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Baho
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Me too honestly it’ll be nice to watch the chiefs squash them tonight.
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Greenfields
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It is good you are wanting to protect her honour,I would not like attention from other men ,it wouldn’t be good for me or my marriage if I were in one.
It’s a real lack of respect from the other men and it kind of shows that you need to avoid those places where they aren’t respectful.God bless.
It’s a real lack of respect from the other men and it kind of shows that you need to avoid those places where they aren’t respectful.God bless.
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DeniseNY
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Texans won’t be the same without DeAndre Hopkins. But we’re off topic, so I’ll stop at that!
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NevermoreLenore
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Asking your wife how she feels about a situation or action directed at HER is new age and passive? Yikes. I’ll let my husband know he should just go all caveman next time I’m appreciated by another man
. As a woman, the response from my husband that makes me feel safe and sexy is when he puts an arm around me, looks the man in the eye with a smile and wink or nod, and I know I get to go home with him. Usually, the catcalling or hitting upon man smiles and nods back in appreciation. Now, is that so difficult? I know my husband would defend me in an instant if anything was physical or continued to be inappropriate; he was in law enforcement and can take a man down in a flash. He’s also wise and knows de escalation is preferable and that he doesn’t need to puff out his chest and claim his woman to be masculine. Probably helps he’s well over six feet. And he truly cares about how something effects me and how I’d prefer it be handled…there is nothing new age about respecting your wife.The more I’m on CA and see these discussions, the more I adore my husband and am grateful he’s a true man of God and my partner and protector.
Edited to add: the husband is home and I presented the scenario of the OP…he said ‘I’d put my arm around you and look the guy in the eye, and we’d carry on’. That’s not ‘bottom lobster’ stuff, whatever that means.
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Beryllos
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That is stretching the Catechism ever so slightly. CCC 2265 says “Legitimate defense can be not only a right but a grave duty for one who is responsible for the lives of others.”
“Can be a grave duty” does not imply that it would be a sin not to.
“Responsible for the lives of others” is significant too. One is under no obligation to kill an aggressor in order to protect oneself.
This passage appears to me to apply to police, military, and those protecting their spouses and families.
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neophyte
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It’s odd that you claim that it doesn’t imply what it explicitly says.
Yes. It affirms that I have the duty to defend my family.
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Beryllos
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I’m just going by the words on the page, not changing them to mean something more. It does not say that it would be a sin to fail in this duty. You said that on your own.
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neophyte
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You appear to not understand the meaning of the words “grave” and “duty”.
farronwolf
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So, didn’t read all the responses, but did notice the OP hasn’t commented since the first post.
Remember the old saying you learned growing up. Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.
If someone cat calls your wife, girlfriend, or you if you happen to be a woman, most states will not allow you to assault that person without you being labeled the aggressor. There is no need to physically defend yourself from words unless those words go directly to your or someone’s personal safety.
I taught CHL/LTC classes for many years and this was something that I couldn’t stress enough.
Not certain what type of establishments the OP goes to but if he frequents places where this type of verbal or any physical behavior happens at all he needs to rethink his choice of establishments.
I am not saying this is what is happening, but if it is a case where the wife dresses in a certain manner and actually looks for the attention that the OP finds offensive, he seriously needs to work on his marriage.
If out in public and someone puts their hand on his wife, he and she need to make it clear that is not acceptable to the offender and move on without escalating the situation. Not argue, not escalate, report the the manager/owner and move along.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to put up physical abuse of your spouse, it will be a bad day if someone touches my wife inappropriately and doesn’t move along when told to. We stopped going to bars a long, long time ago so the likelihood of that ever happening is slim to none.
Remember the old saying you learned growing up. Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.
If someone cat calls your wife, girlfriend, or you if you happen to be a woman, most states will not allow you to assault that person without you being labeled the aggressor. There is no need to physically defend yourself from words unless those words go directly to your or someone’s personal safety.
I taught CHL/LTC classes for many years and this was something that I couldn’t stress enough.
Not certain what type of establishments the OP goes to but if he frequents places where this type of verbal or any physical behavior happens at all he needs to rethink his choice of establishments.
I am not saying this is what is happening, but if it is a case where the wife dresses in a certain manner and actually looks for the attention that the OP finds offensive, he seriously needs to work on his marriage.
If out in public and someone puts their hand on his wife, he and she need to make it clear that is not acceptable to the offender and move on without escalating the situation. Not argue, not escalate, report the the manager/owner and move along.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to put up physical abuse of your spouse, it will be a bad day if someone touches my wife inappropriately and doesn’t move along when told to. We stopped going to bars a long, long time ago so the likelihood of that ever happening is slim to none.
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