How to find a lovely catholic girl?

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It’s not virtue-signaling. He’s now defined “lovely Catholic girl” as being something other than simply a good, devout Catholic.
 
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It’s not virtue-signaling. He’s now defined “lovely Catholic girl” as being something other than simply a good, devout Catholic.
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A good devout Catholic adheres to the teachings of the Church . . .
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Arkansan:
disagreeing with the Church’s teaching on spousal obedience,
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Please, enlighten me to the texts on this teaching.
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Casti Connubii
  1. Domestic society being confirmed, therefore, by this bond of love, there should flourish in it that “order of love,” as St. Augustine calls it. This order includes both the primacy of the husband with regard to the wife and children, the ready subjection of the wife and her willing obedience, which the Apostle commends in these words: “Let women be subject to their husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ is the head of the Church.”
 
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Arkansan said:
Domestic society being confirmed, therefore, by this bond of love, there should flourish in it that “order of love,” as St. Augustine calls it. This order includes both the primacy of the husband with regard to
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From which doctrinal statement does this excerpt originate?

I can see where you copied it from a website called “Course Hero” dot com from a course called “Moral Theology of the Marketplace”.
 
Yet, Casti Connubill is an encyclical. It expresses the opinions of a pope on a matter, it is not doctrine.
 
Does EWTN understand the teaching authority of the Pope?

https://www.ewtn.com/holysee/pontiff/categories.asp

What about the Catholic Encyclopedia?

http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/05413a.htm

As for the binding force of these documents it is generally admitted that the mere fact that the pope should have given to any of his utterances the form of an encyclical does not necessarily constitute it an ex-cathedra pronouncement and invest it with infallible authority.
 
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Humani Generis:
  1. Nor must it be thought that what is expounded in Encyclical Letters does not of itself demand consent, since in writing such Letters the Popes do not exercise the supreme power of their Teaching Authority. For these matters are taught with the ordinary teaching authority, of which it is true to say: “He who heareth you, heareth me”
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In case you are, somehow, unaware, Catholics are bound to adhere with religious submission of intellect and will to the doctrine taught by the Pope on matters of faith and morals, even when it is not infallibly taught.
 
The Church Responds to Domestic Violence
Scripture and Church Teachings

Religion can be either a resource or a roadblock for battered women. As a resource, it encourages women to resist mistreatment. As a roadblock, its misinterpretation can contribute to the victim’s self-blame and suffering and to the abuser’s rationalizations.

Abused women often say, "I can’t leave this relationship. The Bible says it would be wrong." Abusive men often say, “The Bible says my wife should be submissive to me.” They take the biblical text and distort it to support their right to batter.

As bishops, we condemn the use of the Bible to support abusive behavior in any form. A correct reading of Scripture leads people to an understanding of the equal dignity of men and women and to relationships based on mutuality and love. Beginning with Genesis, Scripture teaches that women and men are created in God’s image. Jesus himself always respected the human dignity of women. Pope John Paul II reminds us that "Christ’s way of acting, the Gospel of his words and deeds, is a consistent protest against whatever offends the dignity of women."11

Men who abuse often use Ephesians 5:22, taken out of context, to justify their behavior, but the passage (v. 21-33) refers to the mutual submission of husband and wife out of love for Christ. Husbands should love their wives as they love their own body, as Christ loves the Church.

http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-act...ge/domestic-violence/when-i-call-for-help.cfm
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What I post from the USCCB – is the one sided submission/obedience from the wife to the husband – is a distortion.

The Catholic Church teaches the mutual submission of husband and wife – out of love for Christ.
 
APOSTOLIC LETTER MULIERIS DIGNITATEM
OF THE SUPREME PONTIFF JOHN PAUL II
ON THE DIGNITY AND VOCATION OF WOMEN
ON THE OCCASION OF THE MARIAN YEAR
The author of the Letter to the Ephesians sees no contradiction between an exhortation formulated in this way and the words: “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife” (5:22-23). The author knows that this way of speaking, so profoundly rooted in the customs and religious tradition of the time, is to be understood and carried out in a new way: as a “mutual subjection out of reverence for Christ” (cf. Eph 5:21). This is especially true because the husband is called the “head” of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church; he is so in order to give “himself up for her” (Eph 5:25), and giving himself up for her means giving up even his own life. However, whereas in the relationship between Christ and the Church the subjection is only on the part of the Church, in the relationship between husband and wife the “subjection” is not one-sided but mutual.

