I grew up with the Latin Mass, when it was normal.
It was distancing to have everything said in Latin, with altar servers giving the people’s responses speaking as one who spent most of my early life with the ‘traditional’ Latin Mass. If that no longer happens then the current Latin Masses are not really as they were.
It was wonderful to be able to give our responses together as a community in language everyone understood afterVatican 2
I went to the usual “Latin” Mass every day even as a primary schoolgirl, and also continued daily Mass in the vernacular even long after I was married, early weekday Mass before my husband and children woke. The essence of my devotion was Mass itself, not any trappings, not anything rosy surrounding its celebration in either case.
People weren’t so different and suffered distractions, and so on.
The reality is that we cannot really know others spiritual state and should not judge anyone’s inner devotion.
There is always the danger that all the external devotionals can become the focus themselves, and lead some people to feel they are better than others (the attitudes of some people can sometimes seem to indicate that). I’m not claiming that is true of all, and have a dear nephew and niece who are ‘Traditional Catholics’
In either or any form of Eucharist, no human response to God or the Mass is perfect.
It is up to ourselves to be as sincere and devotional in Mass (and generally,) as possible.
I’m just talking simple realities. I’ve been through times of being frustratingly overzealous and irritating others, but it is my basic nature to go to the heart of things, where truth is clear, honest, and inexpressible.
Try not to cause division in your family when they are already active Catholics. Bide your time in humility and faith, and be truly prayerful and deout at Mass, then make your move according to your desires when you are independent.
God bless you and your family
