I don’t think I had any control over him. He did what he wanted. And of the two of us, I would definitely say that I am the more sensitive one. I know that my motives and feelings were completely pure. If anybody would have been taking advantage of anybody, it would have been him of me. I just don’t know what to do or what to think.
Why would you guess that? I would think most normal people would think this is wrong. I personally see many huge problems with it and find it alarming.
But the age difference, the fact that the man was interested in someone so much younger, doesn’t bother you?
Dietrich Von Hildebrand married his wife Alice when he was rather old and she was quite young. No I don’t have a moral objection to people marrying those of a younger age.
And how many of these teens you mentored did you fall in love with? How many did you communicate with behind their parent’s backs and in the full knowledge that their parents disapproved of you? Discuss having sex with (as in you wanting to have sex with them or vice versa)?
She was 35 for cryin out loud - already an independent and mature woman - almost an over-the-hill age for those days. She wasn’t 19 and still dependent on her parents, much less TWELVE!
Was Alice a minor when they started dating? Or at least when he became interested in her? Did he communicate with her behind her father’s back? Of course not. The comparison is ridiculous.
Welcome back to the thread! We weren’t even talking about the OP’s situation when I posted that. We were talking about a forty year old man who left his family for an 18 year old. I mentioned that I most certainly did object to the situation but that it is not inherently wrong to marry someone half your age and in fact Dietrich Von Hildebrand did so. As you point out she was thirty five at the time. He was 70, so clearly when it is a question merely whether it is acceptable to marry someone half your age my example was not only applicable, but is made more so by the information you supplied; i.e. that she was exactly half his age.
First off, I do think that some people on this forum inappropriately use this forum to condemn people. They look for things that are wrong to condemn people they’ve never met and to jump to conclusions. For that I am sorry. They are not being authentic witnesses to the Catholic faith.
Please see my above post, and you of all people in this thread should have noted the context.
I love that he is given the benefit of the past tense where she is not.
Of the man who was formerly, but is not now, a minor.
Not to put to fine a point on it but the man in question is and was at the time an adult.
What business is it of yours? She isn’t stalking him; She is breaking up with him.
Thanks.
Feeling judged sometimes is just part of life. As long as one remembers that no human could ever be their judge, however, one is pretty well, I’ve found!Right. The only thing you find wrong in the example is that the man is leaving his family. Not that he was her teacher, not that she was a minor when he first met her. None of that matters.
She was a minor for 1 year of the relationship. He was a minor for 5 years. Big difference
So they kept the relationship a secret until the boy was an adult. Then ther father finds out. You don’t see anything fishy about that?
He was not an adult when the relationship started. He was a boy of 12. She was a girl of 17, but became an adult within a year. The boy on the other hand continued to be a child.
SHE came here asking for advice. He already broke up with her. She doesn’t need to do anything. When someone breaks up with you, you don’t have to have just one more contact with them. Whether there are ways or not, just drop it.