In relation to the “old” this is evidently something “new”: it is an innovation of the Gospel. We find various passages in which the apostolic writings express this innovation, even though they also communicate what is “old”: what is rooted in the religious tradition of Israel, in its way of understanding and explaining the sacred texts, as for example the second chapter of the Book of Genesis.[49]

The apostolic letters are addressed to people living in an environment marked by that same traditional way of thinking and acting. The “innovation” of Christ is a fact: it constitutes the unambiguous content of the evangelical message and is the result of the Redemption. However, the awareness that in marriage there is mutual “subjection of the spouses out of reverence for Christ”, and not just that of the wife to the husband, must gradually establish itself in hearts, consciences, behaviour and customs. This is a call which from that time onwards, does not cease to challenge succeeding generations; it is a call which people have to accept ever anew. Saint Paul not only wrote: “In Christ Jesus… there is no more man or woman”, but also wrote: “There is no more slave or freeman”. Yet how many generations were needed for such a principle to be realized in the history of humanity through the abolition of slavery! And what is one to say of the many forms of slavery to which individuals and peoples are subjected, which have not yet disappeared from history?

Mulieris Dignitatem (August 15, 1988) | John Paul II
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Does everything here have to immediately devolve into argument?
 
DepressedLoner said:
I only ever find women that do not believe in God or don’t go to Church. Personally, I don’t go there often because I do not have a car as I am very poor financially. Also, I am not a fan of internet dating, so what other possibilities are there for me to find a nice, loyal, obedient catholic girl? I am more on the traditional side and most people would describe me as handsome. But why am I not finding someone? Where do I need to look?
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You mentioned you’re a college student. Does your school have a campus ministry or a community service type club? If it does and is anything like the college I went to, the majority of members are Christian women. You’d have to get to know them from there, but it’s a start.

Three things stand out to me. One, you don’t get to Mass very often. Lovely Catholic girls look for lovely Catholic guys. Not knowing your situation, I can’t know what effort you may have undertaken to get yourself to Mass, but you must try very hard to get there. The woman you dream of makes her faith her priority; she won’t want to see any less in her future husband and the father of her future children. Even when I was studying abroad I managed to get to Mass each Sunday. It meant walking half an hour each way, alone in the early hours of the morning, but that’s what it took. Say a prayer to Our Lord and His Mother, that you find a way to get there. Ask the head of student life, look for a campus ministry, or perhaps a Catholic friend can drive you?

Second, you mentioned you’re handsome and while I don’t doubt it, self-esteem really helps a person’s attractiveness. Your username worries me. Try to do something for yourself. Go out with friends, let yourself have some fun. Love is a difficult thing to give to another when one doesn’t have love for himself.

Finally, the obedience thing. I don’t know exactly what you mean so forgive me if I misunderstand you, but a marriage is a partnership. When I was dating, I looked for my life-partner, my best friend, not my master. Sometimes a spouse must sacrifice for the other, but it’s a two way street. The love, respect, and self-sacrifice between a husband and wife is supposed to be mutual and equal. She already has a Lord and a father. She’s not looking for that in a husband.

I’ll pray for you. If it’s meant to be, it will be. God bless you always 🙂
 
Yeah, I think we’d have all been better off assuming that by “obedient” he meant “obedient to the Church” (i.e. believes in and follows Church teaching) not “obedient to her significant other” (i.e. good-natured door mat).

Back to the OP, if you are in college, does your campus have a Newman club? That would be the place to go.
 
I think we should have @StephieNorthCo weigh in on this very important question.

I myself am rather clueless in this area. 😦 🙂
 
Not immediately, I think, it’s best to at least let 7 or 8 comments slide by and then start to ramp up gradually.
 
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