How do you know when you've found your soulmate?

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Really? I always thought that, regardless of soulmates, God would guide us to the person we would be happiest with.
 
Could he help with your other problem at school?
Just a thought.
 
Without getting too overly theological, what needs to be addressed is the motivation of people at given ages. At 14, your motivation is probably friendship and it is true that females mature faster. The average female at that age is already thinking of their future wedding and their wedding dress while the guys at that age are just starting to get sexual fantasies and desires on their mind - two different mindsets.

Eventually your mindset will shift towards college and future careers and eventually marriage and a potential family. There are numerous mindsets we shift into as people grow up, to say you like something now does not mean you will down the road. I know in my life, I nearly lost my Catholic faith and nearly did things I would of deeply regretted because I thought the girl I liked (as a 16YO) was my “perfect match”. I thank God things did not work out because looking back on it I sacrificed my faith for pleasure, and it really showed how immature I was.

All sustainable relationships should be built around Christ. A marriage is 3 people, Christ being the center. By growing closer to Christ we ultimately grow closer to each other relationally (check out Theology of the Body as you get older). My advice to you is to continue to be friends with this person but focus on growing in your faith and getting closer to Christ, that is what matters at this stage in your life
 
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He’s doing track with me in the spring for that exact reason.
 
God knows exactly who we will marry if that is our vocation, but there is free will in our choice. So it is not like the cosmos aligned to set two specific people together. Rather, those called to this vocation could chose from millions of people, but God does know who we will pick. So in this mindset, we can’t know if someone is a “soulmate” but we can pray for our future spouse. That logic does uphold. So I pray for whomever my future wife is if my vocational calling is to the married life. You can pray for your future husband in the same lense
 
My dad is Catholic and my mom is Lutheran, so I don’t think they think it matters what religion your partner is.
 
Then how does it work? Please explain it to me, I genuinely want to know.
 
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Then how does it work? Please explain it to me, I genuinely want to know.
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We have free will and we use our God given reason. But if we choose poorly, God allows us to choose.

By your logic abused women are with the man God picked for them.
 
I never said that everyone who was married was intended to be married by God’s plan. Like you said, we have free will and the power to choose someone we know won’t serve us well in the long run.
 
Tread carefully is my advice. Your parents may be the exception, lots of interfaith relationships fail.
 
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My parents married while interfaith, my mother was Catholic, Father was Jewish. He eventually converted. Catholic parents have an obligation in a Catholic wedding and Catholic baptism to raise the children Catholic. So even if it is an interfaith marriage, the children must be raised Catholic.

There are also a lot of issues with interfaith that must be discussed by the two in the relationship. Abortion, contraception, NFP, abstinence, premarital relations… these are all very important and can be deal breakers between religions
 
I haven’t talked to him about this, and probably won’t anytime soon, because like I said, I enjoy being friends and don’t want to change that for a while. But I do agree with him that I think these are VERY important topics to discuss.
 
Yeah, people have “types” but in many cases end up in a happy long-term relationship with the last person they thought they would have picked because “s/he isn’t my type”.

I realize it can be pleasant to think and discuss these things, but at the end of the day, life doesn’t always go according to plans.
 
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