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OLofMtCarmel
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Ana, I’m going to be gentle here, so try to understand where I’m coming from and place your husband in my shoes. There are sometimes legitimate reasons men are compelled to quit jobs. My wife and I also have 3 children. I resigned from a good job over 2 years ago and returned to school and chose to go further into debt for the purpose of supporting the family. My wife says she supports me, but when I ask for a little time alone (marital act) she says she has too much to do. Well, it’s a miracle that we even have children because in the beginning she refused to get off of birth control, later would not “be” with me, and literally pushed and drove me away with her always threatening to move. Truth is I’ve decided if she ever does that again, I will not try to stop her.
Women get away with treating me like pimp daddies with feelings. The truth is that we are constantly bombarded unfairly in society and because of the changing roles of men and women in society we are pushed further and further down on the ladder. Decent jobs are harder to come by. The economy does make a difference, and depending on the type of job he had and his mental and physical condition. If he’s like me, he may be tired of feeling used and marginalized by not only society but also his own wife. The more you push him away the worse it will become. If those 3 children are only yours and not his, then why is it so bad he stays home with them? It’s true that I’m a grad student and he probably isn’t, but not everyone has the same talents.
It sounds like he’s deeply depressed. Be careful what you wish or strive for, you might get it and then look at the mess you’ll have to clean up. One of my brothers took his life after growing up in a broken family. Is that the message you wish to teach your children? I think not. You will survive. You’re just stressed. And if you’re that close to graduation from college, then why not get a better job, like you expect your husband. He may have had a mental breakdown and you want to abandon him in his time of need. I don’t know either of you or those on this thread. But for your sakes, get both of you to see a priest in your area that has a counseling background. Catholic Charities is your best bet, drag him there if you need to after giving him an ultimatum or something. However, be very careful. The pain of my wife threatening to leave me (for now good reason) in the past has left me feeling the only reason I never left her was not to destroy her. I protected her from her own self-destructive behavior. Had we no children I would never have convalidated our marriage. There, I was finally openly honest about how I feel. I keep those secrets to myself and plan to continue. However, each time she says something mean or pointless that intentionally hurts me to get through something, just pushes the possible date of a “D” word closer. I’m avoiding it. But being infinitely put off for sex with no really good reason is unacceptable, particularly after making be feel like a dog that always wants it. What’s wrong with a man wanting to love his wife? Women need to stop treating men like animals as if we don’t have feelings or as if we can’t do without. I’m perfectly capable of being celebate. I’ve lived the life. She threw herself at me in the beginning, not me. I was just in a weakened state and fell for her. I didn’t know I’d be in the middle of a person with Borderline personality disorder. I wold say she is mentlaly ill, but I love her.
Women get away with treating me like pimp daddies with feelings. The truth is that we are constantly bombarded unfairly in society and because of the changing roles of men and women in society we are pushed further and further down on the ladder. Decent jobs are harder to come by. The economy does make a difference, and depending on the type of job he had and his mental and physical condition. If he’s like me, he may be tired of feeling used and marginalized by not only society but also his own wife. The more you push him away the worse it will become. If those 3 children are only yours and not his, then why is it so bad he stays home with them? It’s true that I’m a grad student and he probably isn’t, but not everyone has the same talents.
It sounds like he’s deeply depressed. Be careful what you wish or strive for, you might get it and then look at the mess you’ll have to clean up. One of my brothers took his life after growing up in a broken family. Is that the message you wish to teach your children? I think not. You will survive. You’re just stressed. And if you’re that close to graduation from college, then why not get a better job, like you expect your husband. He may have had a mental breakdown and you want to abandon him in his time of need. I don’t know either of you or those on this thread. But for your sakes, get both of you to see a priest in your area that has a counseling background. Catholic Charities is your best bet, drag him there if you need to after giving him an ultimatum or something. However, be very careful. The pain of my wife threatening to leave me (for now good reason) in the past has left me feeling the only reason I never left her was not to destroy her. I protected her from her own self-destructive behavior. Had we no children I would never have convalidated our marriage. There, I was finally openly honest about how I feel. I keep those secrets to myself and plan to continue. However, each time she says something mean or pointless that intentionally hurts me to get through something, just pushes the possible date of a “D” word closer. I’m avoiding it. But being infinitely put off for sex with no really good reason is unacceptable, particularly after making be feel like a dog that always wants it. What’s wrong with a man wanting to love his wife? Women need to stop treating men like animals as if we don’t have feelings or as if we can’t do without. I’m perfectly capable of being celebate. I’ve lived the life. She threw herself at me in the beginning, not me. I was just in a weakened state and fell for her. I didn’t know I’d be in the middle of a person with Borderline personality disorder. I wold say she is mentlaly ill, but I love her.