I never heard of anyone who would KNOWINGLY refuse heaven and choose hell instead. Who would KNOWINGLY choose to be tortured forever. Give everyone a guided tour of heaven and hell, and then ask them: “which one will you choose”? Then tell them explicitly and in full detail what are the requirements of getting into heaven and what kind of actions will throw you into hell. Moreover a third option should be presented: “none of the above! I wish to stop existing.” Is that too much for an omnipotent God to perform?
Now that would be a fair and decent way to present the options.
Actually, there might exist a diverse set of options that you had never thought of, but which are very “live” possibilities for a 3-Omni God.
Here is a “for instance” possibility - but not one that I would necessarily suggest to be the only or correct one.
Based upon your suggestion that God could simply make human beings that always do the right or good thing and combining that with Kurisu’s point (below) we get one such “live” possibility that overcomes the presumed “injustice” of God, if Hell is supposedly disproportionate to the sin of the sinner.
My point was that if they were to wish they never existed and then it happened, since they never existed, your relationship was never really a thing.
Assuming they just ceased to exist at that point, yes you would still have your memory of them. But that person would be speaking from a place of what I feel would be an extreme situational lack of awareness. Their wishing to not exist comes from a place of blindness to your own concern and love for them, and while your love has value from your perspective, the fact that they cannot see it means that to them, it is not present. Or if it is, it is vastly overshadowed by their own sense of worthlessness. It’s important to be there for them if this is the case in a real situation, but even so, that disregard for your concern and love does hurt, quite a lot.
It seems to me that God would have a lot of ‘splainin’ to do and a lot of heartbreak to fix when the “good” arrive in Heaven and find their loved ones are in Hell.
Seems to me that a perfectly workable solution is to populate Heaven with all humans such that those humans always do the absolutely best thing possible in every instance. For the “good” that state would amount to perfect bliss; whereas for those who prefer to do evil such a place would be odious and extremely unpleasant. (Hell in fact.) Hell, as an experienced reality would be only as “hellish” as the agent’s penchant for evil and dislike of the good.
The reprobate would never rise above their own sordid subjectivity and remain trapped in their subjective hell. Those who could be rehabilitated would suffer some pangs (purgatory) but would eventually elevate their “taste” for the good to the point they would learn to enjoy the experience, while the saints would find the paradisal experience they have always sought. A completely just outcome, and it supports the contention that Hell is our choice with the bonus feature that all of your objections have been answered.
The upside is that the “good” (aka saints) would never know that their loved ones would find the existence hellish since God could “fix it” such that in every observable way, the “damned” would appear to be enjoying the experience as blissfully as the blessed are. No one would be the wiser, except those who prefer their own private hell to the extreme bliss that the true saints enjoy. Best of both worlds - Heaven for the saints, Hell for the pernicious, but the blessed would never realize or suspect all are not blissfully enjoying the experience in the way that they are.
Is this the way it will be? No idea, but it shows your three options are in no way exhaustive.
Again, the problem for those who would choose to not exist is that their loved ones would suffer pain at that prospect. The question now becomes: Why would someone choose not to exist if eternal bliss awaits them and their absence would be intolerable for those who love them? Just seems ungrateful in the extreme. Again, God could “fix” that by replacing their awareness of being with a remade perfect self for the benefit of those who love them, but allow the ungrateful “self” to cease to exist.
