I'd like the opinion of men

[BibleReader]

Stylus:

I’m one o’ those ladies who dresses modestly. I never wear pants- and ya know what? I’ve never had a boyfriend! So, guys I’d like you to tell me, do you like it at all when you see a girl modestly dressed?

It depends. If a girl has a not-very-feminine shape, snug clothes are not flattering. If she has a feminine shape, snug clothes will turn heads.

In my opinion, young ladies are entitled to dress somewhat non-modestly, and unmarried eligible men are entitled to look and be attracted. That is why God gave women the shape He did, that is why God gave men a “sexual eye” which appreciates the shape.

 

[GWofVA]

Stylus:

I’m one o’ those ladies who dresses modestly. I never wear pants- and ya know what? I’ve never had a boyfriend! So, guys I’d like you to tell me, do you like it at all when you see a girl modestly dressed?

Stylus,

I’m a young man of 19 and I say that you are definitely on the right track. I look around (don’t blame me, how can I find the right girl if I don’t) and I must say that midrifs, tube tops, and the like (all of that which is in vogue) are a not for me. Now, my eye may get diverted momentarily, but I know that those aren’t the clothes of a future friend and Mrs. Personally, I prefer to pay more attention to a girl’s face, her eyes, and her personality than to whatever she tries to show off or accentuate. “Time is fleeting” I heard once and eventually all that is shown will not be worth my time. So, to get to my point. Keep doing what you are and God will lead the right guy to you (or the other way). Just remember, gentlemanly guys like me (to be so bold) are out there … but sometimes we need a push.
“Seek and ye shall find” quote by somebody.
God Bless You and good luck.
GW

 

[wcknight]

GWofVa, I wish you could meet or talk to my daughter.

 

[wcknight]

50 dates ??? to different guys or gals ???

I maybe had a half a dozen dates to different girls at most and my wife about the same.

Unless you’re James Bond or Elizabeth Taylor, most folks are very lucky to date 10 to 15 different potential partners, and I would say that figure is on the high side.

Granted people tend to get married later in life, I still believe it is fairly difficult to be that lucky to meet that many of the opposite sex who are willing to go out with you.

I’m sure that there may a few exceptionally good looking folks who are a lot more lucrative in the dating department.

How many folks out there have had more than 20 different dating partners ??? us wall flowers would really like to know.

 

[wcknight]

Firebug:

Okay, I’m not a man here. heh…Just felt the need to voice my opinion!
Just hang in there, God will send the right man to you. And me too (P.S, God, can you hurry?)

Firebug, as a bit of advice, you may want to move to a more populous state. There may not be a lot of good catches in the state of Colorado …:whacky:

 

[StCsDavid]

Stylus:

I’m one o’ those ladies who dresses modestly. I never wear pants- and ya know what? I’ve never had a boyfriend! So, guys I’d like you to tell me, do you like it at all when you see a girl modestly dressed?

Yes! Absolutely. Dress modestly. I get so tired of seeing young women dressed like Britney Spears. I mean I like a good looking woman as much as the next fellow, but the way women dress, today, they take all the mystery out of it and leave nothing for the imagination. The turn themselves into sexual objects to be used…which often they are.

Another reason is that I sometimes struggle with impure thoughts, a common condition for nearly all men. We really don’t need any gasoline thrown on the fire. I suppose it’s debatable whether the scantily clad woman is the cause of my sin, but why would you want to even indirectly cause another to sin.

Finally, in today’s culture, a modestly dressed woman stands out. You’ll likely get fewer offers to date, but the offers you do get will come from men who don’t just want a roll in the hay.

 

[Augustine]

Stylus:

I’m one o’ those ladies who dresses modestly. I never wear pants- and ya know what? I’ve never had a boyfriend! So, guys I’d like you to tell me, do you like it at all when you see a girl modestly dressed?

I think that a woman looks very femine in a dress. She’d definitely get my attention over any other woman wearing pants. And I don’t mean mini-skirts or leggy dresses, I can do without those.

As for modesty, I find that my wife and my daughter dress beautifully.

There was a time, 10 to 20 years ago, when one could tell a prostitute by the way she dressed, nowadays it’s in to dress like that.

