Infertility

[yessisan]

Hello Yessisan, thanks for your advice and thanks for sharing your story, I am so sorry you have had to go through so much suffering and I know your three beautiful children are in Heaven with God. I thank you for your prayers and I will keep you in mine also. Do you have any prayers or novenas you like to use to help get through these times?

You know? I wish I did but I don’t. Lately I can’t pray for myself. I can only pray for other people. I’ve become really distant from God since my second loss, and even more so after the third loss. I was praying one I posted a LONG time ago, I know others have it on here too. I translated it from the Spanish version my grandmother gave me and I posted it for people here to use. When I find it I’ll post it for you. It used to give me a lot of strength. It’s called “A Message From Jesus”. If you search for it here you might be able to find it.

 

[yessisan]

Ok, found it!

A Message from Jesus

Why you are confused and shaken when faced with problems of life?

Leave the care of all your things to me and everything will get better. When you abandon yourself in me, everything will resolve with tranquility according to my will. Do not get desperate, do not direct a shaken prayer at me, as if you wanted to demand the fulfillment of your desires. Close the eyes of your soul and tell me calmly: Jesus, I trust in you.

Avoid the preoccupations and anguishes and the thoughts of what he can happen next. Do not spoil my plans, wanting to impose your ideas on me. Let me be God and act with freedom. Abandon yourself confidently in me. Rest in me and leave your future in my hands. Tell me frequently: Jesus, I trust in you.

What more damage does to you is your reasoning and your own ideas and to want to solve things your way. When you say to me: Jesus, I trust in you, do not be like the patient who asks his doctor to cure him, but he suggests the way to do it. Allow yourself to be carried in my divine arms; do not be afraid, I LOVE YOU.

If you think things are getting worse or are complicated in spite of your prayers continue trusting. Close the eyes of your soul and trust. Continue saying to me at all times: Jesus, I trust in you.

I need my hands to be free to be able to work. Do not tie me up with your useless preoccupations, Satan wants that: to agitate you, anguish you, to take away your Peace. Trust only in ME, abandon yourself in ME. So do not worry, throw all your anguishes at ME and sleep tranquilly. Always tell me: Jesus, I trust in you and you will see great miracles. I promise this to you because of my love for you.

 

[LittleDeb]

A Message from Jesus

Thank you Yessi!! I cannot begin to tell you how much I needed to read this again. I remembered to copy it this time, AND I even know the file where I saved it this time. Thank you Yessi!

 

[yessisan]

Thank you Yessi!! I cannot begin to tell you how much I needed to read this again. I remembered to copy it this time, AND I even know the file where I saved it this time. Thank you Yessi!

I’m glad it helps you Deb! Now if you lose it, you know where to find it online too!

 

[TeamB]

Thank you Yessi that is wonderful! It gave me chills. And I think it is a message I really needed to hear right now especially. I can understand how you are having trouble praying for yourself. I will just have to pray FOR you! I will say it twice every day–one for me and one for you. God Bless you.

 

[Chrish_Tiyan]

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[Convert_in_99]

I cut and pasted this from parenting knowing that you would understand my pain only all too well. I could really use prayers and encouragement. I’m feeling very down in the dumps right now.

We have tried and failed our second round of adoption, our second failed adoption. To those who don’t know what it feels like it is just as intense as having a miscarriage. This came when I am having an extra painful period. (Which being infertile, I mourn as my monthly loss. One more baby I couldn’t have, or did have but lost.) And so am an emotional and physical wreck between the two. One is bad enough, but I feel like I lost TWINS this month. Please continue to pray for us to have children some way somehow and soon. Please pray for my mental state and faith to hold up through all these difficult trials. Sometimes I don’t know how I am going to keep going. But I manage somehow. It’s bad enough being infertile, but to keep being unable to successfully adopt on top of it is just TOO much. Your prayers mean more than you know. Thanks so much. God bless you all.

 

[MomAfterIF]

Hello ladies, I hope you dont mind me jumping in here. I just wanted to say, dont give up. My husband and I tried for a total of 6 years before having our 2 miracles. The first 2.5 years we had 6 miscarriages, the following 3.5 years, we dealt with unexplained infertility before I was put on Clomid, which did the trick. After having my son and daughter back to back, I had yet another miscarriage. My point is though, it may take a while, you may feel as if your heart is breaking or perhaps your body is broken for lack of better words, but please do give it some time. Talk to your doctor, request testing and keep your chin up. Dont forget to pray!

God bless all of you, sending you all tons of baby dust!

