I am questioning whether I even want to be Catholic or Christian at all

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The fact he says he doesn’t feel he belongs is a problem. We need to show him that he does. Doesn’t mean we have to agree with stuff he’s saying. We don’t want to lose him. He’s feeling alienated and whatever our intentions have been, this is how it is for him.
 
Cor_ad_Cor said:
your entire position in this thread boils down to a severe lack of maturity. You’re 19, so that’s kinda ok, but it’s time to start changing that.
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Yes.
halogirl said:
People are being overly harsh to this person who is still so young in my opinion check yourselves we Should be supporting our young men
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He is 19, a legal adult in the USA. That’s old enough to start understanding that you’re not the center of the universe. Men used to have mandatory military service and it knocked a lot of that attitude out of them.
 
Science has recently shown that true adulthood doesn’t begin until 25. Times have changed. 19 is still a tender age and he has a lot of growing to do xx
 
He is not a baby. He is an adult. I taught delinquent youth and in my state, the adult age is 17. You can go to prison for life at that age. You can do everything except vote and drink alcohol at 17. At what age would you consider him to be an adult rather than a baby?
 
Some of these responses are a bit more critical than helpful if you catch my drift.
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A number doesn’t indicate adulthood. Science says 25. I just think as a 19 year old he doesn’t need to come on here and have people being really confrontational with him - I would hate people to judge me as I was at 19. I was a little girl in terms of maturity. Let’s celebrate the good in him xx
 
Whether mandatory military service is a good thing is not my point. My point is that it caused a lot of young men to mature quickly and learn to check their egos at the door.
 
I was not a little girl at 19. Perhaps we should follow science and keep everyone as “children” until they are 25. Since they are children, they should not drive, vote, drink alcohol, use illegal drugs, or have jobs. They can stay in high school until they reach the adult age of 25. Does this really make sense to you?
 
This is exactly the sort of thinking that will keep him a self-centered infant rather than a decent, hardworking man. At nineteen I’d already been out on my own for four years, working full time and going to school. A little of that medicine went a long way toward making me a self-sufficient citizen with a decided aversion to whining.
 
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At nineteen I’d already been out on my own for four years, working full time and going to school.
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You’re a man after my own heart. At 18 my father was fighting a war and by his early 20s he was the sole support of his mother because both of his brothers and his dad had died. I myself was living three states away from my parents and completely supporting myself including paying my own rent by the time I was 21. I don’t like how society keeps encouraging people to stay immature into their late 20s.
 
I was talking about the vague and unhelpful accusations.
 
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I can’t argue with any of you and to be honest don’t want to. I just felt he was struggling and trying to reach out. Peace x
 
Okay, my bad. I try to stay away from those. The usual cast of characters.
 
You could at least give us an example of what you mean so that we know where you are coming from.
 
Not everyone grows up at the same speed. Maybe the OP included. That’s all I was trying to say.
 
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