Is your weight an issue?

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Who feels the same way I do. I am fat not obese but overweight and have been trying to loose weight for so long that I just don’t care anymore. I always felt inadequate, miserable and unhappy about my weight. And I struggled for a long time to loose the weight food was not the problem but other issues in my life. I even felt that because I was not slim and slim and could not wear sexy clothes that is why my husband decided to find a younger slim and trim girl ten years younger than me.

Then I said to myself that there is nothing wrong with me. My one friend said to me what is wrong with you, you are a beautiful, sexy and attractive women. And I envy you and wish that I was the happy go lucky person that you are. That even though I am fat that I dress better than she does and I look good. To hell with my that husband of yours he has lost the most beautiful and precious thing in this world and one day he is going to wake up and kick himself.

I was angry @ one thread whereby the issue of accommodating obese people at a get together. Why bother to invite them if they feel that they must go out of their way to accommodate these people. That they have a right to choose what this person should or should not eat. That is not their place and it is wrong and if it was me I would feel very offended. Why do people look down on other people because they are fat. What makes fat people any different from thin people. Except the way they look. It is wrong people have no right to judge anybody by the way they look whether they are fat or thin.That people rather be around positive people than negative people.

God is the judge and jury not man. The same as a person would look down at a person who is less fortunate than them. People have so much issues in their life instead of worrying about child abuse, HIV and AIDS and important issues and what could they contribute to society. Instead we get so worried about material things.

For so long I felt miserable that I was lonely and that my husband left me. I was allowing myself to be a victim and was enjoying feeling that way. I am rich God has blessed me with a job, roof over my head, two beautiful children. What more can you ask for.
People make the assumption that fat people are lazy which is so untrue. I work very hard in the Department I work in I am the one who is always on the run doing this and doing that. I am dependable, reliable, honest and truthful. And I do not care what people say about me.
 
Let me just say that I feel your pain. I am also overweight, but I have recently lost 20 lbs on Weight Watchers. (I have 40 more pounds to go.) Losing weight is a decision, and when you decide to do it, then you will start losing. I have tried every diet on the face of the earth and WW is the only one that has truly worked for me. The meetings are supportive and you learn a great deal about eating healthy. You learn that losing weight can be fun and rewarding!

About your husband, I am so sorry he left you for a “newer model.” I hope you find someone who will appreciate for you the way you are, inside and out. You seem like a good, strong mother with a good head on her shoulders.

If you want to PM me, feel free to.
 
I am slightly overweight and most of my family is obese. Then I have family who are way underweight. While I wish I could lose some pounds (and am again actively trying to lose weight), I wouldn’t trade my extra pounds (and curves) for the lack of female features many thin women posess. However, I am upset that my family never set a good example when it came to eating. They are gluttonous and passed that down by example. NOw that I’m an adult, I can no longer use that as an excuse for my weight, but I can say bad habits are hard to break. Overeating and eating food that is unhealthy all the time is a bad habit (for me, at least).
 
4 years ago I had breast reduction surgery. Over the course of those 4 years, I lost a whopping 34 pounds. I have struggled with my weight all my life. I quit smoking and gained weight. I changed from a meat eating diet to being Vegan. I walk on the average 9-10 miles a day. I was recently diagnosed with insulin resistance which makes it difficult to lose weight. The “cure” for IR is weight loss…go figure.
So I know where you are coming from. It is like being on a roller coaster ride. And sometimes all your best efforts are for naught. Fortunately for me, my BF has been an angel in all of this. He has been rock and when I want to quit, he’s there for me. Sometimes that doesn’t make my efforts easier. :rolleyes: But I get up every morning, eat my oatmeal, go for my 2 + mile walk and then head off to work, where I walk some more.
Personally, I think age has something to do with weight loss efforts. As I have gotten older, I have had more of a struggle. But one thing my dad taught me was not to give up. I won’t. And when I want to feel sorry for myself, I indulge in those candy halloween pumpkins.
Kathy
 
I was recently diagnosed with insulin resistance which makes it difficult to lose weight. The “cure” for IR is weight loss…go figure.
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I also have IR, it sucks. My fiance can eat twice the amount of food I do an not gain an ounce, but if I eat just a tiny bit more than usual, it shows up on the scale. I also have PCOS, which is closely related to IR. I hate my body sometimes!!
 
