I voted, I want it all.
I want to be attracted to a woman. My wonderful wife (
Marmee79 aka Julie) and mother of our six precious gifts, caught me with her smile as she siphoned a blood donation from me at the Red Cross, in 1985. She was also very nice, and so I asked her if she wanted to come hear some Mozartwhen my new grand piano is delivered. She didn’t have a comeback for that.
Music can have its advantages.
(psst I read somewhere the Holy Father plays Mozart and Beethoven among other things on the piano)
She didn’t have to look like Britney Spears, for obvious reasons – who’d want to marry that sorry wench?
I’m looking for a faithful Catholic. I got one, and she is worth more than her weight in gold. We really didn’t know what that meant completely but we’re a lot closer now. She is faithful enough she just might pull off justifying a twit like me. She and the kids make rosaries by the dozen, and we just love talking daily about our faith at home, and with friends.
Also, I want a woman who will agree to all of the following:
- divorce is simply not an option. we will stay together no matter what, and that means no matter how miserable we are or what other people say, whether from friends or family, TV shows, books, or some other type of “professional” advice. No deal, no compromise. Once we start considering an escape that pollutes our ability to see clearly to work together to solve a problem.
- we will avail ourselves of some type of marriage prep, and go together and entushiastically. Julie and I went to Catholic Charities, but that’s a long story. It was tremendous future payoff for a small time invested.
- after marriage we go to marriage encounter at least once, as soon as practicable preferably. (consider engaged encounter maybe but we never went so I can’t say)
- we will never, ever, assume the other person has an attitude problem, above and beyond our own.
- we will not hold the other responsible for reading our minds. If they forget something or do something for us that we don’t like, it’s ok to admit we don’t like it but not until after we thank the person. Never, ever, sarcastically!
- never withhold negative information from me, when you know that others are judging me. i need to know this. Exception: times of emotional stress, we get calmed down first.
- we will commit to daily prayer, if 10 seconds or 10 minutes, or longer some days. Never a specific time, but the frequency is more important than the duration I think. This will be something we always look forward to and will not be a chore and we will never feel guilty if we miss it. If we do miss it, we reaffirm our love each other – preferably by voice or instant message, email, whatever we got – and get right back to it asap. Preferable on the spot, even if over the phone. On rare occasions, I’ve shared family prayers via telephone while on businesss trips.
Whew. there’s lots more where that comes from but those are a few things that come directly to mind.
Alan
