How do I console my friend who just got married and it’s like super obvious he regrets it?

[Fraevo63]

Maybe you can “console” him by telling him he one day is going to regret not being compassionate and loving to her now if he doesn’t start now.

 

[TheLittleLady]

Hard times does not mean marriage is hard. Marriage is what makes the hard times bearable!

 

[Dr_Meinheimer]

A distinction without a difference IMO, but to each his own. Unless you dont believe marriage doesn’t involve sacrifice, which if it wasn’t hard, would not be an actual sacrifice.

 

[Xantippe]

I know I just read it, and I’m not looking to make you feel bad about yourself, but should your friend, who’s having troubles in his marriage, be seeking advice from you, who haven’t even had a good dating relationship? Really, all you can do for him is advise he and his wife get counseling. And, if you do get into a dating relationship, don’t ask this guy for advice!

Yeah, it is pretty weird for a married guy to go to a single guy for advice/encouragement.

I would never never ever complain to a single lady about my husband!

 

[JMMJ]

Best advice you can give him is to make sure no kids are brought into this mess before it is straightened out. Other than that, suggest counseling and stay out of it.

 

[Truett]

Just seems like it’s better to not be married. Most relationships aren’t as you describe

About 40% of marriages in the US end in divorce. Research has found the most common reasons people give for their divorce are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage , and abuse. An estimated 28% of American Catholic adults who have ever been married have since divorced, according to the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate at Georgetown University. So Most Catholic marriages DO work out, Most of the marriages I know that HAVE worked out have been becuse the participants decided that they were responsible for MAKING it work out, through prayer, communication and commitment. That is why Catholics generally require an extensive Pre-Cana training program for prospective married couples.
It sounds to me like your friend needs to go to his priest or find a Therapist, either with his wife or alone, because he is engaging in magical thinking. A foreign spouse is likely to be more of a challenge, not less, because of cultural differences. Marrying someone else who does not have these problems would not be a solution if you did not take the time to understand who you are marrying before the wedding. because we all have some problems, including, most likely your rapidly dissatisfied friend.
But going to a Priest or counsellor is not likely to help if he is doing it to “Fix” his wife. he ahs to be open to changing his aproach too