Is this sinful, ladies?

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This may seem superfulous, but please bear with me if you wish.

I have noticed subtle wrinkles on my forehead… and a vein on either side of my forehead after I run. This has brought to my attention, which I have never really thought about until this past year, (because I don’t really stare at myself to be honest) is that I am aging and what is going to happen to me and what will I look like when I am old and wrinkly?! My mom is 58 and I consider her still beautiful but I hear so many comments about woman aging, getting less attrative after having babies, and seeing housewives on T.V getting breast implants and botox like it is REQUIRED for feminime beauty! It makes me feel uncomfortable even thinking about ever doing that, which I will not…

I am 25 and a woman and this preposterous question dances in my brain. I know if I would ask my mom she would say something like don’t worry you are beautiful…your husband will think so…your heart is more important and radiates over physical beauty type of stuff…

I don’t really LOOK at myself, and growing up I never really thought about it but I think the media has kind of skewed what I think should be my OUTWARD beauty.

What can I do to look over this? Any ladies out there older that can give me adivce? Like we are created, will I just gradually accept it as life goes on?
 
Btw, I think I am pretty (except those occasional days) but I feel the majority of women I’ve encountered in my life have always commented on their own appearance or have stated sayings such as, “those days when I was young men wanted to date me, etc”

Any opinions?
 
I’m sorry to say this, but those woman on tv like the housewives ,make me ill… They are the most selfish women I have ever seen…(yes, Judgmental,sorry)
You’re very young, stop worrying…take care of yourself, eat healthy, no smoke,no drink and you’ll age well…oh and wear sunblock!
I’m 40 and people say I look younger:)
 
I think women who have all kinds of work done to look 30 when they’re 70 look positively ridiculous. Life leaves its traces on a person, physically, mentally and spiritually. I think it’s good for a woman to appear mature as she ages, just as she should act mature and have a certain wisdom.

With every passing year, I develop more and more of my mother’s traits of aging, and I consider it an honor. Now, at age 55, my hands are just like hers, and my face is softening in the same way hers did. When I’m 80, I’m sure (if I’m still alive) I’ll have her jowls, and that’s just fine with me.

Of course, as a child, the thing I wanted most was to be a grownup, so maybe this is just a continuation of that theme. 🙂

Betsy
 
I’m a man (27) and I say don’t worry. This isn’t sheer courtesy, it really doesn’t matter. Perhaps you’re stressing too much because of too much work and other things on your plate–that’s when small things like that get to worry us so much.
 
Aging is a badge of honor, in my opinion. I’d personally much rather be all saggy than to have my face pulled up, and sewn to the top of my head. My husband agrees. 🙂

Women are beautiful at ANY age. Those TV women are poked, prodded, stapled, duct-taped, and airbrushed to look the way they do - they aren’t a real reflection of the vast majority of women.

All you have to do is take care of yourself, and you’ll be just fine.
 
As an 18 year old guy (this will sound weird) I think the women that don’t get all that cosmetic surgery and such when they become middle-aged are more beautiful than the ones that do. The ones that get the plastic surgery and such just have a very fake look to them, it’s usually pretty obvious, whereas the ones that don’t exhude a look of honesty and wisdom.

Don’t get me wrong, I am attracted to women closer to my age (I usually am interested in women that are a few years younger or older than me at most. Of course, right now, I don’t hold interest in any 15 year old girls, but once I reach my mid 20s, it will make more sense.) I just find beauty to be greater when people are honest about themselves.
 
Such surgeries are only the beginning, you start, you can’t stop, you will reach a point later on in life when gravity kicks in when you will need it done, and by goodness, do women at this stage look awful, and its very, very noticable, especially if they’re skinny.

Not to mention, it can be a rather nasty risk. I understand and condone breast implants for women who loose their breasts to cancer, but for women to get bigger breasts is usually not a good indiciation of their self esteem.

Don’t feel so bad, I started going gray at 18 and now at 28 and it looks pretty bad, but I don’t care. And yet, I still get asked for my ID when I go to buy booze and people are very surprised that I’m over 25! People dont’ notice my wrinkles or my grays when I’m up to mischeif and living life with joy.

