Of course motherhood is not only about sahm. I never said it was.
However, it is about whether or not children are a true priority. I hear so often of couples who both work and they pay a nanny to care for their child or children. Sorry, I find that to be incredibly unfair (yes I realize that is harsh), because if the couple can afford to pay a fulltime nanny, then chances are they could afford to have one parent stay at home.
URRRRRHHHHHHH (sound of car breaks)
ok…here goes; my live-in nanny is paid $1,600 per month. My bills (including nanny) are $3,800.00 per month. Do you seriously think I can afford to not work?
You are seriously ignorant and I knew your true colors would eventually show. My kids are a huge priority to me and every minute that I’m not at work, I’m with my kids.
Oh and by the way, my live-in nanny is very loved by my kids and I love her too. She has become an “aunt” to my kids and I plan on keeping her as part of my family even when she’s not working with us anymore.
This is a bad thing for my kids…you can go…
I understand there are many cases in which families just cannot afford to have a parent stay at home, yet it is beyond my understanding why couples would choose to have pretty much a stranger get to know their kids better than they do. Even placing multiple kids in daycare centers is not exactly cheap today and the financial benefit cannot be so great that having one parent stay home would not make for a better choice (if there are multiple kids in the daycare).
I feel we live in a contraceptive and abortive culture. By this I am saying that even though many Catholics do not abort or contracept, they still have a “me first mentality” even about their families and children. Fathers and mothers place their own desire for a career above what is best for their children. How can anyone doubt that having a parent present in the morning before school, then after school, then on sick days, and on days off, and during the summer, and taking care of all the many things that need to be done in a home, is a very good thing for children of nearly all ages? Children do MUCH better when they have the love and stability of a stay at home parent, and yes fathers can do that too, yet mothers are gifted in ways then men are not…it is just a fact. I realize that it is hugely unpopular to say that women can do things that men simply cannot do, or vice versa, yet it is a fact. When a child is sick, they more often want their mom, then their dad (which btw does not mean they do not love their dad). When a child or children come home to their mom/dad and some awesome homemade cookies are waiting for them, there is literally nothing a daycare can do to equal that connection–that loving bound that so many parents just throw out the door today. When a child or children are feeling sad, a nany cannot love them nearly as much as a parent can, and the children know that too.
Yet, today, even among many Catholics, parenthood is treated as something couples add to THEIR life resumes, liek a checklist: Yep, got the kids–check. Yep, little Susie is an honor student–check. Yep, little Johnny is off to Harvard–check. Yep, we have the newest minivan that cook dinner and put kids to bed, etc–check.
Kids today are treated more as commodities, then the precious gifts from God that they really are, and many parents place their own personal desires well above the needs (spiritual and temporal) of their children…oftentimes children are seen as an incovenience in life, rather then a blessing.
**BRRRRHHHHHHH…my kids are no one’s “commodity”. I have no personal desires above my kids. EVERY PENNY I MAKE goes to the bills and my kids…EVERY PENNY. I make so many sacrifices. How dare you make these kind of judgements.
You can go…

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Of course, on this thread, perhaps none of these points apply to people here. These points, as with all my points, are generalizations and do not apply to everyone or all situations.
Ok…now my blood pressure is beginning to lower. Thanks for mentioning this point.
God allows parents just 16, 18, maybe 20 or so years of genuine influence upon our children. After that they enter the adult human race, and we all know how brutal that can be. Parents need to pour out literally everything they have into their children, not into themselves. And, this applies more than anything to their spiritual, ethical and moral upbringing (parents should care more about what kind of people their children ae, then about how great an academic they are).
The world is in true crisis, and it is in desperate need of authentic Christian people who place others and Christ above themselves. Without that, there is little hope for the future.
*I will now quietly place my rather large soapbox away… *

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