My husband was 23 and I was 22. But if we had fallen in love a few years sooner, I am sure we would have been mature enough to handle it. One of my best friends got married as a sophmore in college (19 yrs old) and I was shocked and thought she was crazy. That was 5 years ago and since then I have realized that it truly depends on each couple. And ultimately anyone outside of a relationship cannot truly know what is between a man and a woman discerning or getting married, so you can listen to the advice of others
For my friend, being married those last two years of college made her and her husband both more diligent in their school work and in many ways have finished growing up together.
I think some people need to “grow up” before they get married. Others, like my friend, need to have their spouse to assist them in “growing up”. After all, it is your spouse’s vocation to help you become a saint!
So each situation is different and with prayer and discernment (I would suggest a spiritual director), you can come to know what God is calling you to.
Another way to make you feel better—My husband and I were one of about 30 or more couples who got married from age 19-25 from our college church–the Newman foundation and the University of Illinois. I can say with confidence that I think all of those marriages and those vocations that continue to flower at that church are thriving. Many of these couples already at the ages of 22-27 have one or more children and are loving it.
If you need spiritual direction or advise, you could probably contact the Newman Center at U of I and e-mail one of the priests or sisters. They are awesome.
Blessed Virgin Mary, St. Joseph protector of the family, pray for us.
God bless.