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Peter_Plato
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The obvious answer then would be not to love others, but simply be ambivalent to them in order to spare yourself the pain. Furthermore, it would seem a reason to dissuade others from loving altogether, even to dissuade them from loving oneself to spare them suffering. Sounds like a very impersonal, disconnected mode of being would be the highest state of existence for a Buddhist. Not caring and not caring if you are cared about would be idyllic to spare everyone from suffering.Knowing the those you love are suffering is enough to induce suffering for a Buddhist. Even just being separated from those you love is enough to induce suffering.
rossum
The Christian answer is that suffering ought not be a disincentive to caring about others. Loving beyond and through suffering and tolerating it for the sake of others would be more heroic than making an avoidance of suffering the goal.