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tkdnick
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Can’t go wrong with Franciscan of Steubanville or either of the Ave Maria schools.
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santaro75
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well you need about 150,000 Catholic bucks to go to a catholic university for about the same education you could get at a good state school for about 1/3 the cost.
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Belgarion
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Catholic universities are definately expensive
but they are defiinately worth it too
They have some financial aid options as well
I myself am looking into going to the Franciscan university in steubenville Ohio. its an awesome place
go there! lol
but they are defiinately worth it too
They have some financial aid options as well
I myself am looking into going to the Franciscan university in steubenville Ohio. its an awesome place
go there! lol
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santaro75
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I agree that it is an incredible education. HOWEVER, you will have to pay your loans back at the tune of probably 1200 a month where if you went somewhere else you would have loan payments of about 300 a month.Catholic universities are definately expensive
but they are defiinately worth it too
They have some financial aid options as well
I myself am looking into going to the Franciscan university in steubenville Ohio. its an awesome place
go there! lol
When you are working hard for the man, it is nice not to give 2/3 of your take home pay to your lender with your entry level job. really hurts your prospects of buying a house or even dinnner.
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havemercy
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No one answered! haha Should I be afraid?And if he is about five years younger, and an inch shorter?
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Mirdath
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As long as both parties are of age, mature, and deliriously in love with each other, age is just a number
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agapewolf
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I gotta chime in…
32/F ← VERY Catholic…
waiting…patiently…
32/F ← VERY Catholic…
waiting…patiently…
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anamchara
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Kasi, I was like you when I was younger, the only difference is you are being much more honest then I ever was! I went off to college telling myself I was going to get a degree, but ya know what…deep down inside the only thing I ever really wanted was to be married and raise lots of babies. Seriously, now I did enjoyed going to college and I would highly recommend you at least give it a shot
The other aspect of this is if you want to meet nice Catholic man, best place is in college. My brother once told me when I was whinning that I couldn’t meet any decent guys and was interested in dating even doctors LOL! ya right
He said “girl, to marry a doctor you have to become one or get educated in some related field” In other words he was trying to tell me if you want to marry someone in the social circle that best fits you, then get educated.I met my husband going to college, suddenly getting that degree was really not important, I face the fact now that it’s all I ever really wanted.
Your honesty is refresing Kasi…
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DVina
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At the risk of sounding REALLY old…
Is there still Catholic Alumni Club? I never belonged to it, but my hubby did. It was nicknamed Catch A Catholic!
I met my husband at church, in the young adults group. Caught him by sacrificiing my body to play flag football, because there was a requirement to have 4 women play. We had about 10 guys on the team, but ususally only coud get 4 girls to show up.
If you are in a solid parish, you will be more likely to meet solid Catholic men at anything in which you participate.
Is there still Catholic Alumni Club? I never belonged to it, but my hubby did. It was nicknamed Catch A Catholic!
I met my husband at church, in the young adults group. Caught him by sacrificiing my body to play flag football, because there was a requirement to have 4 women play. We had about 10 guys on the team, but ususally only coud get 4 girls to show up.
If you are in a solid parish, you will be more likely to meet solid Catholic men at anything in which you participate.
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anamchara
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that is a cute and cleaver name lol and it sounds like you did catch him or did he catch you? Or did he knock you over?
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Kasi
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Another question, say I found a none practing catholic. HOw do you help them reconvert? I met a very nice young man who no longer is practicing his faith and more than anything I want to help him find his faith any good ideas?
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JezuUfamTobie
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Kasi, honestly, I think you can be a nice, casual friend to a young man who is like this. If you set a good example, God could use you in ways you don’t even realize, in order to convert others. But this guy doesn’t fit what you’re looking for in a suitor, so I wouldn’t accept any offer of courtship from this type if I were you. I’ve been there, done that, and have the divorce decree to prove it.
The key to finding an ideal spouse is not to find someone who is willing to be shaped into your dream man (or–more likely–willing to pretend to be shaped). The key is to find someone who already embodies the characteristics you’re looking for.
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Belgarion
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I really hope I don’t have to wait that long for a wife…I’m 17, sure…but I seriously want a family, like 12 kids, no joke
Kasi! they’re right, be a good example! Just be yourself! I know you well enough to know that just being yourself will help that guy.
As for his qualifications as a husband…don’t jump the gun when determining who would make a suitable husband, the only way you can determine that is by spending LOTS of time with him. My sister dated her husband for close to 4 years! They both were themselves and it worked out great!
Never allow a guy to play you, never play yourself either. Changing yourself for someone isn’t good, it won’t end too pretty…
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Kasi! they’re right, be a good example! Just be yourself! I know you well enough to know that just being yourself will help that guy.
As for his qualifications as a husband…don’t jump the gun when determining who would make a suitable husband, the only way you can determine that is by spending LOTS of time with him. My sister dated her husband for close to 4 years! They both were themselves and it worked out great!
Never allow a guy to play you, never play yourself either. Changing yourself for someone isn’t good, it won’t end too pretty…
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Sarabande
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NO! NO! NO! Please don’t ever lower your standards.
