How to respond to angry, rude people?

[JanR]

Shaming sometimes helps. There was a very nasty lady on another forum that I like to visit and post on. She was nasty to me in a post, and I turned around and wished her the best. I went out of my way to be kind to her. Never heard from her, again. Rude people usually aren’t expecting that response, and it can calm the waters considerably.

 

[lwest]

You could try saying, “I believe what the Church teaches about homosexuality. I will never apologize for that. If you don’t like that, you don’t have an issue with me, you have an issue with God so why don’t you just get out of my face and go take it up with Him?” I’ve tried that. It’s worked. If that doesn’t work, hit him over the head with a frying pan (just kidding there)

 

[blackforest]

Can I tell him basically to shut up? Or should I just sit there and take it?

You have another alternative: Gray rocking. What Is the Grey Rock Method? | E-Counseling.com

This is normally a technique to use with narcissists, and I don’t know from one thread if this person in your life is clinically narcissistic. But the Gray Rock method works on pretty much anyone who likes to stir up drama. Avoiding people like this guy completely is your first choice, but gray rocking is great for people you can’t avoid. Most important, it keeps you grounded.

In the meantime, remember to pray for him, that he finds peace in his heart and peace with God.

 

[MarkoB0726]

If you’re not doing anything to hurt or insult the other person, then the best thing to do is completely ignore them. Act as if they don’t exist no matter how angry, loud or in your face they get.

At the end of the day, THEY are the ones making themselves angry, NOT you.

 

[Sarcelle]

Act as if they don’t exist no matter how angry, loud or in your face they get.

I bet parents of toddlers have had to learn this skill.

 

[1Lord1Faith]

You have another alternative: Gray rocking.

Grey rocking…that’s an interesting name for it. I’ve used that technique quite a bit, but I never knew there was a name for it. I suppose it does work. For me, the idea behind using it would have been to not draw attention from someone who I felt was either threatening or just annoying.

I was always taught to either ignore people like the OP is referring to, or just to not let them get a rise out of you. That advice was given to me when I was young from my parents.

 

[redbetta]

Assuming they don’t own the apartment, maybe your friend should consider moving? Personally, I’d fear for my safety living with a guy this insane, especially nowadays when people are killing and harming each other for holding views they don’t like. I mean, this guy has seriously convinced himself that you and your friends want him dead because he is gay.

Is there a way to kick HIM out?