StratusRose said:
I also have IR, it sucks. … but if I eat just a tiny bit more than usual, it shows up on the scale.
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Oh my, do I know where you are coming from! I am so careful most times and yet with all the walking I do, this past week, I gained half a pound. I walk ~ 45 miles + a week.I gain 2, I lose 1, I gain 3, I lose 1. That’s how it is, and My diet varies little…except for the half a bag of halloween pumpkins I ate on Sunday :rolleyes: . I don’t know what else to do. But I won’t give up!
Kathy
 
I understand what you all are going through I just gave birth to my fourth child, and between all the children I have gain about 100 pounds, it is so hard. I pray a lot about my weight, my husband always says Crystal you are not fat, but it is not just about being fat but I want to be healthy I have four wonderful chidren to take care.
God bless you all
Crystal:)
 
I can totally relate to being overweight and feelings of anger, inadequacy, frustration, hopelessness (why bother?), and so on. My marriage did end this past summer, but he didn’t leave me for someone else and my size had nothing to do with it, so I am grateful for that.

Look, here’s how it works: eat less, move more. Now for those with physical problems, this may take more time or be more difficult. But the equation is still the same.

I have lost about 24 pounds in 12 weeks. Here’s what made a difference for me: I was unable to sleep one night, so I got up and started surfing the net. I went to richardsimmons.com and there was a place there where you can email Richard. So I just went at it. I wrote all the things I was frustrated by, all the things I had tried to lose weight, AND (this is the big one) all the ways my weight and size were affecting my life, from playing with my son, to not being able to ride my bike or take a walk without huffing and puffing, to being in almost constant foot, ankle, and knee pain.

Then this amazing thing happened: Richard wrote back! And then, through a quick series of events, he called me from his live radio program (you can also call in live). He read back part of my letter to him - the part about how my weight was affecting my life. It was in THAT moment that I finally got the impact of what I was doing to MYSELF! Nobody holds the fork but me, and food does not jump out of the fridge and force itself into my body.

Losing weight, for me, is about honoring the gift of life that God gave me. It has nothing to do with what others think, and it has little to do with how I look (though I would like to know I was offering a future husband a beautiful wife).

It’s all about CHOICE and taking action. I believe in your worth and I know that God put you on this earth for something beautiful that only you can give. But, as they say in VeggieTales, “You can’t be the superhero God wants you to be if all you ever think about is chocolate.” I can’t be the woman of God I am meant to be (at its fullest) if my health, energy level, and vitality are compromised by my extra weight.

Losing weight is fun, and sometimes it’s just a pain. But I have to ask myself everyday, “Am I committed to being the woman God created me to be or am I committed to saying this is too hard?” For years and years it has been “This is too hard.” I had to give that up to in order to lose weight.

Oh, and I found out that even though many of my colleagues are larger than me, and even though I don’t look too bad, I am actually “obese.” This is a medical distinction based on body-mass index. At 5 foot 7 inches, I won’t be just “overweight” until I’m in the 180 range. I encourage you to find out what your medical status is. You may actually be obese – but the good news is you don’t have to lose the weight alone, AND you do have the power (given by GOD) to lose the weight if you choose that.

You are in my prayers!

Gertie
 
It is not that thin people or normal weight people look down on fat or obese people…but I view it this way…it is not healthy (neither is yo-yo dieting) and people’s fattness or obesity does effect society in the cost of healthcare, time off from work do to weight related illness or other health issues etc.
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Robaynne said:
…I was angry @ one thread whereby the issue of accommodating obese people at a get together. Why bother to invite them if they feel that they must go out of their way to accommodate these people. That they have a right to choose what this person should or should not eat. That is not their place and it is wrong and if it was me I would feel very offended. Why do people look down on other people because they are fat. What makes fat people any different from thin people. Except the way they look. It is wrong people have no right to judge anybody by the way they look whether they are fat or thin.That people rather be around positive people than negative people…
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As the person who started that thread you should know it was not meant to offend, but to get some perpsective from others on this issue–which as always on these forums–came with great sensitivity and wisdom.

You might try and appreciate the other side of the coin. My thread did not concern those carrying a few extra pounds. I didn’t focus on appearance, but health. The thread specifically talked about obesity, not being modestly overweight. There is a meaningful difference.

Those who are obese, through choice and lifestyle, disrespect the very gift of their life and ordinary health. They also impose a burden of anxiety upon relatives and friends which in turn can generate some very legitimate and negative emotions, and yes, sometimes judgments. Eventually–the burden can become tangible in the form of decreased mobility, compromised health, limited lifespan.

To me, obesity raises a moral issue if an individual, through neglect or weakness of will, places him/herself–and necessarily those who care about them–in a vulnerable, even dangerous, position. Would you suggest that those who are diligent about their health and fitness, and yet have this concern and burden inflicted upon them by family members, should remain silent about it?
 
