Is this sinful, ladies?

[TobyLue]

There was this saying of an old Hollywood actress many years ago. People used to like the dimple on her chin, but actually she had soooo many facelifts that the dimple on her chin was actually her navel.

Like we are created, will I just gradually accept it as life goes on?

Accept God’s will for you is all I can say from a mans perspective. Does my wife still have the great body she had when we got married? No, but neither do I. I promised my wife to love her in sickness and in health and I love her even more.

is that I am aging and what is going to happen to me and what will I look like when I am old and wrinkly?!

Ask God to steer you to a man who will love you for what you are and you are a child of God. What will you like like when your old and wrinkly? Well, old and wrinkly. If you find a man that will tell you he will love you forever no matter what you look like, then you have nothing to worry cuz you wont have to worry what society will think about you as long as you know you husband still loves you. Does this mean that you should just let yourself go and become a slob? No, we should take care of our bodies as well as we possibly can. But that does not mean that we should spend thousands to go all Hollywood cuz your afraid to grow old. One should be afraid of NOT growing old. Know what I mean? A young couple growing old together is the greatest thing; loving one another, caring for one another. Believe me your husband will look at you and if you are old and wrinkly, will tell you, "Honey, you are so beautiful!

 

[presidentjlh]

I don’t get it either. Women tackling each other in mud, I would think guys would like that. And when it rains, it’s like “Wet T-Shirt Wrestling”.

Well…as an 18-year-old guy…I would not…um…dislike such an…event.

But, I try not to enjoy such things, as I must remember that women are not objects meant to provide me sexual pleasure. That is a very wrong mindset to have.

Now, granted, my hormones have made this difficult. While at some confessions my priest has mentioned my hormones playing a part, I did not hear him say they reduce my culpability, so I go by the assumption that I am fully culpable if I take any sexual pleasure as an unmarried man.

Still, while I try hard, I admit, it is extremely, extremely difficult to ignore a scantily-clad girl my age. It is a major weakness among guys my age. I refuse to take less culpability for my actions however.

In any event, however, just because guys take pleasure in a “wet T-shirt contest” doesn’t mean it’s right, nor should you try to appeal to those primitive desires.

 

[jaimepsalm63]

My husband thinks it’s very fulfilling to be able to do exercises with me. We even ran the Pike’s Peak Marathon together. We hike together, play hoops, and even were in karate together for a while. If you both have common interests and look beyond the surface (which ages, fades, and can be disfigured by outside forces) it can be a very exciting and “HOT” relationship.

As for missing foods and sacrifice that way, I have Celiac and gastroparesis so I miss a lot of food. Pizza, can’t have it. Bagels…um, no. Pasta…my favorite but I can’t have it. Oh, did I mention I’m allergic to corn and rice too? So, I know sacrifice. I do, however, eat fries every couple of weeks.

So, everyone needs to eat. Find someone who likes to eat as well as play sports. Mostly, find someone who has the same faith and beliefs you have and then you’ll truly be blessed.

Again, just my two cents.

 

[CountrySinger]

Lol I don’t even know how to respond to that. Technically speaking, I think the girls who do “wet t-shirt wrestling” do it for the attention of men and looking hot while wearing pratcially nothing. And I think rugby players are more focused on winning the game, not how hot they look, am I off track?

I play to take the other team DOWN! Lol. I play to win, but I still want to look decent during the after game party/ booze fest.

 

[psalm42]

Ask God to steer you to a man who will love you for what you are and you are a child of God. What will you like like when your old and wrinkly? Well, old and wrinkly. If you find a man that will tell you he will love you forever no matter what you look like, then you have nothing to worry cuz you wont have to worry what society will think about you as long as you know you husband still loves you. Does this mean that you should just let yourself go and become a slob? No, we should take care of our bodies as well as we possibly can. But that does not mean that we should spend thousands to go all Hollywood cuz your afraid to grow old. One should be afraid of NOT growing old. Know what I mean? A young couple growing old together is the greatest thing; loving one another, caring for one another. Believe me your husband will look at you and if you are old and wrinkly, will tell you, "Honey, you are so beautiful!

