Have you ever been verbally attacked at Mass?

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I don’t know. When someone is giving a long talk, like a 30 + minute lecture, or a vocalist giving a concert, they need some hydration of the vocal cords. That is not the case at Mass. When folks have a cold they sometimes need to sip water to stop coughing fits, I’d really doubt that they are all ill at the same time where they cannot go an hour without water. Sounds like it has become the “cool thing to do” at your parish.
 
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Whether or not I was listening to music would be absolutely none of your business (so long as you could not hear it, which this man could not.)
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Listening to music would be objectively disrespectful though, I find listening to anything at all inappropriate and I would not permit anyone under my authority to do that. I’m not likely to call you out on it though.

Referring to what happened as a verbal attack is imo an exaggeration especially since you have no issues letting your clothing preferences be known (here at any rate. Don’t know if you’ve actually approached someone).
 
TheLittleLady said:
I don’t know. When someone is giving a long talk, like a 30 + minute lecture, or a vocalist giving a concert, they need some hydration of the vocal cords. That is not the case at Mass. When folks have a cold they sometimes need to sip water to stop coughing fits, I’d really doubt that they are all ill at the same time where they cannot go an hour without water. Sounds like it has become the “cool thing to do” at your parish.
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You’re simply wrong. I’ll leave it at that.
 
On one occasion I was verbally attacked after mass - it was ridiculous, completely uncalled for and hurt me deeply. It took a lot of prayers and couple of sessions with my Spiritual Director to work through it. What really helped was the sudden onset of a number of unexpected healing blessings that happened over the days afterwards.

Now I will not do anything that involves talking to parishioners other than within the confines of the ministries I assist with. It is the same with the prayer intention book, I was berated by a nosy parishioner for asking for prayers for my deceased uncle, after checking with Father, I told her that it was allowed and have never put anything in the book since and have no intention of ever doing so again.

I just figure that it is better to be detached.
 
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Before and after Mass there should be a few moments for meditation-reflection-and reverence. All the rest are fluff complaints dancing in the wind. However, I would not be listening to a MP3 player unless it had significant religious content. I don’t have one, but if I did, I would leave it at home. Peace.
 
Avila123 said:
On one occasion I was verbally attacked after mass - it was ridiculous, completely uncalled for and hurt me deeply. It took a lot of prayers and couple of sessions with my Spiritual Director to work through it. What really helped was the sudden onset of a number of unexpected healing blessings that happened over the days afterwards.
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I am sorry that happened, but it’s good to hear you had resources around you that helped you to recover.
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Now I will not do anything that involves talking to parishioners other than within the confines of the ministries I assist with. It is the same with the prayer intention book, I was berated by a nosy parishioner for asking for prayers for my deceased uncle, after checking with Father, I told her that it was allowed and have never put anything in the book since and have no intention of ever doing so again.
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I am very careful and circumspect too. The people I really keep at arm’s length are the lay “liturgists.” Those people are trouble in my parish.
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I just figure that it is better to be detached.
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Not optimal, but it can save a great deal of headaches and heartaches.
 
Duesenberg said:
Whether or not I was listening to music would be absolutely none of your business (so long as you could not hear it, which this man could not.)

Odd some people don’t grasp that. Very odd indeed.

I personally don’t know of a better way to prepare for Mass than to listen to the Litany of the Saints. I just love it.
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I could cared less as to what you were or were not listening too. If the man could not hear the player how would he known you were using it?
What i find odd. is how some people can not understand silent.
 
Duesenberg said:
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It’s “I COULDN"T care less.”
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You are complaining about people attacking you, so I think it unfortunate that you go and attack someone else for their grammar (without addressing anything else they wrote, since they disagreed with you). For all you know, it could be a typo on a smartphone - we’ve all seen that a thousand times and it’s no big deal.

I’ve never been verbally attacked, and neither have my parents (to the best of my knowledge), but my parents did receive an anonymous letter in the mail once when we were little complaining that it was hard to concentrate in Mass with “screaming” children in the front row. My brothers and I were very well behaved, but when I was about 4 years old, and my next two brothers were 2 years and infant age, my dad was asked to be a reader last minute when the reader didn’t show up. We didn’t realize what he was doing at first when he got up to go read, so I started crying, which made my brothers start crying. My poor mom couldn’t just gather us all together and bring us in to the cry room by herself, so she just had to wait for us to settle down. But I guess someone had a great big problem with the one time that it happened.
 
I was told not to have anymore kids when they were all unloading out of my minivan before mass.😂

It was one of those cranky old ladies influenced by the Hitler generation I guess. Hey! What’s the point of this thread anyhow? 😠
 
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Yes. My experience was probably a lousy Brooklyn apology.

As far as your bliss is innocent stance. Have you been thinking others are doing things wrong?
 
starlady said:
You are complaining about people attacking you, so I think it unfortunate that you go and attack someone else for their grammar (without addressing anything else they wrote, since they disagreed with you). For all you know, it could be a typo on a smartphone - we’ve all seen that a thousand times and it’s no big deal.
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Thanks for the defense but that is what i wrote. Just a dumb ole farm boy. , i think faster than i type, due to a lack of intelligence, i missed the word have…i could have cared less…
 
No, kind of the opposite once when I had a grizzly baby and went to take him down the back so Fr could be heard in the small church .But he said "Don’t worry at all,bring the baby back,I don’t mind and the sound is a sign the church is alive and well " 🙂
 
Actually, when I was going to revert back to the Church I visited different parishes in my area. I was unfamiliar with some of the changes like communion in the hand and some things that had become ingrained like hand holding. Anyway, the Our Father started and this old guy next to me glares at me and says in a very grouchy loud voice “we’re supposed to hold hands”. I wanted to say something to him that’s unrepeatable here.
 
I never hold hands and I cringe whenever we have to shake hands at the Kiss of Peace. I try to find an excuse to use the little boy’s room for that period.
 
I’m an introvert. Also, when it’s flu season I don’t want to catch anything. Also, I find it strange that we take our eyes off the Lord right before we are going to receive him and shake hands with the person next to you. The Kiss of Peace is in an awkward location liturgically both in the OF and EF in my opinion.
 
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