Is death a big deal?

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Sometimes I think of people dying. What makes people special when they die? Have you changed your mind on someone after death?
 
We really don’t like to speak ill of the dead. Logically we know that dying hasn’t changed who they were when alive but maybe it’s human nature to create these narratives, especially for a tragic death.
 
ConfusedLucy said:
We really don’t like to speak ill of the dead. Logically we know that dying hasn’t changed who they were when alive but maybe it’s human nature to create these narratives, especially for a tragic death.
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Yes. I do not know why we must look for the good in someone who is evil that has passed. I often wonder what will be said of me when I pass. I am no mother Teresa. I cannot see or imagine what I have done for others. I will never know anyways.
 
My parents taught me that dying is
part of Life, that it is inevitable so
we must accept it. I have difficulty
accepting GRIEF for the dying, so
when my father passed on, I never
properly grieved for him, it is NOT
healthy.
 
Again, try to resist speculating about the state of other people’s souls.
Focus on your own.
The opinion that matters is the one God has. :highprayer:
 
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Yes. I do not know why we must look for the good in someone who is evil that has passed…
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Often we think of the deceased in that way because of charity. We hope and pray for their salvation, even if it doesn’t fulfill our human expectations of justice. We try to understand God’s perfect love, mercy, and justice.
 
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Dying does not change who you were when you were alive.
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In a way it does.

When a person is alive, others look at them with some sort of expectation for the future. If the person is not doing so well in life, like struggling with addiction, others can see potential for reform in the person’s future.
When the person dies, say, unexpectedly, that potential to turn their life around is gone; therefore changing the way others see that person’s life. It’s at that point when charity is given more generously to the dead.

It all depends on the individual who is dead and the people left behind. Some people left behind are not very charitable for various reasons. It depends what those left behind saw in the dead person.
 
I’d say it is! It is the hideous disruption of a human being.

But as to your question, people only romanticize those who have died because of its finality.

ICXC NIKA
 
Why not volunteer to become a hospice volunteer in your area ?

They’ll have you go through a training program first.

When I did it, I learned quickly that death is a natural as being born.

Both are climatic events in a person’s life and I have seen both bad and beautiful deaths.

Those that were beautiful were of people who had faith in Jesus Christ and surrendered themselves to God.

Those that were bad, were those who rejected God all of their lives and even on their death bed.

JIm
 
I am absolutely horrified and scared of Death. To me it represents the ultimate unknown and I fear it. And ironically this fear has only grown as I have gotten older, but I hope one day to finally accept it. I guess I won’t have much of a choice as I do understand that all things die. But not everyone truly lives to throw in a Braveheart quote 🙂
 
IamGroot said:
I am absolutely horrified and scared of Death. To me it represents the ultimate unknown and I fear it. And ironically this fear has only grown as I have gotten older, but I hope one day to finally accept it. I guess I won’t have much of a choice as I do understand that all things die. But not everyone truly lives to throw in a Braveheart quote 🙂
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Some may see this as a weakness.
 
IamGroot said:
I am absolutely horrified and scared of Death. To me it represents the ultimate unknown and I fear it. And ironically this fear has only grown as I have gotten older, but I hope one day to finally accept it. I guess I won’t have much of a choice as I do understand that all things die. But not everyone truly lives to throw in a Braveheart quote 🙂
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Giving my heart and life to Jesus, I often thought death would be just another fence to cross… Then I began praying certain devotions to Mary (and the Rosary has the same hint in it: Pray for us sinners, NOW and at the hour of our death…) and I see that the saints pray for her intercession at the hour of our death over and over again… suddenly I’m thinking death isn’t so easy… I’m still asking for her intercession and hopefully won’t stop. I pray for so many others, especially the hard-hearted who have no faith in Jesus…!

As for looking at the good side of people who pass on, it’s like another poster said…we should not judge because Jesus is the supreme Judge and he loves all of us sinners… and can forgive in the blink of an eye…
 
IamGroot said:
I am absolutely horrified and scared of Death. To me it represents the ultimate unknown and I fear it. And ironically this fear has only grown as I have gotten older, but I hope one day to finally accept it. I guess I won’t have much of a choice as I do understand that all things die. But not everyone truly lives to throw in a Braveheart quote 🙂
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Catholics and others might be afraid of judgment…some are not. 🤷
When we understand that this life is but a blip in eternity…we’d spend much more time ensuring we’re right with God, and doing His will.
Nothing to be afraid of except the earthly aspect of death : pain, suffering, yes, definitely.
But in death the faithful are reborn into eternal life.

That’s a good thing.
Welcome to the fora, btw. 🙂
 
CRATUS said:
Sometimes I think of people dying. What makes people special when they die? Have you changed your mind on someone after death?
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CRATUS said:
Dying does not change who you were when you were alive.
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As Catholics we believe in purgatory, where we are purged of all that is unworthy to be in God’s presence in heaven. So no, dying doesn’t change who we were, but purgatory makes us more and more the person we really are. My father was a very hard person to love, not because he was abusive but because he was very distant with a shell that was hard to break through. Since he passed away 3 years ago I like to think of him being purged of all the hardness and becoming the father he really could have been when he was alive.
 
IamGroot said:
I am absolutely horrified and scared of Death. To me it represents the ultimate unknown and I fear it. And ironically this fear has only grown as I have gotten older, but I hope one day to finally accept it. I guess I won’t have much of a choice as I do understand that all things die. But not everyone truly lives to throw in a Braveheart quote 🙂
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There is nothing to fear but to be unrepentant.

Our sincere prayers and receiving the Sacraments in the right disposition is the way our Lord Jesus Christ sanctifies us. And He also uses our trials and temptations to sanctify us. If we fall Jesus is always waiting for us to come back; He never stops loving us.
 
PelagiathePenit said:
Some may see this as a weakness.
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Is it a weakness, or just a truthful recognition of our appalling fragility?

I’ve been taken to task for saying this before, but don’t much care and will say it again: Anybody who is not completely horrified by the idea of Death is a world-class self-kidder.

ICXC NIKA
 
For some reason, I am most scared at night when I’m alone with my thoughts. During a nice sunny day, the fear subsides. I’m amazed at how my Mom is or at least seems to be completely at peace with the idea of death and mortality. I plan on raging against the dying of the light until my last breath, which I hope is many decades from now. But I do accept that each moment is a gift and tomorrow is promised to no one.
 
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