So true, Tobylue!

 

[psalm42]

Well…as an 18-year-old guy…I would not…um…dislike such an…event.

But, I try not to enjoy such things, as I must remember that women are not objects meant to provide me sexual pleasure. That is a very wrong mindset to have.

Now, granted, my hormones have made this difficult. While at some confessions my priest has mentioned my hormones playing a part, I did not hear him say they reduce my culpability, so I go by the assumption that I am fully culpable if I take any sexual pleasure as an unmarried man.

Still, while I try hard, I admit, it is extremely, extremely difficult to ignore a scantily-clad girl my age. It is a major weakness among guys my age. I refuse to take less culpability for my actions however.

In any event, however, just because guys take pleasure in a “wet T-shirt contest” doesn’t mean it’s right, nor should you try to appeal to those primitive desires.

Keep it up and don’t let society tell you differently. I had a male friend that reminds me of you, and guess what? He waited, while knowing how difficult it was, and now he is married now to a good, solid Christian woman!

You’re an inspiration to young men!

 

[psalm42]

Here ya go Countrysinger. Pray for your future hubby, that he will have similar interests as you!!!

My husband thinks it’s very fulfilling to be able to do exercises with me. We even ran the Pike’s Peak Marathon together. We hike together, play hoops, and even were in karate together for a while. If you both have common interests and look beyond the surface (which ages, fades, and can be disfigured by outside forces) it can be a very exciting and “HOT” relationship.

As for missing foods and sacrifice that way, I have Celiac and gastroparesis so I miss a lot of food. Pizza, can’t have it. Bagels…um, no. Pasta…my favorite but I can’t have it. Oh, did I mention I’m allergic to corn and rice too? So, I know sacrifice. I do, however, eat fries every couple of weeks.

So, everyone needs to eat. Find someone who likes to eat as well as play sports. Mostly, find someone who has the same faith and beliefs you have and then you’ll truly be blessed.

Again, just my two cents.

That is awesome you are active together! You ran Pike’s Peak marathon?! what was that like? My goal this year is to run a marathon with my brother, but I have to figure out my work schedule. It is a BIG committment and I don’t like running!

 

[dashso40]

I’m just tired of being passed over, and if I can get some attention for men, I do whatever it takes (even hiring a psycho trainer and extreme dieting). I want to be adored and be thought as beautiful, not the quirky best friend, they never get the man (even though they have the best lines).
I don’t think plastic surgery is wrong, as long as it makes a person happy. Who does it hurt?

Plastic surgery could hurt you…very much…because any surgery carries a risk of death or bad infection…I know ,i’ve seen them…i’m a nurse…I’m a litle older than you and married, and i’m far from model material and i found a great guy… Love yourself the way you are…eat right, exercise, dont drink, dont smoke, love Jesus, you’ll look great. The right man will come around if you exude confidence and emotional and physical health

 

[CountrySinger]

Plastic surgery could hurt you…very much…because any surgery carries a risk of death or bad infection…I know ,i’ve seen them…i’m a nurse…I’m a litle older than you and married, and i’m far from model material and i found a great guy… Love yourself the way you are…eat right, exercise, dont drink, dont smoke, love Jesus, you’ll look great. The right man will come around if you exude confidence and emotional and physical health

And that is a risk I’m willing to take. I mean, I want that little extra oomph in the dating world, you know? And if I get married, I would do my best to stay attractive to my husband, so botox, face lifts, etc are expected. Inner beauty is nice, but I also want to be beautiful. I want to be the wife that all the other men want. I want my husband to be proud of me, and enjoy the fact that other men want me.

 

[dashso40]

And that is a risk I’m willing to take. I mean, I want that little extra oomph in the dating world, you know? And if I get married, I would do my best to stay attractive to my husband, so botox, face lifts, etc are expected. Inner beauty is nice, but I also want to be beautiful. I want to be the wife that all the other men want. I want my husband to be proud of me, and enjoy the fact that other men want me.

