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Xanthippe_Voorhees
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My favorite memories as a single person was the nights once a week, that I’d go over to my friends house with a load of laundry, teach her 2 older ones a literature lesson, cook dinner with them while my friend tended to her littles in a way she couldn’t when she had to make dinner all eat, get the kiddos ready for bed, say prayers and hang out with her and have a cup of tea. I met her because I’m the same age as her brother–15 years her junior.All I know for sure is I’d never be able to raise my large family without the help from my “village” of friends, supporters, random school volunteers, coaches, scout leaders, etc. I can’t be there for every one of my children every time they need help. I couldn’t mentor reading during the day for the 2nd grader while bf’ing the infant at home while opening my preschooler’s milk during snack. The days I’ve had children in multiple locations needing some form of adult assistance or supervision far, far outnumber the days they’ve all been cared for solely by my husband and I. Maybe others could, I could not (though I did have one rather awesome moment of coaching a U8 soccer match while wearing an infant and holding onto my toddler). Thank goodness for all those willing and able to give my kids rides to and from over the years - from show choir, football, soccer, scouts, religious ed, robotics, college visits, XC meets, band competitions, fundraisers, slumber parties, swim practice and so on. Thank goodness for all the volunteers who’ve helped my kids when I couldn’t be at that particular event/ceremony/practice because I was committed elsewhere (work, other kid event, sick family member, dying parent). And thank God for His blessing me with all these children to raise along with the “villagers” to help get the job done.
When she moved she realized how much of her “village” she had lost. She had no idea. Now, 5 years later, she has a new village. But it was a hard-fought battle.
I lost some of my village, too. I wish she was still close. Her littles are now big enough to babysit and will go off to college soon. I just started with my own littles.
I’m building my villiage.
Slowly.