Its really all in your behaviour! Enjoy life! If there was a nuclear war tomorrow and you actually survived, you wouldn’t be worrying about those wrinkles. And us hefty lasses will be sitting pretty as all those skinny wenches are toiling away digging up root vegetables!
 
i’m also getting a wee bit wrinkly. at 25.

it did bug me a bit, but the that’s what the body naturally does. i try to take care of my skin, don’t wear make-up, stay out of the sun, and eat well. in spite of that, i know the wrinkles will increase, no matter how healthy my skin is.

ageing is a sign that God has given us enough years of life to the point where we do begin to wrinkle and crinkle. our vanity may protest, but it’s not a bad thing, or a wrong thing.

and as others have said, once you start with botox or surgery, it can be hard to stop. we’ll keep finding things, lines, blotches, moles, creases, and bumps that don’t “look pretty” to us, and we’ll keep trying to “fix” them.

relax. you’re made in the image of God, and you’re beautiful.
 
haha thank you everyone! I think it was one of those moments when I happened to notice the wrinkles and veins and wondered if other women (and men) went through similar questions/thoughts and how they dealt with them!

I used botox, etc. as an extreme example and am not in any way thinking about ever doing that, but that is just me 🙂
I use a little bit of makeup for work during the week like mascara and blush if i have the time for blush but always use mascara. I have never heard that makeup can cause one to age?

and I think we should embrace our imperfections and pray for that mind set…
 
I’m a 28 year old woman, and I’m beginning to notice that I’m looking older. I now when the first wrinkle comes in, I’m making an appointment for Botox! :eek: I’m single, so I have to look good to maintain my market value. I’m also in the process of losing a lot of weight, so I know I will need to lifting, implanting (I want to keep my big chest), and tucking done as well. 😃
 
psalm42 said:
haha thank you everyone! I think it was one of those moments when I happened to notice the wrinkles and veins and wondered if other women (and men) went through similar questions/thoughts and how they dealt with them!
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Getting married before balding starts is top priority. 😉
I use a little bit of makeup for work during the week like mascara and blush if i have the time for blush but always use mascara. I have never heard that makeup can cause one to age?
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Any woman younger than 30 will look older with make-up than without.
 
CountrySinger said:
I’m a 28 year old woman, and I’m beginning to notice that I’m looking older. I now when the first wrinkle comes in, I’m making an appointment for Botox! :eek: I’m single, so I have to look good to maintain my market value. I’m also in the process of losing a lot of weight, so I know I will need to lifting, implanting (I want to keep my big chest), and tucking done as well. 😃
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yikes, really? CS, being beautiful is about more than being smooth, slim, and bouyant.

the body will perish, and is corruptable. we may inject and implant all manner of things, but it won’t help our relationship with God, deepen our fondness for heavenly things, or ultimately save us from ageing.

For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (1 John 2:16-17)

if you’re really looking for a good husband sister, look for a man who will love, respect, appreciate, and care for you no matter how wrinkly you get. someone who shares your Catholic faith, and can help you grow together in Christ. that is a man worth keeping.
 
country singer, what?! you dont need ANY OF THAT! Why do you think this honestly?! ?!btw I like reading your posts whenever i come across them in a thread 🙂
 
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country singer, what?! you dont need ANY OF THAT! Why do you think this honestly?! ?!btw I like reading your posts whenever i come across them in a thread 🙂
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Thank you.
Well, I need to look HOT if I want to land a decent husband. A personality is good, but it won’t find you love, but it does helps with finding male friends. :mad: You need passion and attraction. And when I lose the weight, I will need surgery to lift things so I don’t look like I’m melting. 😃 One of my friends lost over 150 pounds, and she looks is wrinkly and saggy, and I want to be able to look good in lingerie for my husband. I am not working out 7 days a week and dieting in order to look saggy and be even more uncomfortable in clothes.
 
psalm42 said:
What can I do to look over this? Any ladies out there older that can give me adivce? Like we are created, will I just gradually accept it as life goes on?
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It is said that a person under the age of 40 has no choice what she looks like, but over 40, how we look is the consequence of our youthful behaviour and attitudes.