Are you of college age? Perhaps you can attend mass at the local college Newman Center? My husband and I were very active in the Newman Center at our college. That is how we met. You also don’t have to be in college to attend the mass. We would sometimes get people from the neighborhood attend.
There are also young adult Catholic conferences. Some parishes have young adult ministries. I used to attend a Scripture Study at one parish for young adults.
I know at the Cathedral where I work, we have A LOT of young adults between the ages of 18-35 who attend mass there weekly. They come in from the local city universities and colleges and are also young professionals who live in the area. I know some have met each other that way.
Keep praying and be patient. I always believed that if you are single and are called to married life, God is preparing your mate for you. Once you are both ready, He will introduce the two of you to each other. It’s then your job to recognize that. But always be open to wherever He wants to lead you. God bless!!!
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TheApologist
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The best thing to do is go to the best Catholic church in the area and to participate in Mass actively. Participate in the church activities, like ones with people of strong faith. There will you find good Catholic men. =D
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chevalier
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…looking for Catholic women there.
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opticks
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- You need to go to college. First to get an education. You may want to be SAHM, but what if Mr Right doesn’t come along for 10+ years? Are you going to fold clothes at the GAP and make minimum wage? If you take that path, every heathen will be chasing you around hoping you will screw up one night and then oops, you’re pregnant. And he will be nowhere to be found. It happens all the time. You are only as good as the 10 people who surround you. GO TO COLLEGE!
- Today’s guy is looking for a partner who is smart and can help pay the bills. The first years of marriage can be financially rough, but with two people paying down debt (e.g. school, not credit cards), you can clear most of it in a few years and have money in the bank to start your retirement nest egg, have a down payment for a house, kids’ educational IRA, etc. Money, cars, and houses don’t fall out of the sky. It takes sobering diligence to stick to a budget. Once you have that going for you, then get as pregnant as you want. As long as you are not 40 by the time you start trying, you’ll be OK.
Your plan, should you choose to accept it:
18-21: College, plus work study somewhere like a restaurant. You will make money, and just about every guy goes out to eat. Plenty of opportunity to meet people. Find something you like to study and stick with it. It will help out when you are ready to home school. During the summer, do not go back to your home town. Go somewhere fun, and experience life (no, you don’t have to leave your morals at the ticket counter). You may only get to be this carefree once in life!
21-30: Get married to guy or keep looking. Try not to have kids yet (use NFP). Why? because you will kill your cash flow and start off in a financial hole. Work full time, but not at restaurant , you should now be working at a decent job, where you meet people who are your senior and can help you network. Also you will be working with lots of other recent college grads. More opportunity! Guys will be highly receptive to marriage at this time. Also, save everything you can. If you want to be SAHM, you need a house. The bank is not going to give you a house. Any prospective husband will be impressed.
30+: Have kids, maybe work part-time if you want, and keep saving! Kids are not cheap. Be prepared to go back to work if husband gets killed, sick, or laid off.
I know all this sounds boring and “not fun” but this is life. Life is not ponies and unicorns and baked goods. You need to get your battle armor on and step up to the plate. You must be ambitious, prudent, prescient, and be aware that the Devil is tempting you at every turn. Remember that thing about the path Jesus talked about? That path is on of the hardest to keep on because so many around you will blissfully lead you down the wrong one.
PLEASE GO TO COLLEGE. YOU WILL THANK ALL OF US!
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P.S. I just read some of your posts and buried within one of them was an admission of: (1) being from an Air Force family, and (2) having a business.
As for (1) Education is everything in the Air Force. Without it you will not advance and you will get little respect. This is true whether you are officer or enlisted. Most enlisted people have their B.S. or B.A. --that should clue you in to just how important college is.
As for (2), unless your parents have a successful business you are going to take over, or they are going to loan you cash to start your business, you are in for a wake up call. The vast majority of businesses do not make any money nor do they survive. Any business takes time to turn a profit and requires lots of work. In fact, I would say you are going to put in more hours growing your business than you would at a four-year college. I have many friends who are entrepreneurs with widely varying success records. Most of the successful ones started out with wads of cash. Why? because they didn’t know what they were doing and wasted a lot of it in the beginning. They also spent a lot of money on marketing and advertising to have their product or service branded and recognized. See, there is lots to learn here.
GO TO COLLEGE!
As for (1) Education is everything in the Air Force. Without it you will not advance and you will get little respect. This is true whether you are officer or enlisted. Most enlisted people have their B.S. or B.A. --that should clue you in to just how important college is.
As for (2), unless your parents have a successful business you are going to take over, or they are going to loan you cash to start your business, you are in for a wake up call. The vast majority of businesses do not make any money nor do they survive. Any business takes time to turn a profit and requires lots of work. In fact, I would say you are going to put in more hours growing your business than you would at a four-year college. I have many friends who are entrepreneurs with widely varying success records. Most of the successful ones started out with wads of cash. Why? because they didn’t know what they were doing and wasted a lot of it in the beginning. They also spent a lot of money on marketing and advertising to have their product or service branded and recognized. See, there is lots to learn here.
GO TO COLLEGE!
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