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fnr
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With all the discussion about same-sex relationships in the media and on this forum, I am curious about the experience of the discussants here on the forums.
Have you heard a coming-out story from someone who has same-sex attraction?
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estesbob
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Yes: from my daughter. We should always follow the Church’s admonition that homosexuals be treated with dignity and respect keeping in mind the caveat that we can not affirm their sin
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Ph0enix
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a few of my online friends and one of my school friends have yeah
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Phemie
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My brother, my cousin, my other cousin, my other cousin, my friend, my friend, my other friend, the music teacher at the school, my Pastor, etc., etc…
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anon97089806
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A couple hundred coming out videos on YouTube… I still will never feel prepared to talk to my parents.
Haven’t really ever experienced anyone close to me coming out yet, unless my brother’s girlfriend and his friend saying they are bicurious counts.
Haven’t really ever experienced anyone close to me coming out yet, unless my brother’s girlfriend and his friend saying they are bicurious counts.
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ProdglArchitect
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It was a term I’m pretty sure Southpark made up. It means they have homosexual thoughts, but do not actively consider themselves homosexual.
As for me, I’ve heard two or three, one from a very close friend.
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Trident_H
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Coming out to myself was the hard sell. Because I’d been doing everything to avoid admitting it. To avoid being that way. But once I did then I figured I’d better just make it a public thing. A thing that people knew in general. Because being bi I can come across as normal to most girls. So they should know where I’m at before even thinking of getting involved with me. Because they’ll have to know the struggle I’ll always be in. They’ll have to know that even though I’m tempted to be with guys I can never go through with it. Because it’s against Church teaching. Because it’s against my beliefs. So they might have to help support me with that.
So if they’re into that kind of ongoing game. Then yeah. Come on over. Bring the popcorn. I can guarantee there’ll never be a dull moment.
Peace.
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So if they’re into that kind of ongoing game. Then yeah. Come on over. Bring the popcorn. I can guarantee there’ll never be a dull moment.
Peace.
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Mary_Estelle
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mjs2001
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God bless you. I’m so tired of hearing about everyone’s sex life.
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ProdglArchitect
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kozlosap
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You would not want your son or daughter to share with you if they were gay?
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Inisfallen
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Sure, I’ve heard a few.
I know plenty of gay people, and interact with them on a daily basis.
The nice guys down the hall from me in my apartment building. Nice guys. We’ve helped each other a few times with home projects (fixing washing machines, tiling bathroom floors, etc.). And they look out for my daughter when she’s running around the halls.
The two wonderful women in my father’s apartment building, who have been spectacularly caring towards him since he became a widower (for the second time, poor man). He’s nearly housebound (he really can’t walk more than a block or two), and they have him over for dinner once in a while, and often, when one of them is going to the supermarket, they’ll knock on his door and ask if he needs anything.
I’ve heard their stories.
And some from people I’ve worked with, and some from people, and relatives, that I grew up with.
I know plenty of gay people, and interact with them on a daily basis.
The nice guys down the hall from me in my apartment building. Nice guys. We’ve helped each other a few times with home projects (fixing washing machines, tiling bathroom floors, etc.). And they look out for my daughter when she’s running around the halls.
The two wonderful women in my father’s apartment building, who have been spectacularly caring towards him since he became a widower (for the second time, poor man). He’s nearly housebound (he really can’t walk more than a block or two), and they have him over for dinner once in a while, and often, when one of them is going to the supermarket, they’ll knock on his door and ask if he needs anything.
I’ve heard their stories.
And some from people I’ve worked with, and some from people, and relatives, that I grew up with.
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AKDee
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Yes. My oldest friend from school (going back to 6th grade - we’re in our 40’s now) married his partner a couple years ago.
And my fiancé’s son is gay and living with his partner. He came out to us over dinner one night, although it wasn’t a surprise to anyone except his brother that he had SSA.
And my cousin also has SSA although she classifies herself as bi-sexual and is currently in a relationship with a man.
