How to handle homosexual in-laws at family party?

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findnmway:
Because of her one sided judgment of one particular group of sinners…
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While there may be a judgement on her (I believe she still takes Communion, right?) it is not mine to make. My husband & I have decided FOR MY FAMILY, that we cannot condone this.

How do I feel about other sinners, sis? Have you asked me? How many other groups of sinners DEMAND acceptance in society and/or in our family? One-sided judgement? Did Jesus say there was another side to actively living a homosexual lifestyle? I didn’t make this decision lightly or without much prayer and thought. I listened to the word of God - not the word of a man.

Romans 1:25-26*
25 who exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
26 For this reason, God gave them up to vile passions. **For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature
I Timothy 1:8-10**
8*** But we know that the law is good, if a man uses it lawfully
9 as knowing this, that law is not made for a righteous man…
10 for the sexually immoral, for homosexuals*, for slave-traders, for liars, for perjurers, and for any other thing contrary to the sound doctrine

Matthew 7:2*
2** For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you.*

John 7:24
24* Don’t judge according to appearance, but judge righteous judgment*."
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I Timothy 5:20,22
20* Those who sin are to be rebuked publicly*, so that others may take warning.
22* Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, and do not share in the sins of others. Keep yourself pure.*

By your own words, you are judging others by calling them “biggoted”. One final thing - I see in your posts on this that you have twisted the facts and presented half-truths to justify your opinions. Why?
I love you sis, but you should have known I wouldn’t stand by and let you falsely accuse me to prove your point.
 
I have enough family arguments of my own, BUT this caught my eye:
You neglect to tell the rest of the story concerning my 10 year old. You remember - when our sister and her girlfriend declared that my daughter (who as 4 at the time) was a lesbian because she liked ‘Xena’. No surprise, though, as they had already proclaimed one of the woman’s preteen daughters as a lesbian, as well, because she had “the look”.

That certainly should play a large factor in not being around a certain couple. That’s bad taste, period.
 
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Debbie:
Dear Ken,

Rarely will I state something like that without having actual statistics to back up my statement. However, it was late and …

But, basically my thinking is this: Theoretically,

in a room of 100 priests, 4 will have molested molested young boys.

In a room of 100 male homosexuals, I would be willing to bet that there would be at least 25 that were molested as children.

I have no figures to back this up. I will, however, do some personal research to see what I can find to prove or disprove my theory.

I agree also that a parent has to watch the adults who come into contact with their children. But, why would you compare priests to homosexuals in questioning their moral responsibility?

Given the 4% statistic, 96 out of 100 priests are morally responsible in a sexual manner. How many homosexual men are morally responsible in a sexual manner? Heck, even if you were to bump the 4% up to 10% to include priests that break their vow of chastity with a woman, there would still, in my opinion, be no comparison.

So, although not from a fancy study, that’s where my info comes from. Thanks for helping me clarify my thoughts!

God bless,

Debbie
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Not to hijack this thread but:

You guys are mis-using the statistic quoted. 4% of priests were accused, that is NOT the same as saying 4% of the priests were guilty. Accused does not translate into guilty.
For example in our diocese less than 2% were found guilty of ANYTHING.
You can accuse anybody of anything, that is not the same as a conviction.
 
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AngieGeek:
Hello all, this is findnmway’s “baby sister” and I thought you might be interested in the “rest of the story”.

This is “her” version of the “rest of the story” and most of what she said is false, but I will address her comments in private mail. This is no place for a family fued.

I will no longer come here under this name if my family members are going to follow me here.
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FWIW: :twocents:

I think there is wisdom in examining the purpose of the get-together.

A general family get-together? Fine; brief the teen-agers, go, be civil should you encounter the couple, and otherwise, enjoy the rest of the family. Also, it is never wrong to excuse yourself and leave if things get overwhelming once you get there. And the only one you need excuse yourself to is the hostess, not the general gathering.

A party to honour them in their same-sex relationship? Give it a pass.

About the baby: A true innocent in all this. Personally, if the party were focused on the baby, I’d tend to go if I could be sure the gay pair wouldn’t take advantage of the situation to focus things on themselves and their relationship. If I couldn’t be sure, I’d send regrets and a gift for the baby.

I know for a fact that I have been to social functions among my co-workers where gay couples have been present. I went anyway. However, here in BC Canada, they’ve lost their minds and now issue marriage licenses to same sex couples. A get-together specifically for one of those was being set up, and when one of the organizers asked if I would be interested in attending, I simply said “out of the question” quietly and matter-of-factly.

This is a tough one, particularly with the family connection. May God the Holy Spirit give you wisdom and fortitude.

Blessings,

Gerry
 
I’ve been thinking about this thread. Go if you can think of something that it Truthful and positive to say to them. I would go up and greet the baby, and say something (civily) how babies are such a blessing, and that all babies reminds you of giving birth to your children, in fact it reminds you how much fun concieving them was too! You’re making a comment on marital embrace from your point of view, in a positive manner.
 
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