How does femininity affect your life
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NevermoreLenore
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You’re still not engaging in discussion. You asked opinions, yet when questioned or presented with differing ideas you reply with short, curt messages.
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adamhovey1988
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Yeah, I don’t disagree. Whilst I don’t think that women and men should be 100% stereotypes of their sexes, the basic truth is this: Men are men, and women are women. I actually have a very feminine personality, but I am definitely a manly man in a lot of ways. Not in a machismo way, but, in I’ll put my life on the line to save someone sort of way. Men should be protectors.
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Elizabeth3
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Maybe it’s because instead of giving opinions about “how does femininity affect your life” she was challenged to defend what she enjoys about it.
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LilyM
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Femininie is just who and what I am
I have days where I potter around the house cooking and cleaning and reading, and days where I go out and hustle at my workplace, half of whoae staff are men old enough to be my father.
I wear makeup, jewellery.and bright colours, but also trousers and low-heeled shoes that I can walk in.
I try to be authoritative and assertive, otherwise I’m not doing my job, but I don’t slavishly ape stereotypically masculine business behaviours or attitudes to achieve this.
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MamaJewel
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Carbon is a funny element.
In many ways, we could take the word “diamonds” and replace it with the word “people” and apply it to a health care or hospice setting. I know doctors, nurses, CNAs and housekeeping staff in hospital, LTC, and hospice settings who share your outlook.
“We are talking people here. Lead and listen. Create a ring of life affirming support, from scratch, if necessary. Be kind. Nurture clients. And you will have clients for life.”
A patient or client might not have much time left. But listening to needs and desires is very important when making human connections and creating bonds. Especially with hospice. One may think that there is only death there, but, oh, there is so much life.
I’ve never bought a diamond, but I know some very good people who are true gems. In times when we chase ways to add years to our life, they help us add life to our years.
You sound like one of those people, Katie777.
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NevermoreLenore
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Men should be protectors…every see a mom go full on Mama Bear when her children are threatened?! I’m kidding–I would not want to face my husband’s or my own wrath if someone were to harm our children.
I think your point about having a more ‘feminine’ personality is exactly the point. For generations there have been ideas of ‘this is feminine’ and ‘this is masculine’, and a lot of those ideas are tradition and habit more than actual innate qualities. I’ve had over a dozen hospitalisations and surgeries, and it is always the gentle nurturing of my beloved husband that has brought me through being close to death. His patience, kindness, and encouragement during my darkest and scariest moments make me want to weep, just thinking about them. My mother, conversely, is so cold and cruel that she is a detriment to my healing and therefore we limit our contact.
I love that now I’m seeing men pushing strollers and walking their elementary school kids to the bus stop. My father was my nurturer. Likewise my husband is incredibly gentle and kind toward our kids, particularly our girls.
So personality-wise, I think there is a lot of crossover and a lot of definition and perspective. For example, a woman who is firm and to the point is a ‘witch’ and for a man, he’s being a strong leader. A creative and artistic man won’t garner the same respect as a contractor or fireman.
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NevermoreLenore
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Which is literally the point of a discussion. The OP specifically asks, ‘What is your opinion?’ If I present an opinion and solicit others for their opinions, there will be a back and forth supporting and refuting all our ideas.
:woman_facepalming:t2: Never mind. I’m moving along…
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JulianN
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One happy reality of my femininity is that my husband and I are equal partners—no obeying on either side.
Of course, as you said, everyone is different.
blackforest
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I think what you’re getting at is complimentarianism, the notion that Women are A, Men are B, Women do Y, and men do Z.
The danger of complimentarianism is that it can bind us into roles so rigid that we can end up helpless without the opposite sex. A woman who ends up widowed or abandoned by her husband may feel helpless doing “men’s jobs” like mowing the lawn or draining the water heater. A man who ends up in either horrible situation may feel handicapped trying to cook a meal or write a Christmas card. Gender-bending can actually be healthy sometimes.
Well, when I asked about tomboyishness, you stated in this same thread:
Is my daughter confused about who she is? Is yours?
blackforest
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I agree. Creativity is certainly a domain for men as well as women. Look at what it’s done for these inmates. https://www.good.is/articles/prisoners-transform-through-knitting-behind-bars
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Greenfields
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Not really sure how to answer the question,I am a woman,I’ve raised my children pretty much on my own.I enjoy beautifying my home and garden,bringing flowers in.But I also enjoy a lot of hard physical work ,and wearing dresses and make up isn’t practical at times …in that I am quite different to my mother who has almost always worn dresses and skirts .I’ve always been impressed by her gentleness and quiet refinement…and after Mary she is my biggest influencer .
I appreciate men who are very manly and at the same time appreciate beautiful things, and are happy to talk about them and create them.My dad and brothers do.
But I agree…it has much to do with personality :slightly_smiling_face:And what is taught by both parents.
I appreciate men who are very manly and at the same time appreciate beautiful things, and are happy to talk about them and create them.My dad and brothers do.
But I agree…it has much to do with personality :slightly_smiling_face:And what is taught by both parents.
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Roguish
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I think this is the strangest post I’ve ever read from a “feminine” woman. (Hear me out before flagging this.)
Where I live, most women choose to fulfill a fairly traditional role in the household, dress traditionally, behave traditionally, etc. They choose this freely — it is quite acceptable for them to choose differently, pursue full-time careers, etc. And some do. But most stick with tradition, and they’re very content that way. It seems therefore that they are the type that you call “feminine”, which is a term that makes me feel a little awkward, but okay we’ll go with that.
Now, what’s funny is this: of all the “feminine” women that I know — and I know many — I’m absolutely sure that none of them would ever — and I mean ever — in their lives write up a post like the one you started this thread with. No way, no how. It’s not that they couldn’t. They could, they have the skills and the means, and they’re afraid of very little. But you see, these “feminine” women, as I know them, are just too peacefully confident about who they are and how they live, for them to ever even feel anything close to an urge to get on the web and solicit opinions about the matter. It’s just unthinkable.
And that brings me to ask you the following, with some trepidity…
Would I be entirely out of line to wonder if perhaps you aren’t quite what you say you are? Could it be that you are rather someone who would like to see more appreciation for women who choose to be “feminine” (to stick with your term) and decided to do an experiment here by presenting yourself as such a “feminine” woman?
If I’m wrong, I’m wrong, so be it. Hope to get an honest answer from you.
Admins: if I am out of line, could you please just remove my post instead of banning me for two weeks? I’ve phrased the above in a civil manner, haven’t I, and given my reasons for my suspicion. Thank you.
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