How to get over fear of being rejected in dating?

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low quality men such as myself aren’t mourned
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It is unfortunate you see yourself in this light. It speaks of self-esteem issues. That might be a priority to work on if you are in therapy. In my mind, you must first love yourself and see worth in yourself prior to embarking on other ventures such as dating. Rejection is a blow to self-esteem, and I don’t think repeated rejection (or the potential of repeated rejection) as some have recommended is a wise course of action.

Good luck!
 
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A woman has to be physically attracted to a man for there to even be the possibility of a relationship. Otherwise that man and woman will just be friends.
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Your first sentence seems to be a sweeping generalization. You second sentence might be accurate at first. I have seen friendships develop into very loving, romantic relationships.
 
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Well even if a woman doesn’t have to be attracted to a man, I don’t want to be with someone who isn’t physically attracted to me

Bokbok
 
Maybe you may want to do a limited form of socializing? Join clubs that hold your interest or volunteer.

Look for friendship first. Don’t even think about marriage or the lack of marriage. Focus on friendship.

Friendship is underrated in this sex obsessed society.
 
Watch how the person treats “staff”, waitstaff, people at the drive up window, the checker at the grocery store.

Here is a for instance, when they are at a table act as if the waiter is part of the restaurant, another fixture there to do their bidding? At the checkout in a store, in the bank, do they put down their cell phone and conduct their transaction with the person in front of them or is that phone call more important?

Do they give of themselves, more than once a year angel tree tag or I donate my old shoes to Goodwill, but, they actually choose to do good works?

How do they treat old people, especially those in their own family? How do they treat kids?

People can be nice, smile and be pretty in public, however, goodness shows in the little day to day interactions with other people and the actions when no one is looking.
 
My husband has been balding since I met him. He did the long hair ponytail thing when we were married, over the years has gone back and forth. I am always happy when he decides to shave his head again. Makes me get all tingly inside.
 
My mother told her children to look at potential spouses and see how they treat the people who are there to serve them.

That will give a good insight into their character.
 
That’s good.

I thought you were like me, introverted and on the autism spectrum.
 
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Nope. I’m really extroverted and I’m not autistic.

Maybe it’s the fact that I make chicken noises. But that’s just my online thing

Bokbok
 
There’s a difference between being good enough for God and being good enough to date and find a spouse.

Bokbok
 
Do you mean to tell me that after all my advice you still haven’t got a girlfriend? Well…you’re not thinking about it. Harrumph!

You know, your prayers are heard, everything you say I say heard, things will happen for you. Trust God, ask Him and rely on His help, I mean it.
 
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Oh I’m not ready. Prob not ready until I fix myself. That’ll probably be in a year or two. I have a lot to work on

Bokbok
 
The red pill garbage is not going to help. God created our OP with every bit of dingity, God has no “beta” children.
 
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