You’re so young and I used to think like this, but as we get older, different things that weren’t important to you at the time are important now. Like, just being healthy and having a good relationship with God and with friends and your husband and when you have kids, they just become the most precious people in your life.I think being a nurse has changed my thinking also b/c when people are sick, it really is so sad, you can’t live your life when your sick.But anyway, i’m not saying that woman should let themselves go. i am 20 pounds heavier than I was when i married and i have a few wrinkles starting but i try to put makeup on and do my hair still eventhough i’m super busy.
I’m just saying, don’t jump into plastic surgery to try to fill a void, these people that get plastic surgery when they already look good, don’t look better, they just look like they got plastic surgery. Take care of yourself and good luck

 

[jaimepsalm63]

Well Psalm42, running the marathon was hard…very hard. Would we do it again…no, but we do the Pike’s Peak challenge every other year to help with the brain injury group on this area.

My husband is awesome. When I was in college friends and I would get together and talk about what we wanted in life. When it got to what we wanted in a husband it was interesting having the Holy Spirit come through and say what I did. I said I wanted a man who was Catholic, loved his mother and had a close relationship with her, he had to be a mathematician, and the thing everyone laughed at…he had to have gray hair. (There was more, but these are the things I really remembered.) NO JOKE. What was funny is that I described my husband. He’s all of those things…including the gray hair, which is now pure white.

It was God guiding me telling me who I needed more than me telling God who I needed. Now over 14 years and 3 kiddos later we have a very strong and loving marriage. We’ve taken care of each other in different ways, but with no question of whether we should or not. It’s just something you do when you love someone.

What still floors me is when he looks at me when I’m getting out of bed and says that I’m the most beautiful woman in the world and why does God find such favor with him. That’s true love. Looks are nothing and listening to people keep mentioning how looks are the ONLY thing that matters it’s very sad. It makes me realize I have a much better self esteem and know that I’m worth more than the flesh God put me in.

As I always say, just my two cents.
J

 

[presidentjlh]

And that is a risk I’m willing to take. I mean, I want that little extra oomph in the dating world, you know? And if I get married, I would do my best to stay attractive to my husband, so botox, face lifts, etc are expected. Inner beauty is nice, but I also want to be beautiful. I want to be the wife that all the other men want. I want my husband to be proud of me, and enjoy the fact that other men want me.

As a single, young guy, I don’t want to think of my future wife as something I can just show off to other guys. Granted, I would have no qualms with marrying the most beautiful single woman in the world if she had the right personality and character, and as a young guy, beauty does play a factor in who I am initially interested in.

But I do know this: A lasting marriage is never builty on beauty alone. If the woman I marry happens to have jaw-dropping looks, that’s something I would consider, for lack of a better word, a “bonus”. And, additionally, as time goes on, her looks will “fade” in the eyes of the world.

I want to build my marriage on something much more solid and lasting than looks. Looks help spark interest, but they never create truly lasting relationships. If I meet the most beautiful girl, but she’s cruel, deceptive, and manipulative, I will not want a relationship with her. If I meet a girl that isn’t perfect in the outside (although she still has a little beauty), but she has a heart of gold and is a wonderful person, that means so much more to me.

So, yes, beauty does matter…to an extent (and a very little extent to boot). Beauty does catch my eye, but it is love that catches my heart.

I only hope and pray that, as I get older, that God gives me the wisdom and kindness to focus less on the outside appearances of girls, and more on their inner beauty. I would hate for myself to be the guy that loses interest in his wife because she isn’t “beautiful” in the eyes of the world.

 

[presidentjlh]

Actually, I have a good example of how plastic surgery doesn’t necessarily equal greater beauty.

You’ve heard of that Heidi Montag, I’m assuming. You know one of those girls on the Hills (awful show, by the way)

Recently she got plastic surgery. Breast augmentation to be exact.

As I was looking at random news sites, I saw this picture of the “new” Heidi in a bikini. Of course, that basic, hormone-controlled, shameful side of me immediately thought, “Nice…”

But then, I saw a comparison picture, showing her before she had gotten any plastic surgeries (a few years ago), and my heart fell. She was so much more beautiful before the plastic surgeries. She looked more real, more sweet, more innocent. Sure, her chest was smaller, sure she had a few “lines” and such, but that’s not why she was beautiful. She looked like a kind and loving person. Now she looks like one of those self-absorbed, pretentious girls that chases after money and pleasure.

