I'm a gay guy. Should I marry a woman?

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Pope Benedict and Saint John Paul II have written profoundly and clearly about marital love.

In fact Pope Benedict uses the point that “agape perfects eros”. Agape elevates eros and connects it to the supernatural virtues of Faith, Hope and Charity.
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Interesting facts. Who on here disagrees with you?
 
Well you misrepresented the Church’s teaching on romantic love.

I pointed out that Pope B and Pope JP took the idea of romantic love and raised it.

So you can backtrack from your earlier point, or not. It’s on you. Not others.

You may want help from others to obfuscate the point, but that won’t help your shrinking and falling apart point.
 
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Regardless, this thread has entered into a more helpful discussion now. You can choose to engage it, or you can continue to accuse me, point fingers, and be regarded as irrelevant to the discussion at hand.
 
I’ll say that it better represents the Catholic teaching on marriage now that we’ve corrected your earlier assertions.
 
Marriage is about a conjugal union, not a remedy for “feeling alone”.

It’s much bigger than feelings.
 
How is that my definition of marriage?

Immediately I clarified that entering marriage was not simply to satisfy loneliness. Rather, it provides context for why I as a GAY/SSA person would even consider marriage.

My priest didn’t seem to have a problem with it. 😉
 
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You still don’t have the Catholic Church’s definition of marriage in your mind…or any of your many posts here.

saying this or that priest says so…may or may not be true…he would need to be in the middle of this conversation for us to faitfhfully understand his point - not via your proxy…and then and only then would we know what he says…and that still may not mean that his understanding is faithful to the Church.

Pointing to the supposed or in your words “hypothetical” missing man with a collar isn’t an argument.

We need to get the hypothetical woman you were talking about earlier get with the hypothetical priest you’re now talking about.
 
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I agree with you…I think your reply explained the situation very well.
 
Here’s the Catch-22. Would you tell her that you’re gay, with “zip zero attraction,” before marrying her?

If you do tell her, she most likely won’t want to marry you. If you don’t, then you’re being dishonest by omission, and a healthy marriage requires honesty and transparency.

I agree that marriage is MORE than sexual attraction. That does not mean that sexual attraction shouldn’t exist in a marriage. It’s actually an important component.
 
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I’m on my phone so can’t respond as well, but your questions are addressed many times in my other responses so far
 
There is no hypothetical priest.

He is a real priest who was aware of my same-sex attraction.

I told him I never saw myself marrying a woman. But he insisted that I be open to it! If you don’t want to take my word for it, that’s fine with me!
 
Your patience is appreciated. CAF threads get very long very quickly, and it’s hard to sift through 153+ posts to find an answer. I’ll keep digging, but would greatly appreciate a post # when you get a chance.
 
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Probably the first several of my replies. I had to very quickly deal with many accusations about my motives and the hypothetical woman involved.
 
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To answer another question you posed upthread, speaking practically and through Church teaching, you need a healthy sex life to have a healthy marriage. No sane woman of free will would dream of vowing to spend the rest of her life going to bed with a man who had “zip zero” attraction to her. http://www.foryourmarriage.org/marital-sexuality/
The Catholic Church, in its official teaching, has always taken a positive view of sexuality in marriage. Marital intercourse, says the Catechism of the Catholic Church, is “noble and honorable,” established by God so that “spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit.” (#2362).
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Sorry - I haven’t read through all of the drama. I promise to stay civil. 🙂 That said, from what you’ve revealed in your first post, I would respectfully pose that a heterosexual marriage wouldn’t be a good fit for you.
 
I have zip zero attraction to women now. I said that to emphasize the extent of my homosexual attraction now.

Obviously I wouldn’t marry another woman without ANY attraction: I just can’t be confident about the extent of that sexual attraction. But of course I’d want at least some of that there.
 
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