this part.
Good luck!

To help you fill the waiting time, enjoy this story. A girl once called me and left me a message (on an answering machine – my dating days were pre-voice mail). But she got so nervous that she switched our names. Instead of saying, “Hi, Paul, this is Nancy,” she panicked and said, “Hi Nancy, this is Paul --” Then her voice caught as she realized what she was doing, but of course it was too late, the message recording had already been made.

So if you said your name right, you’re already a step ahead of some girls! 🙂
 
Chevalier, Mr. Attractive is the reason for this thread. He’s the one that’s four years younger. Z is 2-3 years older than me. I have more in common with Z. He’s more a cross between friend and acquintance while Mr. Attractive is soley attraction while I’m trying to get to know him better. Between Z and Mr. Attractive, Z has the most relationship potiential. Does that help? I’m dense here: Why should I be careful about a guy that’s four years younger? Does it have something to do with maturity?
Dancelittleewok, it definitely has to do with the maturation of males and females. Females mature much faster than males do. Remember those years in elementary school or junior high when there were girls who were much taller and larger than the boys of the same age. That’s just physical maturation, but there is no cause not to believe that it occurs emotionally as well. As a young woman, have you ever interacted with a male of your same age, only to discover that his actions and mannerisms were slightly, or overly, adolescent? You already have a chronological head start of four years on him, and possibly several more years emotionally. But, the heart wants what the heart wants. Who knows, you could end up like my wife’s grandparents. Her grandmother is 95, and her grandfather is 90, and they’ve been happily married for 65 years. Good Luck!

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I called him and left a message on his voicemail box. Now it’s the waiting game for both of them…sigh I hate this part.
Z called me back the next day and it turns out we’re both busy this weekend. However, he did ask me to call him back to tell him how my weekend was.
 
So it’s wrong for girls to only be attracted to good looking guys, but it’s perfectly fine for guys to only be interested in good looking girls?
You’ll notice that when my question was answered, I futher said that to be intrested in a person ONLY because of their looks was shallow. Guy or girl, it’s wrong.
 
Also, being interested only in good-looking people doesn’t mean looks are the sole base.
 
Also, being interested only in good-looking people doesn’t mean looks are the sole base.
So so true. When I find someone attractive it’s usually someone who exudes confidence, humility and faith all in one. For me, I don’t know, it makes the person 10 times more good looking than if he didn’t have these qualities. I’ve noticed that if even one of these things are lacking, I’m much less attracted to the person and this is mostly not done consciously. So, very true, for me atleast.
 
So so true. When I find someone attractive it’s usually someone who exudes confidence, humility and faith all in one. For me, I don’t know, it makes the person 10 times more good looking than if he didn’t have these qualities. I’ve noticed that if even one of these things are lacking, I’m much less attracted to the person and this is mostly not done consciously. So, very true, for me atleast.
Yep. Generally, we’re more inclined to appreciate not so immediately stunning looks if the person is confident. Besides, a great lot depends on grooming and the choice of clothes and other devices, which is also a matter of attitude or conscious choice.
 
Well, I’m proud to say that the butterflies with Mr. A are gone. I feel alot more confident talking to him, although I’m usually the one asking ALL the questions. He cannot go to lunch with me because he’s always working after class. Any ideas, fellas?
 
Well, I’m proud to say that the butterflies with Mr. A are gone. I feel alot more confident talking to him, although I’m usually the one asking ALL the questions. He cannot go to lunch with me because he’s always working after class. Any ideas, fellas?
You know, it’s actually not a good thing if you’re asking ALL the questions. A couple of things. One, you should give him some space, you don’t want to smother him. If he’s interested, he’ll want to get to know you better. Second, if you’re the one asking all the questions, and he doesn’t ask about you, then maybe he’s not that interested to begin with. I’m sorry to be negative here, but that’s what it sounds like to me. Also, he can’t be busy after class all the time. If a guy really liked a girl, he would make time for her.

Personally, I think it’s time to give him some space.

Anyway, just my $0.02.
 
Trust me, yes, there are people who would like nothing more than to sit down and listen. That’s one of my favorite things to do, though I do ask some questions. Generally to get people to talk some more. 👍
 
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