I'm getting a vasectomy :)

[Zachary]

I’m pretty sure God doesn’t approve of you saying He doesn’t approve of people who point out the things He doesn’t approve, as taught in the Bible and by His Church.

He approves of this post

 

[O_Sapientia]

OOOOOOPS! Sorry OS. The above post was meant for EMILYOCD.

Many apologies.


Glenda

Ego te absolvo.

I would however caution you a little in discussing mental illness with the poor souls afflicted with those crosses. As you yourself said psychiatric medicine is a minefield. It is constantly evolving and doctors are always working with their patients to seek the best means of treatment. I certainly would say that a second, third or even fourth opinion is desirable, especially when it concerns the possibility in removing the opportunity for a woman to bear children, but sometimes it’s also simply God’s will that a couple not bring forth children. We have to assume that her doctors are correct in her own situation. If she wishes to seek other advice, by all means! But she shouldn’t simply ignore her current doctor’s treatment and diagnosis.

In Jesus and Mary,
OS.

 

[EvelynEVF]

media.ccli.org/resources/brochures/CCL-Vasectomy.pdf

Vasectomy is not a cure-all. The side effects can be devastating.

 

[glendab]

Hello OS.

Ego te absolvo.

I would however caution you a little in discussing mental illness with the poor souls afflicted with those crosses. As you yourself said psychiatric medicine is a minefield. It is constantly evolving and doctors are always working with their patients to seek the best means of treatment. I certainly would say that a second, third or even fourth opinion is desirable, especially when it concerns the possibility in removing the opportunity for a woman to bear children, but sometimes it’s also simply God’s will that a couple not bring forth children. We have to assume that her doctors are correct in her own situation. If she wishes to seek other advice, by all means! But she shouldn’t simply ignore her current doctor’s treatment and diagnosis.

In Jesus and Mary,
OS.

Guess I could’ve written “Ignosces posco!” My latin is clumsy, but if I keep it up, I’ll get there someday.

No, I wasn’t questioning her diagnosis at all, just the “treatment” requirements that she give up her future children to stay well medicated and supposedly better off.

Glenda

 

[glendab]

Hello Hopey!

(God bless you and your wife. Sometimes our cycles can be out of whack and finding a dr to get to the bottom of it, without throwing a pill at you, is hard. There are places out there that might could help your wife, assuming you haven’t tried that. But, if you are in a situation where you are called to avoid children, even for a time being, total abstinence is hard, but not impossible with God’s grace. We work out our salvation this way. Prayers for your family.)

Boldness mine! Excellent answer and that is the bottom line: SALVATION FOR BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE. And guess what? I really don’t think abstinence is that hard. I heard it once said: Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. The joy is in the journey. If you know the day you can, the longing can be dealt with in a simplier way. The singular most important job of a man who is married is to gain eternal salvation for his wife and family. He is the head of the household and needs to point clearly to Heaven in all he says and does. His job is to get wife and children to Heaven. Period. End of playing around. Man up and see the goal like those guys on Crossing the Goal in EWTN land talk about. Oh who is that guy? Danny Abramowicz and his shows can be found here: ewtn.com/vondemand/audio/seriessearchprog.asp?seriesID=7126&T1=crossing+the+goal

It would be excellent if the OP chose this route and actually realized he is NOT ALONE in his struggle with this. Every Catholic who is married and trying to achieve sanctity shares in the fight. Stick with the winners and keep the real goal in mind. Sounds to me after he shared his reasons for the decision that he and his wife have been fighting the good fight, but are temporary having a set-back. It doesn’t mean the battle is over. They simply need to re-group and try again. I am very glad he came here to CAF for some help and encouragement to do the right things. He has been and simply needs to re-commit to doing them all over again. That is exactly how it gets done one day at a time.

Glenda

 

[PaulinVA]

Here’s the deal. OP, in the confessional, how would you answer this question: “Going back in time, would you still do this, knowing what you know now?”

If you answer yes, then you should not present yourself for the sacrament of reconciliation.