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Ridgerunner
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Actually, the “N” word can be a term of endearment or comeraderie, but only if both the speaker and the hearer are black. Among them, it’s sort of like “dude” among young people. It can be derogatory or not, depending on the relationship and the context.There is some subtlety in all this. I do sympathize with the position that groups can use a word that when said by outsiders is offensive. However in this case the ‘n word’ is supposedly so offensive it shouldn’t be used by anyone. It certainly shouldn’t be found liberally used in popular music.
I actually received a “license” to say the “N” word by a black motorcycle gang in St. Louis, years ago. Kind of a long story, but I did one of them a favor, and while drinking with them, I complained that while they use it constantly in their conversations, they would cut my throat if I said it. It was hard to never say it in a conversation in which it’s every other word from them, especially if we were drinking. They explained that among them, it’s not offensive, but from a white person it is because we mean it differently. I asked if they would still get angry if I meant it the same way they did. After consideration, they said that would be okay in that event. I was still reticent about saying it though.
That’s an absolutely true story. Radioactivity of the “N” word is strictly among whites. Blacks say it all the time.