How would being raised by a homosexual couple be bad for an adopted child?

[Theo520]

I’d say the extensive number of international adoptions is proof positive we have an excess of financially capable US parents ready and willing to adopt children. There is no need for resorting to same sex or single parents for adoption.

If any US children are not being adopted then it is because they are older and deeply troubled. How is a same sex adoption more likely to give these children what they need?

 

[clem456]

Someone on this forum once said that being raised by a heterosexual couple was what is best for a child in need of adopting.

But what is wrong with a homosexual couple raising a child? Explain in detail how it can be deleterious to the childs well being.

The child is denied the intimate experience of the only institution which brings about human existence, and instead is subject to a lie about that institution.

Every child has rights. We should not violate those rights. It is a coarse and blind society that cannot acknowledge the rights of children.

 

[bitterhope]

I’d say the extensive number of international adoptions is proof positive we have an excess of financially capable US parents ready and willing to adopt children. There is no need for resorting to same sex or single parents for adoption.

If any US children are not being adopted then it is because they are older and deeply troubled. How is a same sex adoption more likely to give these children what they need?

Yet most children eligible for adoption never get adopted at all. Many of the “deeply troubled” older children are that way because nobody seems to believe they deserve a chance. They are not given an opportunity in a large part because traditional parents pass them over for younger children. That is why so many opt for international adoptions. They are more likely to find babies and preschoolers instead.

 

[estesbob]

Yet most children eligible for adoption never get adopted at all. Many of the “deeply troubled” older children are that way because nobody seems to believe they deserve a chance. They are not given an opportunity in a large part because traditional parents pass them over for younger children. That is why so many opt for international adoptions. They are more likely to find babies and preschoolers instead.

None of which justifies placing children I a disordered family

 

[bitterhope]

None of which justifies placing children I a disordered family

How is it more just to deny them a family? Is it better these children aren’t ever born? You do realize that many pro choice people think pro life people stop caring about kids once they are born precisely due to arguments like that. The kids are here but they are better left with no home and no family after they lose their bio family for whatever reason? Until such time as these kids are all fought over by traditional families I can’t see stopping gays and singles from adopting if they choose. At least these kids are born and not aborted. The same people that push so hard against gays adopting should be pushing to fix the system and society so that these kids aren’t treated as property, viewed as so broken they aren’t deserving of a family’s love, and banished from the view of “traditional” families so that life can go on as if they don’t exist.

 

[estesbob]

How is it more just to deny them a family? Is it better these children aren’t ever born? You do realize that many pro choice people think pro life people stop caring about kids once they are born precisely due to arguments like that. The kids are here but they are better left with no home and no family after they lose their bio family for whatever reason? Until such time as these kids are all fought over by traditional families I can’t see stopping gays and singles from adopting if they choose. At least these kids are born and not aborted. The same people that push so hard against gays adopting should be pushing to fix the system and society so that these kids aren’t treated as property, viewed as so broken they aren’t deserving of a family’s love, and banished from the view of “traditional” families so that life can go on as if they don’t exist.

You are not denying them a family. you are sparing immersing them to an intrinsically disordered and sinful relationship. They deserve better than that

 

[Theo520]

Yet most children eligible for adoption never get adopted at all. Many of the “deeply troubled” older children are that way because nobody seems to believe they deserve a chance. They are not given an opportunity in a large part because traditional parents pass them over for younger children. That is why so many opt for international adoptions. They are more likely to find babies and preschoolers instead.

First, the majority of children in Foster care are not available for adoption. Of the remainder, they are hard to place, many have siblings. The foster system itself has also been shown to avoid/discourage adoption due to the financial impacts to their budgets.
ipt-forensics.com/journal/volume10/j10_10_18.htm

We could probably solve the issue with a proper marketing effort, and support by the Foster system.

 

[bitterhope]

First, the majority of children in Foster care are not available for adoption. Of the remainder, they are hard to place, many have siblings. The foster system itself has also been shown to avoid/discourage adoption due to the financial impacts to their budgets.
ipt-forensics.com/journal/volume10/j10_10_18.htm

We could probably solve the issue with a proper marketing effort, and support by the Foster system.

If you notice, I said most children eligible for adoption. Most foster children with remain in care until the age out or are reunited with birth families. I’m not denying that. Yes, the system is set up wrong and needs to be fixed. Kids deserve better than what we put them through. Until such time as kids are truly valued as the precious blessings they are nothing will change. The kids are at the mercy of society at large and no one really cares what happens to them.

 

[bitterhope]

You are not denying them a family. you are sparing immersing them to an intrinsically disordered and sinful relationship. They deserve better than that

By immersing them into something worse. They deserve better than that

 

[kozlosap]

By immersing them into something worse. They deserve better than that

Yes they do, and thankfully, education and personal experience are helping more and more people to realize that old saying, “there, but for the grace of God…” Is quite true. They are coming to the conclusion that a person is much more than who he or she sleeps with or is in love with. Children who need a parent to love and support them are certainly not worried about their Mom or Dad being LGBTQ. Steve Jobs should have understood, that according to some, Tim Cook is intrinsically disordered and should not be allowed to run one of the most valuable corporations in the world.

 

[edwest2]

Yes they do, and thankfully, education and personal experience are helping more and more people to realize that old saying, “there, but for the grace of God…” Is quite true. They are coming to the conclusion that a person is much more than who he or she sleeps with or is in love with. Children who need a parent to love and support them are certainly not worried about their Mom or Dad being LGBTQ. Steve Jobs should have understood, that according to some, Tim Cook is intrinsically disordered and should not be allowed to run one of the most valuable corporations in the world.

