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holyrood
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I don’t think being Catholic would shrink your dating pool anymore than being Protestant, or a dog lover, or rich or poor, or wanting only someone with a job, or someone who wants children…or…or…or…
What I’m saying is, everything about us ‘limits’ our dating pool, because we all have standards and things we want and need in a spouse.
FWIW, I’ve dated two men in the last three years. One was as far from Catholic as you can possibly get, practicing his own made up faith roughly based on Shinto-ism and having spent years into some very UN-Catholic activities. He stopped all of those activities because he wanted to be with me. He came to perpetual adoration with me, and I believe had we stayed together, he would have some day come to church with me.
The second man was a Catholic-bashing atheist in his younger years, who later became a Baptist. A few months after I started seeing him, he asked to come to Mass with me. A few months later, he joined RCIA. On his own initiative. He is now going to daily Mass.
Had I said no to him because he called himself ‘spiritual but not religious,’ none of this would have happened. So becoming Catholic doesn’t necessarily mean you will only be accepted by Catholics, or that you should only accept Catholics.
What I’m saying is, everything about us ‘limits’ our dating pool, because we all have standards and things we want and need in a spouse.
FWIW, I’ve dated two men in the last three years. One was as far from Catholic as you can possibly get, practicing his own made up faith roughly based on Shinto-ism and having spent years into some very UN-Catholic activities. He stopped all of those activities because he wanted to be with me. He came to perpetual adoration with me, and I believe had we stayed together, he would have some day come to church with me.
The second man was a Catholic-bashing atheist in his younger years, who later became a Baptist. A few months after I started seeing him, he asked to come to Mass with me. A few months later, he joined RCIA. On his own initiative. He is now going to daily Mass.
Had I said no to him because he called himself ‘spiritual but not religious,’ none of this would have happened. So becoming Catholic doesn’t necessarily mean you will only be accepted by Catholics, or that you should only accept Catholics.
While I’m very respectful of non-Catholics and have dated a few, I found that still gravitate towards Catholics. Preference? Perhaps but there’s truth to birds of the same feather flocking together…
If you decide to become Catholic, and pledge to what it teaches, it means that from that point forward, you ought to have a far clearer and more accurate idea on what you’re looking for in a man or woman