Please don’t take this the wrong way but don’t you think that by singing more loudly than the others, you seem to be wanting to draw attention to yourself? That’s what I think when I have a loud singer standing or sitting near me. I can’t help but notice the heads turning and sensing discomfort. Heck, the Church shouldn’t be a karaoke bar. At the same time, they should be playing recognizable hymns that everyone can sing at a normal singing level. Of course, good organ accompaniment doesn’t hurt either. Witness how many people sing at the ball parks when led by the organ.
I think there is a balance between singing with more fullness, strength and sound to just singing loudly for the sake of drowning out everyone else around you. Because of my classical training, I could sing so that I fill up the entire church without using a microphone or straining my voice. Do I do that? No. I think nothing of the sort about wanting to draw attention to myself if I sing like that, since music and singing is my most direct spiritual connection and prayer with God. But I choose not to do it because it’s not needed, and also because of people who will negatively assume things about my character and intentions which aren’t true. This is something I have been bothered about for a number of years, not particularly about that way of singing because I wouldn’t sing like that anyway, but of assuming in general.
Basically, I wish that we would all stop assuming the worst in others and think the best. Now, that’s not to say that there may be people out there who sing loudly or sing operatically for the attention, but from those I’ve met and known, they are few and far between. We just can’t know someone’s intention unless we know him/her personally.
Imagine what it would be like if others assumed that people who thought this way about those who sang out or about gifted musicians in general were negative, cold and spiritually-shallow people who didn’t know what it is to find a true, deep connection with God. There are those who think that way of individuals who aren’t of the musical or artistic mindset. I know this to be true because I once thought that way as a teenager and in my early 20s. Thankfully, we grow and mature, and I know now that it was just as terrible and ignorant for me to think this, as it was for those who assumed negatively of me. Now, it just saddens me that there is this kind of negativity going in the pews.
And I’m not saying that people are actually ignorant for assuming this. It’s a flaw and I believe most of us, including myself, have this and we have to work hard to think the best of others. I have worked to see where those of the opposite mindset are coming from, so I try to be sensitive of that, but I think if we all just worked to assume the best, there wouldn’t be this sense of negativity, being offended and whatnot on either end.
My thoughts with the balance is that if the congregation is singing fully out, go ahead, sing as loudly as you like. The organ and all of the other voices will be right there with you. If the congregation isn’t singing, don’t be really loud as to fill up the entire church just with your own voice, but sing out with fullness so that you can start the ball rolling. More often than not, people around you will get the courage to sing as well. Sometimes, congregations need that little help from those around them in the pews, especially if the the organist/instrumentalist(s) isn’t helping. Sometimes with hymns that everyone should know, the congregation just won’t sing if the instrumentalist is not playing with fullness to help them not feel like the only ones singing. When you get one or two or more people around in the congregation singing out, that’s when they lose their timidity and no one has to worry about “sticking out” and feeling afraid that there will be those will assume the worst of you.
P.S. ProVobis - Please don’t think I’m picking on you about this. I also see where you are coming from, thus why I believe there needs to be a balance with this. God Bless.