On a Catholic forum, the facts matter. A child’s development is at stake. The Church has closed its own adoption agencies as opposed to complying with what someone else thinks is right. A proper understanding of what a family is matters.

lifenews.com/2012/07/09/thirty-six-couples-wait-for-every-one-baby-who-is-adopted/

Ed

 

[bitterhope]

Yes, a child’s development is at stake. How do you suggest foster care or institutions are better for a child’s development? Do you think that a biological child should be removed from gay or single parents, or just no orphaned kid should be placed with them? How is it developmentally better for kids to have no one permanent in their lives to whom the belong and who lived them unconditionally?

 

[bitterhope]

Yes they do, and thankfully, education and personal experience are helping more and more people to realize that old saying, “there, but for the grace of God…” Is quite true. They are coming to the conclusion that a person is much more than who he or she sleeps with or is in love with. Children who need a parent to love and support them are certainly not worried about their Mom or Dad being LGBTQ. Steve Jobs should have understood, that according to some, Tim Cook is intrinsically disordered and should not be allowed to run one of the most valuable corporations in the world.

I grew up with foster siblings, most who were never adopted even if eligible, who still come to family reunions when we all get together. I know they would have loved having any parents to call their own. My parents couldn’t adopt them but had no problem unofficially claiming them as their own. Unfortunately that paperwork means a lot to the kids. It makes it permanent and is a sign of love. They all came to Daddy’s funeral, even ones that we never see otherwise. Kids deserve better than we put them through

 

[jmcrae]

Yes, a child’s development is at stake. How do you suggest foster care or institutions are better for a child’s development? Do you think that a biological child should be removed from gay or single parents, or just no orphaned kid should be placed with them? How is it developmentally better for kids to have no one permanent in their lives to whom the belong and who lived them unconditionally?

No, instead we give them to military families and larger families who are currently being denied permission to adopt them, since this would be better for them.

 

[bitterhope]

No, instead we give them to military families and larger families who are currently being denied permission to adopt them, since this would be better for them.

That would be awesome. Start pushing for legislation. I’m all for traditional family, it’s the best for everyone. In the meantime the kids can’t wait. They need parents.

 

[jmcrae]

That would be awesome. Start pushing for legislation. I’m all for traditional family, it’s the best for everyone. In the meantime the kids can’t wait. They need parents.

I think the real question is, if military families and families with two or more children are “unfit” to raise orphaned children, then why are homosexuals considered “fit”?

 

[estesbob]

That would be awesome. Start pushing for legislation. I’m all for traditional family, it’s the best for everyone. In the meantime the kids can’t wait. They need parents.

I am still having a difficult time understanding how a flawed adoption system justifies placing children in a sinful environment?

 

[Robert_Sock]

If there is love in a family, the children in that family is going to grow up fine. You don’t need a PhD in psychology to guess this likely outcome, but I think of it as what I call “Grandma Psychology” because every grandmother knows the outcome.

To think that the children are going to grow up confused and mentally inadequate is paranoia.

We forget that God has a will and id full of love, and that He will help these children, and He does all children.

I’m not saying that growing up in a gay household is good, but that with love these children are going to have a good deal of resiliency when it come to gay parenting.

 

[HelenRose]

A child who has lost his or her mother or father is deeply wounded.

It does not matter why this loss happened - death, divorce, neglect, abandonment, eggs or sperm donation.

A child will feel the deep sense of loss. It is a pain that, although can be accepted and understood and the “life goes on” attitude is nurtured, this pain will never really leave the heart.

Children who are deliberately separated from their mother or their father also know the deep betrayal that has happened to them. They know that either their mother or father abandoned them or that their mother and father were forcibly taken from them.

It is important that such a child receive the unique gift of having an adopted mother or father to take the place of the person missing in his or her life. Because they long for a mother and a father.

I expect that a same sex couple, if no other option is available, would be able to give a child a good life and be able to help a child overcome the dreadful knowledge that, for whatever reason, their mother and father are not in their life. But why would anyone want to deliberately place this burden on any child is beyond my comprehension.

 

[Robert_Sock]

A child who has lost his or her mother or father is deeply wounded.

It does not matter why this loss happened - death, divorce, neglect, abandonment, eggs or sperm donation.

A child will feel the deep sense of loss. It is a pain that, although can be accepted and understood and the “life goes on” attitude is nurtured, this pain will never really leave the heart.

Children who are deliberately separated from their mother or their father also know the deep betrayal that has happened to them. They know that either their mother or father abandoned them or that their mother and father were forcibly taken from them.

It is important that such a child receive the unique gift of having an adopted mother or father to take the place of the person missing in his or her life. Because they long for a mother and a father.

I expect that a same sex couple, if no other option is available, would be able to give a child a good life and be able to help a child overcome the dreadful knowledge that, for whatever reason, their mother and father are not in their life. But why would anyone want to deliberately place this burden on any child is beyond my comprehension.

We live in anything but a ideal world and we all ought to grieve our exile. We live in a fallen world and we’re all in this together. Everybody fights for their rights, but few want responsibilities and sacrifice for the true benefit of others.

I believe that homosexuality is disordered, but not to the point of them necessarily lacking love and making respectful parents.