 

[Convert_in_99]

Hello ladies, I hope you dont mind me jumping in here. I just wanted to say, dont give up. My husband and I tried for a total of 6 years before having our 2 miracles. The first 2.5 years we had 6 miscarriages, the following 3.5 years, we dealt with unexplained infertility before I was put on Clomid, which did the trick. After having my son and daughter back to back, I had yet another miscarriage. My point is though, it may take a while, you may feel as if your heart is breaking or perhaps your body is broken for lack of better words, but please do give it some time. Talk to your doctor, request testing and keep your chin up. Dont forget to pray!

God bless all of you, sending you all tons of baby dust!

Thank you so much for the encouragement and prayers! Thank you for sharing your IF journey with us! May God bless you and your family. :hug1:

 

[marrykonta]

Hi Ferdinand Mary,

Well,Infertility primarily refers to the biological inability of a person to contribute to conception. Infertility may also refer to the state of a woman who is unable to carry a pregnancy to full term. There are many biological causes of infertility, some which may be bypassed with medical intervention.Women who are fertile experience a natural period of fertility before and during ovulation, and they are naturally infertile during the rest of the menstrual cycle. Fertility awareness methods are used to discern when these changes occur by tracking changes in cervical mucus or basal body temperature.

Thanks

 

[Amber2]

Dear Convert

Your last post was almost unbearable, and I haven’t seen it until now. I hope that you are feeling better and that something good has happened in the adoption process. I wonder how such a thing can happen, I live in a European country and once you are accepted to adopt (internationally) it is just a matter of time.
I wanted to say something else though. You wrote that you had a very painful period. I have endometriosis and also infertility. I just bought a book called “Endometriosis, a key to healing and fertility through nutrition” by Dian Shepperson Mills.
It is quite a serious and heavy book and that offers a lot of insight into the disease and infertility. However I bought it to find a way to relieve the painful periods and I have been on the diet now for almost a month. My first period came after being on the diet for about two weeks and I can honestly say I felt a huge difference. I could sleep all the night through and did not experience any day with constant bad pain from morning till evening, which I experienced before. The book also has a lot of succes stories about women who then became pregnant too. I hope of course that I will eventually be able to become one of them (I am just on my second month of clomid plus this diet. Unfortunately we just found out that my husband has problems too, with the sperm. A huge slap in our faces and a big surprize

I wish you all the best
Amber

 

[ryecroft]

I have had a couple of friends who were considered infertile - but husband’s sperm counts were fine and there were various situations with the friends - one was PCOS - anyway, both of them got pregnant when they used the OVA CUE machine from Zetek - one had been trying for 5 years and was about to try artificial insemination. Witin 3 months of getting and beginning to use the machine, they were pregnant. Just a thought - it is an expensive maching, but you can rent it or rent to own it. I think on it’s own, it’s about $298.00 new. SOmetimes they have some good deals on ebay for them.

God Bless-
Rye Aka Annie

 

[tedfay]

Everyone, there is hope for infertility.

Last September, after five years of trying, my urologist said I had a 0% chance of getting my wife pregnant. Bad sperm morphology - all bad. He even said I couldn’t do IVF - not that I would EVER agree to such a horribly evil procedure.

I prayed diligently. I asked for the intercession of Saint Padre Pio. I fasted.

My wife and I were granted a true, bona-fide miracle. My wife is 8 weeks pregnant.

Of course, there’s a LONG way betwen now and birth. She might miscarry; the urologist said even if my wife did get pregnant there was a high chance of serious defects. However, I will just keep praying - and he was wrong before.

Naturally, there are some circumstances where it’s physically impossible for a couple to get pregnant. I offer my prayers and comfort to anyone who deals with the pain of infertility.

Nevertheless, I wanted to post my testimony so that if you even have a remote chance of getting pregnant, then by all means pray and hope.

God Bless

 

[Amber2]

Dear tedfay

Thank you for your testimony. Yes God can surely perform miracles even when everything is hopeless. I hope that your child will be born alive and well My husband has also just had his sperm result: bad. So maybe your post was for me, to remind me to pray, to remind me to hope, to fast and to believe, because God knows that this fertility struggle sometimes makes me loose hope and almost faith.
God bless you,
A

 

[GreenGirl]

Thank you so much for sharing your story Tedfay. I just can’t tell you how much reading this has meant to me tonight. My husband has gotten almost the same news as you recently. We’ve been struggling with even continuing to hope, to pray. Knowing the answer may very well be no, sometimes it feels like it might just be easier to move on (as best we can). You reminded me that there is almost always a place for hope and prayer.

May God continue to bless you, your wife, and your child! Know your little one will be added to my prayers.

