How to stand up to a bully in high school

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I am a freshman in high school and this girl on my track team has been bullying me for a while now. I want to stand up to her and fight back, but I’ve always been taught that Jesus says to turn the other cheek. Is there anything I can do? I’d be happy to provide more details on the situation if that would help.
 
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Yes, talk to your coach. I think in your shoes I would ignore her as much as possible. Reacting is giving her what she wants.
 
I’d pray for her. I’d probably ask Our Lady to pray for me and her. If you’re sincere in your prayer it would help greatly.

When someone bullies you they do themselves more harm than they do you believe it or not. In just one way for example, they remember for many years if not for life how they behaved, sinned, and were diminished by it, whereas you remember for life how you suffered and grew by it. The obvious ‘winner’ is an illusion.
 
I would let the coach know if it’s getting worse and otherwise I’d laugh it off and forget about it. Your self-worth is not based on how this girl treats you, it is based on you being loved by Jesus! Know that Jesus died specifically for you. Since the beginning of time, Jesus knew your name and planned on dying for you
 
Turn the other cheek doesn’t mean being a doormat. Talking to the coach might be seen as tattling, which may have repercussions. You have to judge the situation yourself since you know it best.

Often with bullies not showing a reaction can be good. But that doesn’t mean ignoring them. In fact often times making sure they know you see and hear them through eye contact can be good. Sometimes bullies are envigorated by being ignored. Making eye contact with an attitude of interior strength can often accomplish a lot.

Think of Jesus at His trial. While He allowed this to happen He didn’t seem to be like a weak, cowed man.

 
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Verbal, although she has threatened to fight me a few times and thrown some of my things in the mud.
 
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The coach is there when she does it, and he doesn’t do anything about it because she sucks up to him.
 
I would tell the coach then or a teacher or someone in authority, this is not appropriate. I will be praying for you, that you knowing the healing of Jesus and that this bullying stops 🙂
 
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Read the above post, the coach knows, and he says it “builds character”.
 
If you can covertly record her making threats and present that evidence to the appropriate authority figures, (teacher, principal, school police officer,) and make it clear that your coach is doing nothing, that should be enough to get people to take action.
 
This could break the law in some places. Don’t encourage it!
 
It does not build character. I had situations in high school where a few people did not like me and made plenty of comments on a daily basis and at one point, one of them punched me in the nose.

But I laughed it off (since I was a bit of a class clown anyway lol) and eventually they stopped because they realized I wasn’t letting it affect me and I would just continue to do my thing.

As bad as it gets, know that she will regret it later down the road. Not everyone is nice but eventually people have respect for each other. I’m in college and even though people may not like each other, there is respect for each other and these situations don’t happen
 
We throw shot put for indoor track, so she always complains about me throwing farther than her, especially since I’m only a freshman and she’s a sophomore. So whenever I throw farther than her she’ll say something like, “Sarah, if you throw farther than me again, I’m going to throw the shot at you next time.” She says it like she could be joking, and I think the coach thinks she is, but the way she looks at me afterward makes me think otherwise.
 
If the coach is like that then others above him may also be like that.
 
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Verbal, although she has threatened to fight me a few times and thrown some of my things in the mud.
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A school coach who stands by and allows one student to vandalize the property of another student needs to be reprimanded by their superior.

Go and present the facts:

On Tuesday afternoon Sally Smith took my book and my purse and my shoe and threw them in the mud. Coach Jones witnessed this incident, as did Julie Smith and Betty Smith. I would appreciate it if this behavior can be addressed by the administration. Thank you.
 
OP is a juvenile, I doubt she would get in serious trouble, based on the circumstances if recording is restricted in her state.
 
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