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Hi! I need some honest opinions here. I am a traditional catholic, and I was married to my husband for 18 months and had to leave him because of emotional and physical abuse. I had a 9 month old baby and I was 3 months expecting. Both of my children were born with a rare disease that causes muscle deterioration (pompe disease). My husband was never interested in the children and was angry when I told him I was expecting our Second Son. Prior to marriage he actually thought he was sterile, which he did not reveal to me until 5 months of being engaged. actually, I did not want to marry somebody who could not have children but at that point I felt obliged to marry him. I was 21 and very ignorant about many important things. I grew up being abused by my father and I never thought I would end up marrying somebody just like my father, but I did. (BTW my husband is 15 years older than I am) anyway, my husband makes loads of money, of which I never saw of course. I moved back to my home state over a thousand miles away from my husband and I was working odd jobs because he was not paying child support. We went through a divorce and he told me I could have full custody of the children if I agreed that he was to pay only half of the ordered child support. My husband is obsessed with money, and I wasn’t allowed to use any except for groceries. My husband is a very severe control freak. And I mean very severe control freak. I could not budge, even the way I fed the baby and what I fed him made my husband angry.
The day our first child was born my husband was very angry, he did not want the responsibility of a child, he threw around pots and pans in the kitchen cursing and using God’s holy name in vain. He starved me after I gave birth and I had a very severe infection. he was screaming and yelling at me and telling me I should never have married him. And on the way home from the hospital, he almost killed us from driving recklessly. I am still traumatized from that event.
And now it has been three years since I have left. And now here is where I want a pinions. I am trying for annulment because during these past three years my husband has never given any effort to see the children, he never asks about them, he has never seen our second son, he doesn’t even know the color of his hair or his eyes, he never asks for pictures and he never asked how they’re doing with their disease. I wouldn’t tell him any information because I want him to ask, I want him to be interested. I did send him a picture of the boys after I had given birth but he did not make any comment except criticize me that are older son’s clothes did not match.
The day our first child was born my husband was very angry, he did not want the responsibility of a child, he threw around pots and pans in the kitchen cursing and using God’s holy name in vain. He starved me after I gave birth and I had a very severe infection. he was screaming and yelling at me and telling me I should never have married him. And on the way home from the hospital, he almost killed us from driving recklessly. I am still traumatized from that event.
And now it has been three years since I have left. And now here is where I want a pinions. I am trying for annulment because during these past three years my husband has never given any effort to see the children, he never asks about them, he has never seen our second son, he doesn’t even know the color of his hair or his eyes, he never asks for pictures and he never asked how they’re doing with their disease. I wouldn’t tell him any information because I want him to ask, I want him to be interested. I did send him a picture of the boys after I had given birth but he did not make any comment except criticize me that are older son’s clothes did not match.
