How does femininity affect your life

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I think that too many people think too much about what is feminine and the strict societal roles/specific cultural norms surrounding it. If you naturally gravitate to certain things, great. I don’t think about whether or not what I’m doing is feminine or not. I assume that everything I do is feminine simply because I’m a woman.

I hate floral dresses. I dislike wearing pastels. My decorative tastes aren’t twee. I consider myself quite feminine simply because I’m a woman. I wear tailored skirts, dresses, as often as I wear trousers/pants and my decor tastes tend towards Scandinavian and minimalism. If I’m hanging out at home I often wear workout gear. I wear make up- but most of the time you’d never know. I don’t wear a lot of jewelry. I help people for a living as well as my family- but I’m hard as tacks and don’t put up with foolishness, and I don’t pander or dote. I’m very down to earth. I use my good china every day- but it’s white. I love to hike. I hate yard work. I don’t sew because I have no patience for it.
 
CoffeeFanatic said:
I help people for a living as well as my family- but I’m hard as tacks and don’t put up with foolishness, and I don’t pander or dote.
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Sometimes you have to be hard as tacks and don’t put up with foolishness to help people. 😉

I know my mother doesn’t put up with my foolishness and that has helped me in life.

I love floral prints and I like pastels but I don’t like trendy fashion. Classic tailored pieces that stand the test of time is what I like. Trendy fashion is five minutes away from being five minutes ago.

It depends on the individual. We all have our own unique “flavor” of femininity. Femininity is built into our very being. It does not get lost the moment we hold a wrench and fix something or crack a book to learn about how the internet works. We do not suddenly find it if we wear a dress or totter about in high heels.
 
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CoffeeFanatic said:
I hate floral dresses. I dislike wearing pastels. My decorative tastes aren’t twee. I consider myself quite feminine simply because I’m a woman. I wear tailored skirts, dresses, as often as I wear trousers/pants and my decor tastes tend towards Scandinavian and minimalism. If I’m hanging out at home I often wear workout gear. I wear make up- but most of the time you’d never know. I don’t wear a lot of jewelry. I help people for a living as well as my family
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This is almost an eerily accurate description of me, minus the hiking lol!
Sarcelle said:
It depends on the individual. We all have our own unique “flavor” of femininity
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Yup. Even if we try to be very stereotypical about it, you would still find femininity to be a relatively broad topic (your girly girl, femme fatale, classic etc).

I don’t bother with femininity YouTube channels and such, but recently i came across a video about a woman teaching people how to have feminine hand gestures. Worrying about things like this must feel so restrictive!
 
Katie777 said:
I teach them the feminine art of listening-one mouth 2 ears.

One gets it…the other wants to wear gym clothes every day and is strong willed
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As a Catholic male though tbh. I’m not as interested in someone’s dress, so long as they have good hygiene. I’m more interested in their heart and if they love God. I’m at the gym quite a bit myself, I might get along better with the gym clothes wearer. Just my personal perspective. Best regards.
 
I went to work for 25 years wearing dresses … but I never even gave a second thought to femininity … I’m a woman through and through … but that never stopped me from doing electrical work in my house, helping build a shed in the back yard or fixing the plumbing when I knew how to do it. I raised a daughter without having to specifically talk to her about femininity … and she grew up to be a beautiful woman … who enjoys being a woman and enjoys her feminine side. I don’t think we have to worry about teaching our children to be feminine … as a woman, it eventually comes through in life … but in my opinion it’s not supposed to encompass our entire lives … we can live with a balance of our feminine side and still pick up a hammer now and then. Just my opinion.
 
Servant31 said:
I’m not as interested in someone’s dress, so long as they have good hygiene.
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Feminine style on a woman is more attractive than masculine style (IMHO) but hygiene is much more important. People generally have good hygiene these days (women more than men, generally) so thank God for that.
 
Katie777 said:
As a Catholic Christian I feel alone in my convictions.
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Remember that your personal convictions are just that, the Church does not teach about cooking dinner or wearing gym clothes. Your daughters may have different tastes and manners of speech or dress, that is okay.

We women who are not in the June Cleaver model can still be faithful Catholics. I’ve not worn a skirt for over 15 years, I’ve never had a manicure in my life, but I do love full glam makeup with my leggings and t shirts and tattoos.

I’m sorry you feel alone, if you were in my parish I’d love to get to know you!!
 
While my husband was a masculine man who had a BFA and created beautiful things.
 
I’m a man through and through, but that never inspired me to build a shed, fix the plumbing, or do electrics. I shudder at the thought and the ensuing disaster. But I will be working 12 hour days on my computer in my home office which will allow me to hire someone to do the above far more expertly than I ever could.

I’ll also put my 4 year old son to bed every night. We males are night owls and my wife is usually in bed by the time he goes down. The concept that men should busy themselves with fixing things while women take care of the children doesn’t fly with me.
 
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Everything I did was done very well … the shed lasted 25 years, the electrical and the plumbing never failed … and I still cooked, cleaned, sewed and crocheted … no one has to be pigeon-holed by their gender.
 
twf said:
I’m a man through and through, but that never inspired me to build a shed, fix the plumbing, or do electrics.
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Uh oh, you better get your floral dress washed and pressed! 😉

Just kidding, of course. That is the problem with delegating activities and tasks by gender. In my house, I am the handymam. I have picked up many skills on my own because I don’t like paying someone for things I can teach myself.
 
I learned electrical and plumbing because my dad always fixed these things in our home and he didn’t have a son, so I was the one that stood by to hand him his tools as he worked … came in very handy when my husband and I were younger and didn’t have as much money as we do now … these days, even though I know how to do it, I call someone in … I’ve grown lazy in my old age. LOL
 
If you can afford to pay someone to do it, you’re also providing someone else with a livelihood…which is a good thing.
 
My dad died when I was nine. There were three of us girls plus my mom, and not a lot of cash, so we did plenty of home repair, lawn mowing, etc. Now I know adult women who have never mowed a lawn and I think of them as a bit entitled.
 
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