 

[Augustine]

jennstall:

I really do not get the whole “no sleeveless shirts” thing either. If it’s 90 degrees out I’m wearing a sleeveless shirt. Are elbows sexy or something? I’ve never found them so.

Some sleeve-less shirts show some of the breast. Not all of them, it depends on the cut under the armpit.

Also, please, any peace of underwear showing is a no-no, not even any part of the bras, OK?

 

[Augustine]

EsclavoDeCristo:

When I see a girl dressed immodestly it makes me sad.

I second this opinion. All I think, or try to, is how lonely this woman is. She wants and deserves to be loved, but is yelling out loud to the wrong crowd. She won’t get any love, just lust. It saddens my heart…

 

[Augustine]

jennstall:

Just thought of something. If you’re shopping the juniors section at the dept. store, try going to the Misses section.

We only buy the cheapest clothes short of Goodwill at major reatilers such as WalMart, Target, etc, and my wife and daughter have to go out of their way to find a single pair of pants that’s no lower than a couple of inches from the belly button.

 

[Augustine]

BlueRain:

I’m a girl and I wear pants, but I try to pick pants that are decent, which nowadays is getting difficult.

Indeed. But even before the dreaded fashion of low-waisted pants, skin-tight pants have been almost the norm for women. So much so that it’s easy to make out the kind of panties they wear, in case you didn’t know that.

But, please, keep strong in your modesty. May God bless you with an honorable husband.

 

[EquusNomVeritas]

Go modest. You’ll likely find a guy who thinks more of you if you do. Certainly, he will respect you more. Plus it helps guys to keep their minds clean; as an aside, I had a friend who once wrote an article for the paper about how dressing too immodestly should be considered as sexual harassment. Just a little something to keep in mind.

 

[sweetchuck]

Stylus:

I’m one o’ those ladies who dresses modestly. I never wear pants- and ya know what? I’ve never had a boyfriend! So, guys I’d like you to tell me, do you like it at all when you see a girl modestly dressed?

I’m 25, and I would say that if I see a young lady who exposes everything she has, I know already that I’m not going to ask her out. Those who do ask those girls out are asking them out for one reason. Ladies, dress modestly. Otherwise, when you DO have a boyfriend, you won’t know if he’s dating you for you or if he’s dating you with a very specific physical intent for the relationship. A woman who dresses modestly exhibits a high degree of character and self-respect. A woman who immodestly dresses communicates to men that she is an object to be used. She communicates that her physical appearance is her most important attribute. She doesn’t take herself seriously, nor does she want to be taken seriously.

I used to be in a fraternity and we had a few girls show up at a halloween party dressed as Victoria’s Secret models – at a party out in public wearing lingerie! They communicated a very distinct message to all the young men at the party. And, since they thought so little of themselves as to wear intimate apparel in public, they were objectified and treated without respect.

As a 25-year-old male, I know that when I see a proudly exposed midriff or jeans that it looks like it took 14 minutes to put on, I know that that woman who sees herself as an object does not recognize the image of the eternal God her Creator in her. Some men like this scantily clad look, but I know that when I see a beautiful woman who holds herself in high enough esteem so as to not dress in a suggestive fashion, I see a woman who is more than her exterior beauty.

As an aside, I know it must be daggone hard for you girls to shop when our hedonistic culture wants to cover you with less and less cloth. So be countercultural! Buck the trend and demand dignified clothing! Vote with your dollar…take it to another retailer when your favorite retailer tries to objectify you. I gotta be honest: As a man, I don’t know whether you bought your clothes at Banana Republic, Wal-Mart or Goodwill – nor do I care. Respect yourself and you will be respected. You may not get as much attention at a bar than your scantily clad friend, but at least you will know that when you speak you will be heard.

 

[trumpet152]

To give you a quick answer to your question, yes! I love it when I girl dresses modestly! I wish more did!

Stylus, you can do better than the guys looking for immodest girls. You’re obviously a woman of character who wants to please God over all. With these qualities I don’t know why you can’t get a guy to date you (or court you); I would think that type of combination would be irrestistable.