Oh, and my ex-boyfriend. We broke up when I caught him looking at male porn. At the time he was in complete denial about being gay and said he was only curious. A few years later he took me to lunch and admitted during lunch that he was gay and that he’d started dating a man. He and I had been talking marriage, so I’m glad about the porn thing as it tipped me off he was gay before we got married.
And my fiancé’s son is gay and living with his partner. He came out to us over dinner one night, although it wasn’t a surprise to anyone except his brother that he had SSA.
And my cousin also has SSA although she classifies herself as bi-sexual and is currently in a relationship with a man.
Oh, and my ex-boyfriend. We broke up when I caught him looking at male porn. At the time he was in complete denial about being gay and said he was only curious. A few years later he took me to lunch and admitted during lunch that he was gay and that he’d started dating a man. He and I had been talking marriage, so I’m glad about the porn thing as it tipped me off he was gay before we got married.
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cjforJesus
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Absolutely not. I am tired of the media and secular education pushing this agenda so relentlessly.
A man i worked with expressed his sexual preferences to me once and I tried to be kind but was truly appalled someone would speak like that with a co worker. He is male and I am female by the way.
Like the general population there are a small minority of same sex couples where i am employed, and they generally are very nice , respectful and keep their sex lives private. I concur with Mary Estelle on this.
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cjforJesus
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I am not sure if looking at gay porn is always a sign of being gay.
Someone in my family was addicted to a form of Japanese cartoon pornography involving young boys masturbating and having sexual relations together. I was shocked to find out but when I confronted her(she was underage and the offensive material was downloaded onto a family computer) she tearfully apologized and admitted it. We said a prayer together, destroyed the cartoons and she was freed.
I thank God every day though that her mind was not forever polluted with this garbage.
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newcalling
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Uh, no. South Park did not create the term. In one episode they made a play on the word “bike-curious” but bicurious has been around at least since the 1970s. It means someone who knows that they have opposite sex attractions, but who is not sure and wants to find out if they also have same sex attractions. They have never acted on the homosexual feelings they sometimes have. I have known many bicurious men and women.
As to the op, I used to volunteer for a lot of liberal causes when I was pagan, including in the gay community, so I have heard countless coming out stories. I have heard enough gay life stories that I am absolutely convinced that it is in no way a choice and is likely a result of nature. Whether it is sin or not, whether it should be considered a birth defect, etc I leave to people far more qualified than I to decide. My only role is to love people regardless of their sins. The rest is between the individual, God and the church.
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brittrossiter
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I am not defined by my temptations. I also see no value in broadcasting to the world the nature of what tempts me. All that would do is inflame my own pride.
The only coming out that I need to do is in the confessional, and with my spiritual father.
The only coming out that I need to do is in the confessional, and with my spiritual father.
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estesbob
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There is something that should be added to this. It is also our duty to never affirm grievous sin. If I know someone who is engaged in adultery , for instance,I wouldn’t minimize it, I wouldn’t dismiss as between them and God and the Church and I would not affirm it in any way : ie helping them cover it , acting like its not a problem, not providing a place for him and his mistress to meet,etc. Examples on how we do not affirm my daughters relationship is not allowing her and her partner to share a room when they visit and never spending the night in their home.
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newcalling
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I haven’t come across a situation where I have had to affirm or negate another person’s sins, at least not that I can recall. If I really believe something is sinful, I’ll say something about it out of love, but it is for God to convict their hearts. If I am not sure then I ask that they don’t put me in the middle of it. I don’t own my own home and I don’t have room for others to stay with me, but I would prefer that even a married heterosexual couple not engage sexually in my home. I am celibate and chaste, and it is something I think that people should do in their own home or a private motel/hotel room. I couldn’t run a b&b nor anything like that.
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Trident_H
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Yeah. I know what you mean. It’s bad enough having house-mates. House-mates who get up to all sorts of odd stuff.
Peace.
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