Husband was laid off today

[rayne89]

Well I just got home from work. It went pretty well. I took Vicoden when I first got there. I sat on a stool pretty much most of the night. Towards the end of the night I hd a little pain but I think the Vicoden was wearing off. (Normally at home I don’t need the Vicoden.) I’m scheduled 2 days this week. I told them we can try 3 next week as long as I have a day off inbetween (like m/w/f). I’m tired too so I’ll probably be hitting the sack early tonight.

I went and picked up some rx samples from my doctors’ offices today to try to offset the $ of some of my meds. That was a relief.

Thanks so much for your prayers, if you could pray that I can continue working that would wonderful. Thanks again!
God Bless!

 

[Black_Jaque]

Not to be inflammatory, but I could understand Sparkle’s point. You may have misunderstood Sparkle as comparing your husband to hers. But that wasn’t her point.

Sparkle was simply cautioning against overstepping your role. As a husband and a man, I can understand how demoralizing it can be when you lose your job. Having my wife go to work on account of it, against my will, would further demoralize.

There’s a fine line between your actions saying, “I want to help” and saying, “You’re not doing a good enough job, I guess I’ll have to do it myself”. If husband didn’t ask for the help, then you may be coming close to saying the latter.

Sparkle was just issuing a caution - as a sister. However, neither Sparkle and I are in your situation so you are still the best person to make the judgement. We’re just offering something for you to consider in making that judgement. Once you make it - and you have - we’ll back ya.

 

[rayne89]

Black Jaque:

There’s a fine line between your actions saying, “I want to help” and saying, “You’re not doing a good enough job, I guess I’ll have to do it myself”. If husband didn’t ask for the help, then you may be coming close to saying the latter.

If my husband had to “ask” for help I think that would be more demoralizing. I promised my hubby if it was too difficult I would stop but he understood how important it was for me to try. I would NEVER think or say he’s not doing a good enough job and I’m always telling him how much I appreciate how hard he works to support us. His well worn calloused hands of evidence of that.

My husband understands me more then anyone and he knows my heart. I have always been a “fighter” and am becoming more and more frustrated with a body whom isn’t capable of keeping up with my spirit.

Fortunately my return to work has gone well. The last thing I would want to to hurt my husband in anyway. Trust me if I saw that I was hurting him or making him feel worse about the situation I would stay home in a heart beat.

We go through everything together as a team and as a family. And we will get through this too.

God Bless!