 

[CountrySinger]

You’re so young and I used to think like this, but as we get older, different things that weren’t important to you at the time are important now. Like, just being healthy and having a good relationship with God and with friends and your husband and when you have kids, they just become the most precious people in your life.I think being a nurse has changed my thinking also b/c when people are sick, it really is so sad, you can’t live your life when your sick.But anyway, i’m not saying that woman should let themselves go. i am 20 pounds heavier than I was when i married and i have a few wrinkles starting but i try to put makeup on and do my hair still eventhough i’m super busy.
I’m just saying, don’t jump into plastic surgery to try to fill a void, these people that get plastic surgery when they already look good, don’t look better, they just look like they got plastic surgery. Take care of yourself and good luck

That’s why I’m losing weight, but I know I will have to get things “tucked” mostly to prevent excess skin from causing infections and looking saggy. Because infections are sexy. Lol. I wish I could find a man who thinks I’m beautiful and wants to marry me, not just “funny” and wants to be a buddy.

 

[dashso40]

That’s why I’m losing weight, but I know I will have to get things “tucked” mostly to prevent excess skin from causing infections and looking saggy. Because infections are sexy. Lol. I wish I could find a man who thinks I’m beautiful and wants to marry me, not just “funny” and wants to be a buddy.

Well, you’re right that when someone loses a lot of weight, the excess skin can easily cause an infection. Plastic surgery can be good for some things, I just don’t agree with the extremes that you see on tv. But it definitely can do good for some specific skin problems or scars or such like that. That’s great that you are losing weight. Good for you and good luck

 

[PatriceA]

Actually, I have a good example of how plastic surgery doesn’t necessarily equal greater beauty.

You’ve heard of that Heidi Montag, I’m assuming. You know one of those girls on the Hills (awful show, by the way)

Recently she got plastic surgery. Breast augmentation to be exact.

As I was looking at random news sites, I saw this picture of the “new” Heidi in a bikini. Of course, that basic, hormone-controlled, shameful side of me immediately thought, “Nice…”

But then, I saw a comparison picture, showing her before she had gotten any plastic surgeries (a few years ago), and my heart fell. She was so much more beautiful before the plastic surgeries. She looked more real, more sweet, more innocent. Sure, her chest was smaller, sure she had a few “lines” and such, but that’s not why she was beautiful. She looked like a kind and loving person. Now she looks like one of those self-absorbed, pretentious girls that chases after money and pleasure.

I think this would be a prime example of plastic surgery could be sinful. She had 10 different procedures done at the same time. And she actually wanted a larger breast size but they wouldn’t do the procedure. She was beautiful. She hadn’t been in any kind of accident or any other situation that would warrant that she “needed” 10 different procedures.

 

[dashso40]

I think this would be a prime example of plastic surgery could be sinful. She had 10 different procedures done at the same time. And she actually wanted a larger breast size but they wouldn’t do the procedure. She was beautiful. She hadn’t been in any kind of accident or any other situation that would warrant that she “needed” 10 different procedures.

I saw those before and after of Heidi Mantag and she was much more beautiful BEFORE all that plastic surgery. What was she thinking? Very unhappy person.

 

[psalm42]

I was going to mention Heidi, too! she was more beautiful before her 10 surgeries; now she looks really fake to me. It’s weird.

 

[jaimepsalm63]

How about this thought…would you change a butterfly to have the wings of a bird? While birds are beautiful in their own right…they aren’t the delicate beauty, the natural God given beauty, that a butterfly has for itself. Each creature God has created is perfect in His eyes by the design He gave them. We are created by the Father and He has made each of us to be our own unique “butterfly”. We in a sense are like snow flakes. Each one different, but each so beautiful. Do we stare at the snow flakes that fall and wish them to all look alike? I believe most of us would just watch them fall admiring them. Maybe I’m misguided, who knows…

 

[psalm42]

no, those are great analogies… and i love snowflakes!