Make it a habit to smile, and make it a habit to drink a lot of water and eat a lot of raw vegetables, have a good prayer life, and be as kind as possible to everyone you meet, and you will be beautiful after the age of forty, with no operations or make-up required. 🙂

If you fail to do these things, you will look like a mean old hag, and no operation will be able to help you. 🤷
 
CountrySinger said:
Thank you.
Well, I need to look HOT if I want to land a decent husband. A personality is good, but it won’t find you love, but it does helps with finding male friends. :mad: You need passion and attraction. And when I lose the weight, I will need surgery to lift things so I don’t look like I’m melting. 😃 One of my friends lost over 150 pounds, and she looks is wrinkly and saggy, and I want to be able to look good in lingerie for my husband. I am not working out 7 days a week and dieting in order to look saggy and be even more uncomfortable in clothes.
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I disagree. You don’t need to be HOT to land a decent husband. And a good personality will absolutely find you love. You have it backwards, or you have bought society’s message hook, line and sinker. That’s partly why the images from Hollywood about what is beautiful and HOT are soooo upside down and we women can fall into the trap that our own natural beauty won’t be attractive to a man because we could never measure up to the “fake” images in the media.

The most beautiful people I have ever met, both male and female, have much more than just a good personality, that’s true. They had a GREAT personality and the intergrity to back it up. They were comfortable with what God gave them.

My husband thinks I’m beautiful. I’m not close to being anywhere near model or movie star pretty. He thinks otherwise. What makes him HOT to me is that I know he won’t bulk when things get tough, I know he always has my back and wants what is best for me and for our daughter, and I know he will always put in an honest day’s work. That is HOT, very, very HOT.

Oh, and the sexiest thing to me in a man is a sense of humor. And my husband has that in spades.
 
PatriceA said:
I disagree. You don’t need to be HOT to land a decent husband. And a good personality will absolutely find you love. You have it backwards, or you have bought society’s message hook, line and sinker. That’s partly why the images from Hollywood about what is beautiful and HOT are soooo upside down and we women can fall into the trap that our own natural beauty won’t be attractive to a man because we could never measure up to the “fake” images in the media.

The most beautiful people I have ever met, both male and female, have much more than just a good personality, that’s true. They had a GREAT personality and the intergrity to back it up. They were comfortable with what God gave them.

My husband thinks I’m beautiful. I’m not close to being anywhere near model or movie star pretty. He thinks otherwise. What makes him HOT to me is that I know he won’t bulk when things get tough, I know he always has my back and wants what is best for me and for our daughter, and I know he will always put in an honest day’s work. That is HOT, very, very HOT.

Oh, and the sexiest thing to me in a man is a sense of humor. And my husband has that in spades.
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👍 This is right on!

When you think about it, do we just sit around a look at each other or are we involved in each others lives in a much deeper way? If I choose my friends or mate according to how they look, what does that say about me? If I ask myself, who are my favorite people in the whole world, it’s always the people who are the most kind, no matter what they look like. (At the same time though, it’s no license to just let ourselves go.)

Some think that my husband is handsome, but what attracted me was his sense of humor and his trustworthiness. Very hot! 👍
 
PatriceA said:
I disagree. You don’t need to be HOT to land a decent husband. And a good personality will absolutely find you love. You have it backwards, or you have bought society’s message hook, line and sinker. That’s partly why the images from Hollywood about what is beautiful and HOT are soooo upside down and we women can fall into the trap that our own natural beauty won’t be attractive to a man because we could never measure up to the “fake” images in the media.

The most beautiful people I have ever met, both male and female, have much more than just a good personality, that’s true. They had a GREAT personality and the intergrity to back it up. They were comfortable with what God gave them.

My husband thinks I’m beautiful. I’m not close to being anywhere near model or movie star pretty. He thinks otherwise. What makes him HOT to me is that I know he won’t bulk when things get tough, I know he always has my back and wants what is best for me and for our daughter, and I know he will always put in an honest day’s work. That is HOT, very, very HOT.

Oh, and the sexiest thing to me in a man is a sense of humor. And my husband has that in spades.
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Who is going to get attention in the dating scene:
A) A tall, leggy, busty, blonde who is a size two, but vapid.

or

B) A chubby, brunette, busty, somewhat tall, kind woman who can crack everyone up.

And that is why women need surgery in order to compete for a husband. Or else it is a life of hundreds of cats, sitting on a porch yelling “GET OFF MY LAWN!” and shooting men with a shotgun. 😃 That is my main fear. :eek:
 
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