How to stand up to a bully in high school

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That does sound like friendly rivalry to me, however, most schools have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to threatening violent actions. Document and take it upstream.
 
We can’t encourage minors to break the law on CAF. Read the forum rules.
 
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We do not even know if it is against the law where she lives.
 
OP mentioned that the other girl threw her things in the mud.
 
No one is. Some people are speculating it may break a law. I have no idea on what basis anyone would so speculate as it certainly wouldn’t be a malum in se crime.
 
TheLittleLady said:
A school coach who stands by and allows one student to vandalize the property of another student needs to be reprimanded by their superior.

Go and present the facts:

On Tuesday afternoon Sally Smith took my book and my purse and my shoe and threw them in the mud. Coach Jones witnessed this incident, as did Julie Smith and Betty Smith. I would appreciate it if this behavior can be addressed by the administration. Thank you.
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Please read my advice.
 
It doesn’t matter. As per your post 20, you said she may get off lightly if it is. That’s not the advice we should ever give, especially when it’s a minor.
 
I brought a little Tsum Tsum duck (it’s adorable, it has a hat and a scarf and everything XD) that I got for Christmas to school and was showing it off to my friends, and she asked to see it. I gave it to her, of course, forgiving her for the things she did to me in the past. She and her friend began tossing it back and forth in an attempt to keep it out of my reach. At one point it “accidentally” was tossed in the mud. The girl replied by saying “Well, you should have told us you didn’t want us to play with it.”
 
So, if you do not think this was an accident, you replace “purse and book” with “little Tsum Tsum duck” and ask for the situation to be addressed.
 
It would take a special type of stupidity or malice to charge a victim defending themselves, I do not put that past the authorities however.

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See if you can find out what the legal restrictions on recording are. If it is illegal for some reason, get the school resource officer or another authority figure to shadow you so that they can see what the other girl is doing. Bottom line is, stand up for yourself. You have the right and you owe it to yourself. I will pray asking the Templars martyred by Saladin to give you the courage and strength you need.
 
The huge problem here is I have a social disorder that impairs my ability to pick up on social cues, (the girl doesn’t know about this, so she doesn’t make fun of me for that) so I honestly can’t tell if she hates me or if she doesn’t mean anything by it.
 
Ahhhh, that is a horse of a different color!

Work with a professional counselor to help learn to navigate these social situations.
 
OP, I notice that your profile has your full name on it. I’d remove it in case your bully might discover this account while looking for dirt on your online. It wouldn’t be the first time a bully used someone’s social media against them.

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My dad told me I should fight her since I’m twice her size. My mom encourages me to bully her back and use the “eye for an eye” method, throwing her stuff in the mud when she throws mine.
 
Don’t worry, it’s a fake name anyway. I never use my real name online.
 
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Don’t do that, you will likely be the one that gets in trouble considering she sucks up to the coach.
 
I know, and that’s not really my style anyway…I’m very shy in most cases and tend to cry more than I rage.
 
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The coach is there when she does it, and he doesn’t do anything about it because she sucks up to him.
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Ok, the next step is to schedule a meeting with an administrator between this young lady and yourself. Please don’t sink to her level by retaliating or by trying to manipulate her into threatening you on tape. You are 14 and need to learn how to deal with interpersonal problems like an adult.
 
I am amazed at your parents response. Both of those suggestions could backfire and get you in trouble.
I would suggest you go speak to a guidance counselor and ask what to do when a student bullies you and the adult in charge does nothing even though they witnessed it. You can do this without mentioning who it is if you want. Say that you want advice on what to do.
 
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