Certain topics are really quite complicated, and I fully understand that it can be confusing and frustrating at times for everyone involved. This is particularly true, I think, in forums like this which are rather limiting. It’s not as if people are at a coffee shop with some good resources, trying to work through a question together. With that in mind, I think we have reached the limits of useful conversation in this forum.
I want to thank you for the exchange, and for the respectful way that you always respond. It seems difficult, at times, to have discussions, particularly online, without being personally attacked or subjected to sarcasm, name calling and the like. So, truly, I have appreciated your approach.
In this final reply, before I go, I would like to propose something to you. My sole purpose is only to be helpful. If what I have to say is not helpful, then, of course, disregard it.
Your last reply in particular, deals with some of the fundamentals of moral theology. What I believe would be helpful is some in-depth, systematic study or a course or two in this area. If we don’t get the fundamentals right, this affects our reasoning down the line.
I don’t know your background, so I am going to take a “shot in the dark”. There is an undergraduate text that I think is pretty good. It is by Peter Armenio, and is entitled,
Our Moral Life in Christ. It may be a bit tedious to work through it on your own, but I believe this could be helpful to you. The other option that I would like to propose is to find a solid Catholic college or university and take one or two moral theology courses online. I understand that Franciscan University is solid and have an online program. There is Christendom College, and Thomas Aquinas College too. There is the St. Augustine Institute, which is in Denver, I believe. It is new, but their faculty looks excellent and they teach online. I know a professor out at Wyoming Catholic College. If that place was not faithful, he certainly would not teach there. Also, I attended the University of St. Thomas for both my BA and MA, and had a good experience there, but I don’t know if they have online courses these days. If they do, I would suggest them too. Where I got my MDiv has online courses that are not too expensive. I know the professor there quite well who teaches moral theology (He was my thesis director). Here is a link to his web site if you want to check his background.
https://www.philosophicalcatholic.com/ Anyway, I would highly recommend taking a course online there. The seminary web site is
www.bcs.edu. Information for their online study is here
https://www.bcs.edu/byzantine-online/ I suppose you could just audit a course, which would cost less. I have never wanted to do that. When taking something for credit, it keeps me disciplined with the reading and the work.
I wish you well in your pursuit of the truth. Pray for me and I will pray for you.