OTOH ,what you said about using “fear” to more or less coerce people into following a particular religion is true to a limited extent laylow (particularly but not exclusively in the past).However, I doubt that we could classify something like that as widespread. It is real though (just like Hell is -

)You would find some agreement on your point in certain Catholic circles. St Theresa of Avila was one who recognized it in her own Catholic environment.
She had a very vibrant rapport with our Blessed Lord, and her sense of humor was part of it- she used her sense of humor to battle against what Fr James Martin refers to as “deadly serious Catholicism." Some anecdotal notes based on her life here on earth- taken from
Father James Martin on the Humor of St Theresa of Avila :
BTW, here is one of her more profound quotes :
True perfection consists in the love of God and our neighbour, and the better we keep both these commandments, the more perfect we shall be.
If we occupy ourselves loving/serving God and our neighbor, the rest - including avoiding Hell, just kind of naturally follows.