One Biblical and ecclesiastical suggestion is to get married. Easier said than done in this disastrous age, but maybe someone will be helped if they can turn their focus on a worthy vocation. From an older thread:In Pope John Paul II’s Theology of the Body there is the section under “Concupiscence” and “Gift from God”. In it, he recalls 1 Cor. 7:2, which reads, “Still because of the danger of incontinence, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” This is the passage leading up to verse 9: “But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.”
Even in Paul, he views marriage as a remedy of sorts for lustful concupiscence. JP2 writes: “Does the Apostle in 1 Corinthians see marriage only from the point of view of a ‘remedium concupiscentiae [remedy for concupiscence],’ as one used to say in traditional theological language?” He then goes on to talk about how Paul nevertheless praises those who live “as I myself am” as a virgin. But uniting the 2 strains of thought together, JP2 concludes: “One can therefore say that, while the Apostle in his characterization of marriage from the ‘human’ side (and perhaps even more from the side of the dominant local situation in Corinth) strongly highlights the motivation in view of the concupiscence of the flesh, at the same time he brings out, and with no less strength of conviction, also its sacramental and ‘charismatic’ character.”
Thus, I think part of what is neglected is the Church’s effort to help lead singles called to marriage into marriage. I have ever rarely heard petitions during mass for singles called to married. Perhaps once ever. Most of the time, I hear prayers for married couples and prayers that singles answer the call to the priesthood. Those are, of course, good prayers. But I rarely if ever hear prayers for singles to answer the call to married life. This is a crisis of our time as many theologians, clergy, and other concerned Catholics have voiced. I have been unsuccessful in getting my local parish to add such a prayer even occasionally for such singles.
So anyway, it is frustrating no doubt for many singles that advice against lust, in this age where souls are bombarded with temptations and images at every turn, that Church pastors or teachers often emphasize some sense of recourse to married life as a weapon against lust, and yet seem to have a tone deafness to the disaster that is the enterprise toward marriage.