Is sex overrated?

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Well, it may be useful to keep in mind: sex isn’t just body parts, it’s relations between people. A lot of single people think marriage is all sunshine and roses and rolls in the hay. It ain’t.
 
yeah I get physical intimacy is best with someone you love, it adds another dimension to it
 
i also see couples in long term relationships who ended up eventually marrying but had intercourse before and kinda wonder, is that type of sex also overrated too?
 
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yeah I get physical intimacy is best with someone you love, it adds another dimension to it
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This is an odd way for a practicing Catholic to put it. Rather: Physical intimacy is worse when done with someone not your spouse, it subtracts the most important meaning from it.

(The construction is clunky this way, but I was trying to keep the parallel.)
 
My husband and I would both tell you that premarital sex caused problems in our marriage. Those problems have been mostly overcome, but we’d rather we never had to deal with them.
 
There’s some research I don’t have the time to track down right now that says that women have more sexual satisfaction the more serious the relationship.

One-night stands are apparently terrible in terms in terms of women being able to experience pleasure.

Hence the evergreen women’s magazine articles on the subject of politely faking it.
 
yeah no I agree with the fact that one night stands and casual sex are insanely overrated. I dont know how anyone can have sex with someone who will leave you the next morning
 
Here’s the article:

http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0003122412445802

“This article investigates the determinants of orgasm and sexual enjoyment in hookup and relationship sex among heterosexual college women and seeks to explain why relationship sex is better for women in terms of orgasm and sexual enjoyment.”

“We find that women have orgasms more often in relationships than in hookups. Regression analyses reveal that specific sexual practices, experience with a particular partner, and commitment all predict women’s orgasm and sexual enjoyment.”

This bit was very interesting:

“Qualitative analysis suggests a double standard also contributes to why relationship sex is better for women: both men and women question women’s (but not men’s) entitlement to pleasure in hookups but believe strongly in women’s (as well as men’s) entitlement to pleasure in relationships. More attention is thus given to producing female orgasm in relationships.”

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well logically speaking a person who knows you well will probably know how to “please” you. But from a less graphic standpoint, a woman will be less tense about catching an STD or getting pregnant or being dumped if she is with her husband who promised his life to her.
 
I found that article via very secular advice columnist Amy Alkon, here:

http://www.advicegoddess.com/ag-column-archives/2018/03/dr-strangerlove.html

I haven’t read the full scholarly article (just the abstract), but Alkon says, “Research by sociologist Elizabeth A. Armstrong and her colleagues finds that for women, hookup sex is particularly problematic in the orgasm-dispensing department. In first-time hookups, women they surveyed reported orgasms only 11 percent of the time – compared with 67 percent of the time from sex in a relationship.”

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I think sex is overrated by the unmarried / uncommitted crowd. And it is just that the act of sex and nothing else. And because of that I think they are seeking something they can’t achieve.

Hubby and I are going on 40 years of marriage and I can tell you that sex is beautiful when you are experience with someone who you love deeply and are committed. We got to grow together when we first were married and explored sex with intimacy. And as time goes on and your love grows so does the feeling of wanting that intimacy. It has been a wonderful time, and there have been health problems along the way where we couldn’t complete the act of sex, but the intimacy we shared was more then enough for those time. We were only blessed with one child and he did put a damper on things from time to time. But once he left the house we were newlyweds again and see no end in sight. As a couple we have grown so much together over the last 40 years and will continue to grow until we die. To this day he can give me a look or touch and the same for me and we both get a shiver through our body and we are teenagers again.

But make no mistake, marriage is a lot of work and a lifetime commitment. When you find the right one, you will get that gut feeling and whatever you do, don’t walk away from it. And I will say that probably the first 6 months of marriage is awkward and will probably be the hardest sex wise, but explore and communicate with each other and it will just make your relationship stronger. And those with ailments remember sex is the best natural pain reliever.

I will pray you find your soulmate and have a wonderful live.
 
Marital sex can’t be overrated—it’s such a timeless, intense, intimate way to connect with, love, and validate your spouse. In fact, I think most couples don’t place enough importance on it, both in terms of quality and frequency.
 
lol! well, I certainly am,but then again, I’ve been married for almost 15 yrs with kids so sex = low priority anymore… but I eat low carb…food envy is real haha! 🍔🍩🍟🍕
 
alphawoman said:
Marital sex can’t be overrated—it’s such a timeless, intense, intimate way to connect with, love, and validate your spouse. In fact, I think most couples don’t place enough importance on it, both in terms of quality and frequency.
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Well said!
 
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