 

[Convert_in_99]

This is a strange question maybe , but I’m just wondering if there are any long term infertility sufferers left on these forums? I know there were a small handful a while back, but they don’t seem to post anymore here (or really anywhere for that matter.) Well, DH and I will be “celebrating” four years TTC in just three months on our fourth anniversary. I have very mixed feelings about this. I’m so happy to be celebrating four years of life together with my husband (five years if you include our dating year .) But, it’s hard to be happy sometimes when you don’t have any blessings to show for those four years of love. It’s getting harder and harder to deal with people as the years pass by and people automatically assume we are contracepting. Even fellow Catholics, which hurts more than anything. We’ve also suffered through the pains of two failed adoptions together. The pain is so intense at times. But obviously our calling is (at least for now) to be infertile. We can’t adopt right now, my health issues are taking over our finances. How do you keep doing this year after year? I remember when I first joined this site a couple years back and first posted here. We were only at the fifteen MONTH mark then. I would never have dreamed we’d be at four YEARS! During this time I’ve seen many people on these forums who have gotten married after us who are on their second or third pregnancy now! I feel so empty, broken, worthless at times. I know the God given purpose of marriage is to have a family, and I feel like I’ve failed him and my husband. Anyone else still out there who has been in this for the long haul? Encouragement, prayers, PLEASE! If you don’t post regularly here anymore, please post now. Please let me know I’m not alone. God bless you all and here’s hoping that none of you have to be in this long term.

 

[trish_scotland]

Hi all i just wanted to post to tell about myself. I am infertile as i have grade 4 endometriosis and it has damaged my womb and fillopian tubes. The adhissions caused by the endo had made my womb half the normal size and the tubes closed off. I also suffer recurring cysts on my overys. I was very sad when i learned all of this as we wanted a large family. Although i am now glad i felt the urge when myself and husband were young to have a baby as if we had waited we wouldnt have our nearly nine yearold son. I wanted a large family but thank god he blessed us with one. My heart goes out to everyone i pray for you all. Never give up. Keep trying. Adoption is difficult here in great britain but i hope where you are you find your perfact family. Goodluck to all. xx

 

[Faith_of_Sarah]

This is a strange question maybe , but I’m just wondering if there are any long term infertility sufferers left on these forums? I know there were a small handful a while back, but they don’t seem to post anymore here (or really anywhere for that matter.) Well, DH and I will be “celebrating” four years TTC in just three months on our fourth anniversary. I have very mixed feelings about this. I’m so happy to be celebrating four years of life together with my husband (five years if you include our dating year .) But, it’s hard to be happy sometimes when you don’t have any blessings to show for those four years of love. It’s getting harder and harder to deal with people as the years pass by and people automatically assume we are contracepting. Even fellow Catholics, which hurts more than anything. We’ve also suffered through the pains of two failed adoptions together. The pain is so intense at times. But obviously our calling is (at least for now) to be infertile. We can’t adopt right now, my health issues are taking over our finances. How do you keep doing this year after year? I remember when I first joined this site a couple years back and first posted here. We were only at the fifteen MONTH mark then. I would never have dreamed we’d be at four YEARS! During this time I’ve seen many people on these forums who have gotten married after us who are on their second or third pregnancy now! I feel so empty, broken, worthless at times. I know the God given purpose of marriage is to have a family, and I feel like I’ve failed him and my husband. Anyone else still out there who has been in this for the long haul? Encouragement, prayers, PLEASE! If you don’t post regularly here anymore, please post now. Please let me know I’m not alone. God bless you all and here’s hoping that none of you have to be in this long term.

I have only been TTC for close to 2 years. It feels like a lifetime to me and I can’t imagine what you have been through emotionally. I don’t post very much but I’m glad I stopped by today to read your post. Continue to have faith and know that all things work according to God’s plan. I will pray for you for peace and continued strength.

 

[Convert_in_99]

I have only been TTC for close to 2 years. It feels like a lifetime to me and I can’t imagine what you have been through emotionally. I don’t post very much but I’m glad I stopped by today to read your post. Continue to have faith and know that all things work according to God’s plan. I will pray for you for peace and continued strength.

Thank you SO much :hug3: Your kind words and prayers mean so much. I’m sorry you are struggling too. I remember that one and a half year mark being one of the hardest for us, even harder than now for some reason. Your faith is so strong, it shows in your post. Thank you again for responding. I pray you receive your miracle soon. God bless you.

 

[dostoyevsky]

Convert in 99,

I’m sorry you’re going through this…it’s really hard.
We’ve been TTC for five years. The last thing my doctor told me was that I’m a “mystery.” One thing that helps me deal with it is to really think about God the Father. I think about how much my own dad loves me and would do anything to help me, and then I think about how much more God loves us and cares for us. I think about how God knows everything and knows what is best for us. I really just try to focus on God’s love and try to trust in His will for us. Sometimes it’s so difficult and I just cry and tell Him how I feel, and sometimes I’m able to trust. I don’t know if that will help you any, but I’ll pray for you for sure…