You may disagree, but remember what the bible says. for convienience, I’ll repost what I the quotes I mentioned earlier.
Thanks for repeating the quotes…
Remember too that it is well to read things fully within their context (and it is also good and convenient for others to post the location(s) of the quoted texts.)
Something that is well to note in these passages is that Paul is quite careful to separate his own opinion from any command of God…
Let’s take a look at each of your quotes with just a bit more context…Your first quote says…
Now, to the unmarried and to the widows I say that it would be better for you to continue to live alone as I do. But if you cannot restrain your desires, go ahead and marry. It is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Cor 7:8-9)
But note the verse immediately preceding this one…Verse 7…
I wish that all were as I myself am.
But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. (RSV) (Bolding mine)
“I wish”, or “I would that”, in the D-R translation. Paul is indicating that what he is saying here are by way of pious recommendations and not commands…And note that what he declares is that, regardless of what he, Paul, would like to see…Each has his own special (or proper) gift from God…
Your next quote appears to come from 1 Cor 7:32-34
I would like you to be free from worry. An unmarried man concerns himself with the Lord’s work, because he is trying to please the lord. But a married man concerns himself with worldly matters, because he wants to please his wife; and so he is pulled in two directions. An unmarried woman or virgin concerns herself with the lord’s work, because whe wants to be dedicated both in body and spirit; but a married woman concerns herself with worldly matters, because she wants to please her husband.
Yet you leave out something of critical import here…Something Paul explicitly says earlier in this chapter…
Now, concerning virgins, I have no commandment of the Lord: but I give counsel, as having obtained mercy of the Lord, to be faithful. (1 Cor 7:25) (D-R)
This verse colors all that follows…Once again these are Paul’s opinion - his counsel - not commands he received from God. They are written in the belief that the return of the Lord was imminent…he wants the faithful to be “free of anxieties” (vs 32) during the coming tribulations…persecutions and such of the time. Again…Context is key here.
Finally - as further demonstration that these things are a reflection of St Paul’s particular view - as opposed to some hierarchy of holiness…or of marriage somehow being a distraction form holiness - in verse 40 he says:
But in my judgment she is happier if she remains as she is. And I think that I have the Spirit of God. (RSV)
In my judgement…
In all of this, it is clear that while Paul has the Spirit of God in him, and wishes only to give sound advice to the Corinthians during a time of uncertainty, persecution and possible “apocalypse”…None of this is intended to demean the sacrament of marriage as being somehow a lesser vocation or a distraction…
At the time of writing the letter, the Church was illegal…The single person would naturally have fewer worries should they be arrested, imprisoned and possibly martyred. This becomes clear in vs 26 where Paul speaks of “impending distress”…
I apologize that the above is kind of disjointed…I haven’t a lot of time this morning to put my thoughts in proper order…But I hope you will take my somewhat jumbled comments into you heart, and then go back and carefully re-read Chapter 7 in full and make note of how carefully Paul is phrasing his words…More as pious advice applicable to the time and place and situation of the Corinthians than as some sort of command or judgement on the relative usefulness of Marriage in God’s Holy Plan.
In closing I would ask that you consider this…
Does God give greater or lesser gifts?
Or is each gift of God precious and of equal value in the Kingdom…
and given for the benefit and growing perfection of the one who receives the gift.
Peace
James