But love is defined as willing the good of the other and willing communion with the other, as per St. Thomas’ definition.
I’m not sure if this is true. From what I know, love just means to will the good of something. So, I can love
myself by willing the good for myself without there being the need for some other person. Much the same way, if God is synonymous with his Will and Goodness, and since God is identical to his act of willing himself, then it follows that God is necessarily identical to his act of willing the good, which is essentially Love, meaning that He is Love. There is no need for a
real,
outside of the human mind, distinction between The one who knows/wills, the subject of the knowing/willing, and the act of knowing/willing, since our understanding of God’s knowledge and will are only based on
imperfect and
analogical predicates, meaning that there is
no reason for us to suppose that there is a
real distinction between them, the same way that we know that there isn’t a real distinction between God’s Love, Goodness, Existence, Omnipotence, etc.
Yes, God as Knower/Willer, Object Known/Willed, and Act of Knowing/Willing all say something real about God in their own way, but in God they aren’t
really distinct.
If you have no interest in why God created you, and not just that He did, which, yes, is plain and simple, then we are driven to philosophize for different reasons!
The question of
why is a question of
explanans, or, a question of what the
explanation is for a thing. God’s merely creating this world is purely sufficient, on its own, to answer the question as to
why God created me. There is absolutely no relation
in God to us, otherwise, he would be a composite of substance and accidents. There is only
our relation to Him as creation. God is no different in all possible worlds. In a world where you don’t exist, he is
exactly the same as in a world wherein you do. Interestingly enough, this is the Catholic view as well, that God has no
real relations to us in any meaningful sense, only that we, as creation, have a real relation to Him.
And also, you don’t philosophize because you want to justify your feelings. That’s just not how it works. Sure, Classical Theism paints a picture of God that is very cold. After all, even Catholics agree that God is impassible (he has
no passions or emotions). But this is the truth, and you must seek it whether or not you like it.