I am clinically obese. That is an issue with me and my doctor, not for anyone else. No one especially posters on this forum who have insulted me and other fat people time after time, has any idea how I got this way and why reducing is so difficult. If you are not my doctor, my specialists or my nutritionist you also have no business telling what to eat and what not to eat. To even suggest, let alone outright accuse, as has been done many times on this forum, that we who struggle with weight and related issues are sinning is arrogant and judgemental in the very worst sense Jesus warns about.
 
puzzleannie said:
I am clinically obese. That is an issue with me and my doctor, not for anyone else. No one especially posters on this forum who have insulted me and other fat people time after time, has any idea how I got this way and why reducing is so difficult. If you are not my doctor, my specialists or my nutritionist you also have no business telling what to eat and what not to eat. To even suggest, let alone outright accuse, as has been done many times on this forum, that we who struggle with weight and related issues are sinning is arrogant and judgemental in the very worst sense Jesus warns about.
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WOW :eek: …
I do not recall anybody saying that you or any other obese person was sinning…just not living a healthy lifestyle.
I am glad that you are under doctors care to help you resolve this issue!
 
puzzleannie said:
I am clinically obese. That is an issue with me and my doctor, not for anyone else. No one especially posters on this forum who have insulted me and other fat people time after time, has any idea how I got this way and why reducing is so difficult. If you are not my doctor, my specialists or my nutritionist you also have no business telling what to eat and what not to eat. To even suggest, let alone outright accuse, as has been done many times on this forum, that we who struggle with weight and related issues are sinning is arrogant and judgemental in the very worst sense Jesus warns about.
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If all you saw in this was insult or judgment you are not reading with an open mind or considering that those other than the obese themselves are affected by their condition. If your condition is not a matter of choice or lifestyle, then comments concerning that cause have nothing to do with you nor merit such a defensive response.
 
puzzleannie said:
I think I read just fine, on this thread and on the related thread about catering to obese relatives.
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Then suggest to me an appropriate perspective and/or response to someone you love who is slowly, but surely destroying their own health?
 
puzzleannie said:
I think I read just fine, on this thread and on the related thread about catering to obese relatives.
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and who here on this thread said anything like you stated? On the other thread yes their where one or two posters that held the opinion that obesity was a sin.
 
Island_Oak said:
Those who are obese, through choice and lifestyle, disrespect the very gift of their life and ordinary health. They also impose a burden of anxiety upon relatives and friends which in turn can generate some very legitimate and negative emotions, and yes, sometimes judgments. Eventually–the burden can become tangible in the form of decreased mobility, compromised health, limited lifespan.

To me, **obesity raises a moral issue **if an individual, through neglect or weakness of will, places him/herself–and necessarily those who care about them–in a vulnerable, even dangerous, position. Would you suggest that those who are diligent about their health and fitness, and yet have this concern and burden inflicted upon them by family members, should remain silent about it?
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So because I have a hormonal imbalance that causes insulin resistance, and therefore carry extra weight even though I am active and eat mostly vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and almost no sugar at all, I am immoral?!?!? And I should care more about my family and not *inflict burdens *on them?!?!?

Gee thanks a lot. I feel so much better now. :crying: :nope: :banghead:
 
Teakafrog said:
So because I have a hormonal imbalance that causes insulin resistance, and therefore carry extra weight even though I am active and eat mostly vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and almost no sugar at all, I am immoral?!?!? And I should care more about my family and not *inflict burdens *on them?!?!?

Gee thanks a lot. I feel so much better now. :crying: :nope: :banghead:
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helps if you got the WHOLE quote not just part of it…
“To me, **obesity raises a moral issue if an individual, through neglect or weakness of will, places him/herself–and necessarily those who care about them–in a vulnerable, even dangerous, position. **” i dont read this as applying to you Teakafrog
 
Teakafrog said:
So because I have a hormonal imbalance that causes insulin resistance, and therefore carry extra weight even though I am active and eat mostly vegetables, whole grains, lean protein, and almost no sugar at all, I am immoral?!?!? And I should care more about my family and not *inflict burdens *on them?!?!?

Gee thanks a lot. I feel so much better now. :crying: :nope: :banghead:
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Please go back and re-read my post #10. It says nothing about medical conditions which can cause overweight/obesity.

The fact remains that an ever-increasing number of adults (now approaching 30%) in the US are obese. They are not all the victims of medical conditions.
 
Island_Oak said:
Then suggest to me an appropriate perspective and/or response to someone you love who is slowly, but surely destroying their own health?
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“I love you and want you to be healthy. How can I help?” Might be a start.
I can’t speaking for anyone else, but I’d like to be thinner than I am. But it’s kinda frustrating when you walk @ 45-50 miles a week, eat a vegan diet, indulge only once in a blue moon and STILL the scale doesn’t move. For me, Insulin Resistance plays a BIG part in my slow weight loss efforts. I know people look at fat people and think they just can’t stop themselves. Sometimes that is true. We all have to learn to put the fork down, but a condescending attitude doesn’t help. Walk a mile of my 45 miles first.
Kathy
 
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