I'm still breastfeeding my 2.5 year old - getting negative remarks

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Serap said:
Maria, you and cmscms are both kind people. I think that perhaps written communication sometimes is difficult and can majorly suck.

I highly doubt cmscms would actually slap your child if you were all over the situation and apologetic for your child’s lack of boundaries 😃

Here’s to good mommies despite our differences! 👍
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You are a gracious woman:tiphat:
 
MariaG said:
If you notice I actually never responded to you again.

Let me just say this, clearly if you are slapping a child you are NOT giving a parent a chance to do anything to teach the child anything, you are simplyy acting out against a toddler and hitting them. That is why I told you what YOUR response should have been.

If as a parent I were to notice or it were brought to my attention before the adult involved choose to strike my child I certainly would use it to teach my child about personal boundaries. I certainly would apologize as well for any embarrassment that caused you.

Seriously, if you have children, grandchildren or are around then you need to educate yourself on child development stages instead of smacking children for age appropriate behavior.

So no, absolutely no difference in our responses IF a problem were brought to my attention. Again, my response was given was since you clearly choose not to allow a parent to correct their own child but choose to hit them instead.
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I was around this mom long enough to know she would not do anything. I saw her daughter to it to the grandmother and the mom did nothing

I know a lot about kids and I see a lot of parents NOT take their responsibility. And as I said before, I have the right to have my body respected. More often than not, when a kid does that behaviour in public, it is because they have often done it in private and were not taught in private

Rarely is it innocence
 
cmscms said:
I was around this mom long enough to know she would not do anything. I saw her daughter to it to the grandmother and the mom did nothing

I know a lot about kids and I see a lot of parents NOT take their responsibility. And as I said before, I have the right to have my body respected. More often than not, when a kid does that behaviour in public, it is because they have often done it in private and were not taught in private

Rarely is it innocence
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We are going to have to leave this alone.

God Bless
 
cmscms said:
I was around this mom long enough to know she would not do anything. I saw her daughter to it to the grandmother and the mom did nothing

I know a lot about kids and I see a lot of parents NOT take their responsibility. And as I said before, I have the right to have my body respected. More often than not, when a kid does that behaviour in public, it is because they have often done it in private and were not taught in private

Rarely is it innocence
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What is the difference between not knowing better and innocence for a small child?
 
mini_me640 said:
That was my thought as well.
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:whistle: 😃

After I had kids, I really began to understand children and their innocence. We can all learn a lot from kids. If a toddler/pre-schooler is not taught or corrected, then they remain innocent about a certain behaviour.
 
mini_me640 said:
What is the difference between not knowing better and innocence for a small child?
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I think she means the child in question is unfortunately ignorant, rather than innocent. To me, innocence implies being untainted by the knowledge of evil, not spared from knowledge you need in order to do the good you’re capable of doing, which is what she’s implying is the problem.

A small child who has been spared from knowledge they are not mature enough to use yet is not culpable, but even though they are guilty of no sin, I don’t think I’d use the word innocent, because innocent is a good kind of unknowing.

Young children are capable of learning what they may not touch and when they cannot touch what they are allowed to touch at other times, including respecting the bodies of other people. I think this is what the OP meant. A child who is still breastfeeding can easily learn that he or she only has permission with his or her own mother, and that even that is not universal to every time and situation. It doesn’t require slapping, but it does require a willingness to train the child through firm and consistent correction.
 
EasterJoy said:
I think she means the child in question is unfortunately ignorant, rather than innocent. To me, innocence implies being untainted by the knowledge of evil, not spared from knowledge you need in order to do the good you’re capable of doing, which is what she’s implying is the problem.

A small child who has been spared from knowledge they are not mature enough to use yet is not culpable, but even though they are guilty of no sin, I don’t think I’d use the word innocent, because innocent is a good kind of unknowing.

Young children are capable of learning what they may not touch and when they cannot touch what they are allowed to touch at other times, including respecting the bodies of other people. I think this is what the OP meant. A child who is still breastfeeding can easily learn that he or she only has permission with his or her own mother, and that even that is not universal to every time and situation. It doesn’t require slapping, but it does require a willingness to train the child through firm and consistent correction.
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I can understand your interpretation regarding innocent vs. ignorant. I guess I was looking at it more like innocent vs. culpable.
 
Tell those rude people to mind their own business! Your son will stop when he’s ready. That’s the way it should be not when others tell you he should stop.
 
I was recently told that breastfeeding in public is just like pooping in public - it’s natural but nobody wants to see it happen. My own brother said this to me, and my baby is only 6 months old. My point is, people say some really hurtful things, but that’s a reflection on them, not on you. Do what you think is best and ignore negativity. Look at it from the perspective of eternity, or as if you’re looking back on your life when you’re 97. Will it matter what people thought or said then?
 
guiltycatholic said:
I was recently told that breastfeeding in public is just like pooping in public - it’s natural but nobody wants to see it happen.
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Yeah, I hear that a lot, too, but it’s just plain wrong. The difference is that NO ONE likes to see pooping, and if you do, there is something wrong with you. However, there are plenty of normal, healthy people who smile when they see a woman breastfeeding in public. I submit that the people who would compare breastfeeding to pooping are the ones with something wrong with them.
 
AthenaC said:
Yeah, I hear that a lot, too, but it’s just plain wrong. The difference is that NO ONE likes to see pooping, and if you do, there is something wrong with you. However, there are plenty of normal, healthy people who smile when they see a woman breastfeeding in public. I submit that the people who would compare breastfeeding to pooping are the ones with something wrong with them.
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👍
 
guiltycatholic said:
I was recently told that breastfeeding in public is just like pooping in public - it’s natural but nobody wants to see it happen. My own brother said this to me, and my baby is only 6 months old. My point is, people say some really hurtful things, but that’s a reflection on them, not on you. Do what you think is best and ignore negativity. Look at it from the perspective of eternity, or as if you’re looking back on your life when you’re 97. Will it matter what people thought or said then?
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Tell your brother to go eat his lunch in the bathroom because that is where people want the baby to eat their’s. Sorry, that just annoys me. Thankfully, my family and my hubby’s family were very supportive. I have to say after the 1st one, I was much more comfortable about bfing in public. It is what it is. I am feeding my child. Deal with it. It is much better that I feed them than having them cry their heads off!
 
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