How to treat young, unwed mothers

[Lorrie]

Lilyofthevalley:

The thing I do NOT understand is young, unwed, mothers pregnant by three or four different men.
It makes me wonder what are they thinking>?

This makes me wonder what YOU are thinking? Do you have a link or anything to back up your statement? I mean, I don’t think its possible for a woman to get pregnant by 3 or 4 different men (having one baby). I **think **a man’s sperm has a dominating factor when it comes to competing with other sperm. I may be wrong.

 

[rubycanoe]

hello,
I am wondering how we treat the young unwed fathers who abandon their children? Why is the woman the bad person who society looks down on , when they are being noble by raising their children and not having an abortion? Or because they didnt use birth control like all the hypocrits? It is a sin to use birth control, it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage. So the one who got pregnant is probably less of a sinner than all the millions who used birth control. Just something to think about, I know there are exceptions where some were using birth control but got pregnant anyway. I cant believe people in our society treats you like garbage, because you were made female by God so the man is not looked down upon even thought he has chosen to abandon his child, think how much more hurtful his actions are than hers. She is being unselfish and loving by becoming a mother.God bless all the single mothers!!!

 

[Mom_of_5]

Pious Redeemer:

I know lots of couples that live together, aren’t married and have babies. I don’t treat them any other way than other people. It’s their choice of life, and I don’t have the right to judge them about their choice.

I am not sure that this is what the thread is all about. We should NEVER treat children anyway except the way Jesus would want us to. HOWEVER, we are to judge the actions of the parents, you talk about, who live together and purposely have children without the benefit of marriage. This is wrong, wrong, wrong. We have this situation in our family. The children have suffered for the parental decision. Even though “shacking up” is becoming more and more acceptable, the damage it does to children is not acceptable. We have always treated these grandchildren the same as all the rest of our large family, they really need our support. We try to encourage the parents to marry, so far to no avail.

I was the product of rape. I experienced mixed reactions by my family. My uncle adopted me. Some relatives just stood and stared at me, whispered behind my back, when I was a child. Others went out of their way to love and accept me. No child is a mistake. It is important that we try to teach our children to wait for marriage to engage in sexual activity, but all our teaching and preaching will never put an end to “out of wedlock” pregnancy. I really doubt that most young people have sex in order to bring a child into the world. It is called " raging homones". We need to be kind and helpful and try to get the young parent(s) back on the track of chastity.

Love and peace,
Mom